Is it a sin if my kids miss Mass

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When you get married in the Church, you agree to raise the children in the Faith. Both parents agree to this.
 
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Cruciferi said:
When you get married in the Church, you agree to raise the children in the Faith. Both parents agree to this.
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This is true if both partners to the marriage are Catholic. If only one is Catholic there is no requirement for the non-Catholic partner to make such a promise.

Now if the non-Catholic clearly states his/her intention to keep the children from being raised Catholic the pastor might be inclined to avoid marrying couple or require additional counseling…
 
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She shouldnt make him, but theyre dang well married. Regardless of religion, they should help each other out as much as possible
 
It’s strange how we have to tell her what to do because we got no idea what happened between them.

Meanwhile… I’m sure some Catholics claim it’s irresponsible to marry non-Catholics.
 
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It’s strange how we have to tell her what to do because we got no idea what happened between them.

Meanwhile… I’m sure some Catholics claim it’s irresponsible to marry non-Catholics.
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You can be sure about that. I’ve read it on CAF quite a few times, and experienced it in real life.
 
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Ask your husband to take them to Mass – maybe he can make this little sacrifice for you on Sunday.

If he won’t, ask another family you know at your church if they’ll take them.
 
Are they under the age of reason? If so, then it it wouldn’t be sinful, but I would still want to do everything possible to get them to mass.
 
Your spiritual needs are just as important as your children’s.
Go on the retreat, do not plan to come home early. Explain to your child that Mass is very important and that we don’t take the decision to miss it lightly, but you, as an adult, also need time to nurture your own faith and that is what you will be doing with the retreat.
Talk with your Pastor, I would ‘bet the farm’ he would agree with me and would probably give your child a dispensation, if needed.
Go on retreat, be at peace, and please do not be guilted into feeling like a bad parent. (Shame on some of you who responded!) Some of the “advice” here has me shaking my head in amazement. 😣
 
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I am really grateful for everyone responding. Homever my question was not to damn my wonderful husband who approves of me bringing up my children catholic and homeschooling them with a catholic curriculum, my question was to find out if I or my children would be sinning by not taking them and being on a catholic retreat.
Please don’t judge my husband, Our Lady is working on him gently, and beautiful changes slowly are happening.
 
OP, I have your back, here. To the rest of the posters here: I hear a lot of presumption about the nature of OP’s marriage, the vows they may or may not have taken, and what her husband should and shouldn’t be doing.

Let’s remember that we shouldn’t assume these things. As OP explained, she is a convert. It is possible she converted after she and her husband married. It doesn’t really matter. If he isn’t Catholic, he is under no obligation to take the kids 26 miles each way when his wife isn’t available. For heaven’s sake…maybe he has to work, maybe he has a chronic health condition, maybe he is already carrying the load at home and she doesn’t want to burden him with anything else. It really isn’t our business.

I think @1ke 's advice is spot on. That is what I think you should follow.
 
Thank you for your supportive words qwertygirl.
I only asked a question of sin in the incident. Instead I feel some of the responses have been more concerned with being judge and jury about my marriage. I am not going to launder my marriage on this site.
Anyway I emailed my priest and await his response. Whatever he advises I will do.
Thank you. I will pray for this site and the people on it.
 
I would say that is pretty radical. What you are implying is that for the next (at least) ten years this woman should not do anything that will preclude her from taking her kids to mass on Sunday. It isn’t as though she is taking the day off for the beach. Her spiritual health will significantly impact the spiritual health of these kids she is raising.

Nobody is saying she shouldn’t take sunday obligation seriously. I would bet the priest would give her a permanent dispensation since she lives so far away. If transportation is a problem, she can’t get there or get her kids there. This is just a practicality.

I think it is fine for her to go on a retreat with the intent of it making her spiritually stronger as a mother. The reality is, this kind of thing is part of makes people like me think the Church is over the top with rigidity. But that is just me, I guess.
 
Agreed she should consult with a priest.

Wisdom comes into play when dealing with these issues. I don’t know how wise it is to be driving when you are that sick, and then waiting in a parking lot.

I believe in each person using their best judgement. Of course that includes you and OP. And it may be that you both don’t come to the same conclusion, but it is still OK.
 
Young children are dependent on you. It is not a sin for them if there’s nobody to send them for mass. It should not interrupt your retreat, which you do not do all the times.

God bless.
 
And yet, this is not accurate. The Church does not teach “you can NOT miss unless you are VERY VERY SICK. There are no other excuses”.
 
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