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Did I say anywhere that I went into or willingly tagged along to one of these places?? NO
Did I say anywhere that I WOULD go??? NO
Did I say that I “needed” to see other women?? NO
(Please don’t try & read into my relationship, or make assumptions/judgements about my level of respect for my wife.)
I was not “boasting”, just stating that IF the situation arose that IF I was “out with the guys” and via carpooling/taxi we wound up at a place like this, I wouldn’t have to fear bodily harm or banishment to the couch for a month just by being in the proximity of a strip-club, or guys that may like going into one.
(This is why my wife is considered “cool” with the other guys on the crew)
She KNOWS that if I was driving, or asked to meet there I would either say “Find another driver, or find another place”… as a rider I’d not go in, and either call a cab, or stop into a different pub with the 2 or 3 of the other “married old-farts” and still be home early or in time for dinner.
Thank You! Can I assume you say it’s OK because he doesn’t abuse the privilege, and you trust him?
Just two weeks ago we had a guy leave the shop. On his last day I was working with him and one other guy. The “other” guy suggested we (3 of us) go out for a good burger. After lunch he picked up the tab for the three of us…!
Total shock… why - because he is “whupped” - admits it, and everyone knows it.
And to prove it, later that afternoon (at precisely 2:15pm, afternoon coffee time, as usual) off goes his phone. His wife calling in and checking up on him. After all the “Yes, dears”, he told her that it was “Fred’s last day, and he bought lunch for him, me and himself at the burger joint… about $25 dear.”
I thought the cell phone would melt! She was hollering SO LOUD that we could hear it across the table. Watching this guy get verbally assaulted was embarrassing… for us!
Buying a guy lunch on his last day, then getting clobbered in public and going back to work with tail between the legs is whupped.
The occasional “Hon, the guys are going to stop after work and have a beer… is it OK???”… and getting “ABSOLUTELY NOT, I know what you/those guys do - I want you HOME on time!” is whupped.
Having your phone go off everyday at a precise time, and having your daily demands downloaded to you… is whupped.
Being fitted for a ring in your nose, instead of around your finger… is whupped.
Later on in the work day, they were talking about chipping in money for some work event, and a coworker made a joke to my DH saying “are you sure your wife is gonna let you have 2 dollars for that?” AAARGH!!! I hate it when people say my DH is whipped just b/c he takes into consideration what I do and don’t wanna do! Isn’t that supposed to be how a marriage works? That one person doesn’t always have the say-so, but a give-and-take? I would honestly say that we give in to what the other one wants about 50/50, but so many people say that my DH is “whipped” that maybe I am overbearing??? 
His best friend made a joke once that he was “whipped” b/c DH wanted to treat me and his best friend and wife to an expensive restaurant (Outback steakhouse) but we really don’t have the money, so I told him no. I offered a compromise that we go to a less expensive restaurant and DH gave in to me and ever since then, his friend says he’s “whipped”.
Don’t sweat it…but be mindful to not always say no…and you’ll be fine.
You know, not a friend of my husband has ever said that to him–we have pretty much always been pretty liberal with our separate social lives…the separate social lives should never exceed the time we spend together, not even remotely…but I have always been the type of wife that doesn’t say much about him grabbing a beer with his boss, or old friend…or something like this. But, at the same time, we both know boundaries…and that it should not be a frequent thing.
hee hee oops…ok…guess I left my sense of humor at the door…sorry!