Is he not that into me?

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OldAgeGuru said:
I’d love to hear the baseball poem 🙂 Does it have bad puns? Cause I am a sucker for bad puns.
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Usually, I’m really good with bad puns. But this poem doesn’t particularly have them.

As the daylight dies,
So the pastime reaches it’s end.
Summer’s warmth,
Autumn’s heightened crispness,
Cold Winter comes;
Baseball’s mystery, the seasons’ hope:
New Life’s Eternal Spring!
 
A very devout woman I know named Hazel was telling a group of us of how a friend of hers in highschool (let’s call her “Gretta”) really wanted to date. Gretta’s parents counselled her against it because they wanted her to finish her studies. And of course, she was tempted to date and so went to Hazel and asked her for some spiritual advice. Hazel told Gretta to obey her parents and wait because it would help her focus on her studies; Hazel said that God would have the right man for her at the right time. After highschool and even during university she made a personal decision not to date so that she could focus on her studies, though she was tempted. Soon after, because of her diligence at school, she landed a good job as well as met a wonderful man.

The man to whom she was engaged (I think she’s married to him now) was so chaste that he wanted to save all of his intimacies for marriage. Once at church the young woman felt so at awe of her fiance that she wanted to hold his hand; he lovingly told her that he wanted to save that for marriage 👍 What a gentleman! What a future husband, huh?

The person you’re with, though you’ll need to get to know him a LOT better, sounds respectful of your dignity. A chaste person is so wonderful and attractive! I hope he stays that way; I hope you can do the same for him. Lots of love,
unworthy
 
For all those who answered my questions…

Well we had our second date on Friday night and I had such a great time! He was very sweet, we had great conversation and I’m pretty sure he does like me - but still no kissing yet! But you know what, I’m really cool with that and am happy for it to stay that way for awhile. Considering my past relationships, this is a very welcome change and I’m just going to focus on enjoying my time with him. We have fun together and I really enjoy his company - I think thats enough for now.
Incidently, I prayed a rosary before we went out as I was really nervous and I just found myself afterwards praying to God, “not my will, but your will be done Lord”. I am really trying to focus on giving my life over to the Lord and trusting him to bring me what I need. This is a real struggle for me as I tend to be a little stressed out about life but I am finding a great deal of peace in letting go.
So thankyou for all the support - you guys really helped lots. Please pray for me that I continue to trust God in this.
 
Cadence, sounds like you kids are getting along just fine. . . the upshot of this is that, even though he may not conceptualize it as such, he’s courting you. He’s taking you seriously, not just as another warm body. On your end, don’t be so rushed. He’s not going away anytime soon.
 
Cadence said:
For all those who answered my questions…

Well we had our second date on Friday night and I had such a great time! He was very sweet, we had great conversation and I’m pretty sure he does like me - but still no kissing yet! But you know what, I’m really cool with that and am happy for it to stay that way for awhile. Considering my past relationships, this is a very welcome change and I’m just going to focus on enjoying my time with him. We have fun together and I really enjoy his company - I think thats enough for now.
Incidently, I** prayed a rosary before we went out** as I was really nervous and I just found myself afterwards praying to God, “not my will, but your will be done Lord”. I am really trying to focus on giving my life over to the Lord and trusting him to bring me what I need. This is a real struggle for me as I tend to be a little stressed out about life but I am finding a great deal of peace in letting go.
So thankyou for all the support - you guys really helped lots. Please pray for me that I continue to trust God in this.
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Yippee! I highlighted the best parts of your post. These are all wonderful gifts that you are simultaneously accepting for yourself, and giving to him. How special! Enjoy.
 
Arlene said:
If this is the man God has chosen for you,
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That is assuming that God has all our lives and actions pre-ordained since the beginning of time and we are just micromanaged puppets, which kinda sorta renders free will and personal responsibility useless.
 
Cadence said:
Ok, I feel really stupid asking this question but the thing is, I have really only had experience dating non-catholics who have not been very chaste. So I feel out of my depth here.

Ok, he’s a nice Catholic guy, kinda shy, only had one girlfriend before, not exactly a smooth talker if you know what I mean.

We met at at the Young Adults Catholic group a few weeks ago. The next Sunday we spent a bit of time talking, during which he asked me about what it would take to get me to say “yes” to a date. Later in the evening he asked me for my number and asked me to dinner with him.
We chatted on the phone mid-week and went out on Friday night to dinner and a movie. He came by my place to pick me up, paid for both dinner and movie. We had a lovely time and when he dropped me back at my place he kissed me on the cheek and gave me a hug. He said he would see me at church on Sunday and at the Young Adults Group afterwards.
We talked Saturday night on the phone and he read me some of his poetry, that he says he has never read to anyone else before so I should be flattered. He also compared me favourably to his ex-girlfriend.
Sunday night we sat together for Mass - he felt guilty when I went to confession before Mass since he hadn’t been in a few months and so he went too. After the Young Adults group he walked me to the train station and told me to text him when I got home so he would know that I was safe. He also said he would call me to organise going for dinner this Friday. Once again, kiss on the cheek and hug. Also walking arm in arm.

Ok, here’s my thing. Guys I’ve dated in the past would have tried to kiss me on the lips by now. Also, they would have given me lots of compliments, mostly about my appearence, where as he has really only given me compliments on my personality - oh and saying he liked my pink top and that pink was my colour.
Does this mean that he does like me, and is a gentleman, or that he just is not that into me? I am confused and am wondering if my unchaste past is giving me false expectations.
I want to have a good, chaste dating life - and he is a perfect guy for that. He is so sweet and good - and so intelligent - cute too!

Advice please!!!
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I would just be happy he keeps asking you out. if he doesn’t ask you out anymore then that is when i would be concerned he is “not that into me”

as long as he continues to ask you out its a good sign. that means he is trying to get to know you better hopefully. and hopefully you are getting to know him as well.

when he is ready to kiss you on the lips he will. maybe he wants it to be the right place and time…romantic.

maybe he has plans to kiss you on new year’s eve? just don’t go farther than that. due to timing
 
From a guy’s perspective, yes he is interested in you AND he’s trying to be respectful and gentlemanly. 👍 Good luck!
 
I think he definatly likes you.
I’m jealous! 😛

Anyway, good luck and keep us posted on further developments! 🙂
 
I recommend reading “Arms of Love” by Carmen Marcoux, available at Amazon.
Tells the story of a worldly-wise young man who meets a Catholic girl and ends up being converted, falling in love, and resolving the difficulty that he’s slept with all his old girlfriends. It’s very touching. It puts flesh and blood on the whole concept of courtship, so it’s not just theoretical.
God bless.
 
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