Is he going to propose?

[hasikelee]

My guess is that he isn’t going to “propose” in the definitive sense that you are looking for. If you have already been talking about marriage, and agreeing that you want to get married and have kids, he might be thinking that it doesn’t logically follow to ask you to do something that you have both already agreed that you want to do. I know it’s not as romantic, but it could be that’s the way he views it. I think the question at this point isn’t so much a “Will you marry me…” as a “When do you want to get married…” Maybe you can just talk to him about how the vagueness of it all makes you feel and how you would like to start making plans if he hasn’t changed his mind or anything.

I guess how you approach it would be different depending on whether or not he is ually a take charge, definitive type of a guy or a go with the flow easy-going sort of a guy who might need a little more prompting.

I second this. This is what happened to my and my DF. It was such a concrete thing already in our lives that proposing seemed kind of odd. He did propose, without a ring, randomly and with more charm and cheer than romance after 2 years of going out.

So you are at that timeline, good luck!

How is your relationship with him? Do you satisfy a lot of what he is looking for? I know nobody likes to think badly of someone they love, but if you’re just what he needs, he might not want to commit.

 

[chevalier]

but if you’re just what he needs, he might not want to commit.

Care to explain? That’s an intriguing thought. I’d like to know what you mean here. If someone is too good, then the other person has no incentive to commit and get upgraded?

 

[hasikelee]

Care to explain? That’s an intriguing thought. I’d like to know what you mean here. If someone is too good, then the other person has no incentive to commit and get upgraded?

I mean that if a man or woman is interested in just having needs met, but not interested in a serious, lifelong commitment, they look for the person who will care for them and meet those needs, and be strung along…

The stereotypical situation is a woman who gives in sexually to a man and that man has no intention of sacrificial, true love. He has what he wants, why would he want to be married?

But, other needs could be met in other situations, including the OP’s. He could feel wary about marriage, or not prepared for marriage, and just want a fun, cuddly girlfriend…you know a “trophy.” She may have been the strung along trophy, giving him companionship and entertainment when he was never really serious.

 

[chevalier]

He could feel wary about marriage, or not prepared for marriage, and just want a fun, cuddly girlfriend…you know a “trophy.” She may have been the strung along trophy, giving him companionship and entertainment when he was never really serious.

Well… Wouldn’t really say it were always a trophy thing, but so long as one just wants companionship and entertainment, I believe it’s better to stay friends.

 

[Pillar_of_truth]

I would urge prayer for both parties. While it seems to be probably better that the relationship was broken off, we don’t really know all of the details. Either way, it is sure to be very painful for both of them, so let us lift up our brother and sister in prayer. May they both discover God’s will for them happily and speedily!!

Augustinian, as a man, I would say to you that either your former boyfriend is an absolute saint or he isn’t the right man for you. Once a man decides that a certain woman is the one for him, there is little reason for him to delay in proposing. He is consumed with desire for his beloved, just as God is consumed with desire for us.

Commitment issues are usually either “lack of love” issues, or “nothing to gain” issues. I’m sure you know what I mean by the latter.

I am a bit puzzled by your parents thinking you are too young to marry at 25, though. That’s a bit strange.