I’m sorry Adam, but that is not what the church teaches, and it’s never what God has taught us,
in regards to sin and Gods law, your opinion really doesn’t matter, there is only one truth and that truth is God has created sexual pleasures for the married only, and to take those pleasures and enjoy them willingly outside of marriage, is to separate the pleasure from the purpose, it is not only impurity, it is also idolatry, and stealing,
you can go to one extreme and say it is bad to obsess over this sin and make it into a preoccupation, which is true, that is not good and not healthy,
but then the other extreme is not caring at all, which is also not good and not healthy,
the answer is, practice the virtue of temperance, which will regulate your actions and thoughts in a healthy way,
and in this case that means, when such a thing happens, try your best to fight it off, with prayer and other means, and if you fall, well, make reparation, and pick yourself up and try again, but if you do not fall, and you overcome the temptation, then you will receive more strength over these temptations,
so no, it is not something to get worried over in an inordinate way, but it is certainly something that should still be taken seriously,
it is a lack of caring that causes us to sin in the first place, and so even if this seems small to you, that doesn’t make it harmless,
because if we can’t even fight off the little things, than how can we expect to fight off the bigger things to?
true charity is the love of God above all else with all of our heart, mind, strength and soul, and to love our neighbor as ourselves for the love of God, and without that, whatever “charity” work you do is really in vain as far as your soul is concerned, as we are told in 1 Corinthians chapter 13,
so first and foremost, love God, who has told us that we love Him by keeping His commandments, and so even if good works are important, saving souls is more important, including your own.
what kind of charity is it to look after the temporal needs of our neighbor and not the spiritual needs? of course we should do both, but if we want to be true friends of God, we must take our sins very seriously, no matter how small.
the church tells us that to “deliberately take delight in any impure thoughts, desires, or actions” is mortally sinful…so perhaps this is not as small as you think.
here are some helpful aids in fighting and preventing impurity, and some prayers to, -
- Have I learned the necessity of praying daily for the grace to remain pure?
- Have I acquired the habit of saying an ejaculatory prayer when evil thoughts, desires or inclinations arise?
- Have I made regular or frequent use of the Sacraments of Confession and Holy Communion as a means of strength against impurity?
- Have I practiced any special devotion to Mary, the Virgin Mother of God, whose example and intercession are powerful aids to purity?
- Have I trained my will power for strength in temptation by practicing some form of voluntary mortification?
- Have I tried to avoid idleness, daydreaming, sloth, knowing that to keep occupied is one of the best defences against impurity?
- Have I made known even my serious temptations in confession, realizing that to reveal temptations is to gain strength against them?
- Have I been diligent in observing even the smaller rules of modesty, such as not to touch others even carelessly, and not to let my eyes wander too freely in public?
ASPIRATION: O Mary, through thy Immaculate Conception, keep my body pure and my soul holy. (300 days indulgence.) [326]
PRAYER: 0 Lord Jesus Christ, who hast said: “Blessed are the clean of heart, for they shall see God,” grant me the grace of spotless chastity. Thou didst favour St. John with a special mark of Thy friendship because of Thy great love for the holy virtue; let me practice this virtue according to my state that I, too, may be Thy special friend. I am sorry for every fault committed against purity in the past; for every undisciplined thought, for every evil word, for every sensual or impure action. For the future I promise that I shall call upon Thy name and the name of Thy Immaculate Mother in every temptation that assails me; I shall avoid every occasion of sin that might lead me to seek for sinful gratification; I shall insist on chastity in word and deed from those around me; and I shall mortify my body in order that it may be strengthened against the assaults of evil desire. Moreover, I shall try to make some atonement for all the sins that are committed against chastity in the world, which made Thy physical pain so great in Thy bitter pas-sion. I dedicate my life to the defence of this virtue, that the Christian home may be defended and protected and that many souls may be saved from the terrible condemnation that impurity must receive. O Mary, Immaculate Mother, inspire in my heart thy own great love of the virtue of purity.
“Woe to you, Scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! because you clean the outside of the cup and the dish, but within they are full of robbery and uncleanness. Thou blind Pharisee! clean first the inside of the cup and of the dish, that the outside, too, may be clean.Woe to you, Scribes and Pharisees,hypocrites! because you are like whited sepulchres, which outwardly appear to men beautiful, but within are full of dead men’s bones and of all uncleanness. So you also outwardly appear just to men, but within you are full of hypocrisy and iniquity.” (Matthew 23: 25-28 )
The church gives us the answers, and if we do not understand certain things, it is because either we are not seeking the answers, not open to them, or not praying for the knowledge and understanding of them…
alright, hope this helps, take care.
