Is death a big deal?

[pianistclare]

I firmly believe that those who were not ever taught about grieving, experienced PROPER grieving, or ever even attended funerals, rosaries at the funeral home or visited those who are grieving as a child have a huge problem and over the top fear of death. Adults tend to place their out of balanced views on death to their children who become overly obsessed and freaked out. It’s sad. It’s tragic at times, at other times it’s a welcome respite from pain. But the bottom line is, it’s inevitable.

People are kidding themselves if they believe that they are the only ones who are going to escape death. Escaping hell is more of a priority for me. :coffeeread:
Beyond worrying about the state of our own souls, it’s a futile activity to obsess over it.

 

[mikekle]

I am absolutely horrified and scared of Death. To me it represents the ultimate unknown and I fear it. And ironically this fear has only grown as I have gotten older, but I hope one day to finally accept it. I guess I won’t have much of a choice as I do understand that all things die. But not everyone truly lives to throw in a Braveheart quote

I am scared of death too, mainly because no one really knows what its like, in my own head, I imagine a huge explosion and all the sudden I will ‘wake up’ in some horrible place, but in this place, I will have all my senses and be able to feel pain, torment, etc.

In all likelihood though, death is probably NOTHING like anything we imagine it to be, will probably be much different than we think.

 

[CRATUS]

I firmly believe that those who were not ever taught about grieving, experienced PROPER grieving, or ever even attended funerals, rosaries at the funeral home or visited those who are grieving as a child have a huge problem and over the top fear of death. Adults tend to place their out of balanced views on death to their children who become overly obsessed and freaked out. It’s sad. It’s tragic at times, at other times it’s a welcome respite from pain. But the bottom line is, it’s inevitable.

People are kidding themselves if they believe that they are the only ones who are going to escape death. Escaping hell is more of a priority for me. :coffeeread:
Beyond worrying about the state of our own souls, it’s a futile activity to obsess over it.

My fear of death comes at night too. I know I will not escape death. Perhaps I do not want a tragic death. Maybe it is dying tragically that scares me.

 

[CRATUS]

For some reason, I am most scared at night when I’m alone with my thoughts. During a nice sunny day, the fear subsides. I’m amazed at how my Mom is or at least seems to be completely at peace with the idea of death and mortality. I plan on raging against the dying of the light until my last breath, which I hope is many decades from now. But I do accept that each moment is a gift and tomorrow is promised to no one.

The older you become or the more experiences you have with death, the anxiety leaves. Fear of death seems to spark at night.

 

[petra22]

As Catholics we believe in purgatory, where we are purged of all that is unworthy to be in God’s presence in heaven. So no, dying doesn’t change who we were, but purgatory makes us more and more the person we really are. My father was a very hard person to love, not because he was abusive but because he was very distant with a shell that was hard to break through. Since he passed away 3 years ago I like to think of him being purged of all the hardness and becoming the father he really could have been when he was alive.

What a beautiful thought about your father…!

 

[petra22]

Is it a weakness, or just a truthful recognition of our appalling fragility?

I’ve been taken to task for saying this before, but don’t much care and will say it again: Anybody who is not completely horrified by the idea of Death is a world-class self-kidder.

ICXC NIKA

even the most devout…

 

[GEddie]

The older you become or the more experiences you have with death, the anxiety leaves. Fear of death seems to spark at night.

Speak for yourself amigo (a?)

I was dragged to innumerable funerals as a child, still, the nearer I come to being dead, the more sorrowful the prospect becomes.

ICXC NIKA

 

[JimR-OCDS]

The older you become or the more experiences you have with death, the anxiety leaves. Fear of death seems to spark at night.

Yup !

Jim

 

[JimR-OCDS]

Speak for yourself amigo (a?)

I was dragged to innumerable funerals as a child, still, the nearer I come to being dead, the more sorrowful the prospect becomes.

ICXC NIKA

Attending a wake or funeral is far different then being in the presence of a person when they die.

Learning about the process of death is also something we need to understand.

Like I said earlier, I’ve see beautiful deaths and have seen those who died bad deaths, i.e. rejected God until they expelled their last breath.

There is a marked difference in both.

Jim

 

[PelagiathePenit]

even the most devout…

After all Jesus sweat blood in the garden of Gethsemane. To him he seemed to have a sense of impending doom at the crucification. Children do not fear death because they don’t understand its permanency.

 

[GEddie]

After all Jesus sweat blood in the garden of Gethsemane. To him he seemed to have a sense of impending doom at the crucification. Children do not fear death because they don’t understand its permanency.

Indeed. And then being at a funeral, forced to walk up to the body, surrounded by wailing adults, is sometimes enough to mark them forever.

ICXC NIKA