I will repeat that the entire premise of the thread tends toward irrelevancy as a practical matter for the vast majority of sinners, which we all are. It is virtually immaterial – the part about “even if they don’t have Mortal sin” – because probably 98% of Catholics engage in grave matter once a year minimum, but apparently there are an awful lot of people who just don’t know that. So technically I suppose they can be removed from the mortal “sin” category due to lack of knowledge. But wow, what a lame excuse.
Let’s see: You’re not aware that there’s a laundry list of sins against charity (that most people regularly commit in some form) that are definitely mortal in matter, yet you’re quite aware that abortion, illicit sex, and missing Sunday Mass are mortal matter? Again, I will refer you to the Gospel of Matthew. Do not take my word for it. We’re supposed to follow Jesus’ words. I don’t care how many church laws there are and embellishments and interpretations to the 10 commandments (that’s 10, not 2 or 3). Those church laws may add requirements but they never, ever supplant the words of Jesus. When Jesus says, When you call your brother ‘Raca,’ it’s the equivalent of murdering him, he means it. Get it? That’s mortal. When he says you have to cleanse your heart, not just your external or technical actions, he means it. When he says that when the heart fantasizes murder, injury, revenge, or lust toward another, it’s the same as committing that act, he means it.
The area of greatest difficulty, when it comes to sanctity, is our relationships with others. That’s why even priests and nuns sin, because they live with others; they’re tempted by others, they’re irritated by others, they can retaliate when their egos are offended by others, they can lie to those others to save face, they sometimes do hurtful things to those others, they occasionally engage in egotistical power plays with each other, etc. And we, not priests and nuns, we don’t? (Please.)
Anger (not a sin in itself) is a natural human emotion. If you never have anger, I wonder if you’re alive. And the point is, that very few people are able merely to contain or funnel their anger into the proper channels, not ever in a retaliatory fashion, or to submerge or repress their anger to avoid sin.
It’s also natural (and part of self-survival) to have egos. An ego is a good or at least a neutral thing, but because of original sin, we have a tendency to glorify our own egos, resulting in self-idolatry (versus God) and in injury to other persons in the promotion and elevation of our own egos. (We have to compete with others if our ego is to remain “on top.”) There are all kinds of ways we commit mortal sin in the service of ego.
For most people, it’s also natural to want to acquire things, if you have the means to acquire things. But we live in an extremely materialistic society, driven by avarice for its own sake. Among the immense crowds of driven shoppers who have absolutely no sense of proportion when it comes to purchasing goods versus their relationship with intimate others, with God, with their civic duties, and with their responsibilities to work, are thousands of practicing Catholics putting avarice first and everything else last. Nobody here has ever lost their sense of proportion and made unholy choices? Or maybe they just “weren’t aware” and thus it was grave matter but not grave sin? (Materialism is one of the Modern Sins, just to remind you.)
Must I continue? Or do we just have a collection of The Elect on CAF? Perhaps there is one or maybe 2 posters are on this thread who considers herself or himself now beyond the reach of mortal sin. I wouldn’t have such private insight. But because most people are not “there” yet, we should consider ourselves likely candidates for mortal sins and make our examinations of conscience accordingly. I’m not talking about scrupulosity or manufacturing things to say in confession. I’m talking about thoroughness, self-searching, and honesty.