Is God using this situation to tell me I'm not called to marriage?

[nocoastlayman]

I’d be curious to know what you believe a person’s life should be like in order for them to be “meant for marriage.” What you’ve described doesn’t seem out of the ordinary to me. Everyone has their own challenges, even those who don’t appear to have a care in the world. Some measure of uncertainty is part of life.

I guess when I say meant for marriage I wonder if i’ll ever be emotionally or financially ready. With so much debt I worry that i’ll just be poor all my life and that no one will want to be with me. Also having been let go of my job, I worry all i’ll be able to get is just some ****** burger flipping job since an education degree (including the decision to get a masters.Which I did after a summer of working at a Catholic summer camp convinced God wanted me to help kids though now I wonder if I was just on a “God High” and made a stupid decision) and so that makes me wonder if I can even support a family.

Anymore I’m just scared that with this woman now that I won’t be able to support her and will have to break it off. And at this point I would just assume God doesn’t want me to be married because my stupid free will made me think I could actually get a decent job teaching when all I ended up doing was getting damned money in the hole.

 

[HungerNThirst4R]

Thats sweet of you to say but I know so many people who have a lot more friends and usually are hanging out with them or at least get together once in a while. I have plenty of people I know but only one or two close friends who I really talk to on a regular basis. I feel like I don’t have a ton of deep friendships. And are these people just socially awkward or mentally ill (not trying to be mean but I know thats what hurts my brother and sister in relationships

Im around your age and dealing with trying to get rid of debt to be able to persue a vocation, marriage may very well be your vocation. Take the job you can get, ive been going thru various odd jobs since i graduated. You have to work your way up, consider substituting on the side to make extra money as well as experience and saving.

When it comes to friendships its about quality over quantity. Ive lost many friends over the years, and didnt have many to begin with. Dont compare yourself to other people. There is nothing wrong with having people that depend on you. Id take it all slow and put all your trust in God, put your anxieties at the foot of the cross. There is ALOT in Scripture about anxiety you should look into it. I know waiting for an answer from God can be frustrating but praying more and listening closer can help, remember God meets us where we are. You may be called to marriage or you may be called to take care of your family or…you may be called to BOTH!
You are made in God’s image so please dont put yourself down .

Also, im not in the medical field but, im pretty sure males can have children well into 60s maybe even 70s. The birth defect thing is more geared toward women in advanced maternal age.

Hope this helped God Bless you.

 

[nocoastlayman]

Im around your age and dealing with trying to get rid of debt to be able to persue a vocation, marriage may very well be your vocation. Take the job you can get, ive been going thru various odd jobs since i graduated. You have to work your way up, consider substituting on the side to make extra money as well as experience and saving.

When it comes to friendships its about quality over quantity. Ive lost many friends over the years, and didnt have many to begin with. Dont compare yourself to other people. There is nothing wrong with having people that depend on you. Id take it all slow and put all your trust in God, put your anxieties at the foot of the cross. There is ALOT in Scripture about anxiety you should look into it. I know waiting for an answer from God can be frustrating but praying more and listening closer can help, remember God meets us where we are. You may be called to marriage or you may be called to take care of your family or…you may be called to BOTH!
You are made in God’s image so please dont put yourself down .

Also, im not in the medical field but, im pretty sure males can have children well into 60s maybe even 70s. The birth defect thing is more geared toward women in advanced maternal age.

Hope this helped God Bless you.

Thanks

Granted i’m a little grossed out by 60 year old me trying to date a 30 year old. Eww!