Gosh, the figures I have read suggest that evangelical Protestants are much more likely to attend weekend worship than Catholics. Not so true of mainline Protestants, perhaps.
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And I also have the impression that many Protestants - maybe most - are more deeply involved in their churches than Catholics. That's my observation up here in the Northeast, perhaps not everywhere. So many Catholics at churches I have attended seem to make a beeline for the parking lot as soon as Mass is over, while Protestants hang around etc.
But that may be true here and not elsewhere???
Keep in mind that my husband and I were evangelical Protestant for 47 years before converting to Catholicism.
For many evangelical Protestants, church is their life. I will speak in the first person for me and my husband, but I think our experience was (and still is) typical of evangelical Protestants.
ALL of our friends were in the church. The only people we socialized with were church people, and usually those socials took place in the church. Our worship services were “fellowships,” and there were other fellowship activities that were not worship services; e.g., children’s clubs, adult Bible studies and prayer meetings, ladies missionary societies, men’s clubs, etc.
My husband and I, along with our children, were usually in the church at least 5-6 days/evenings each week. If we did have dinner (usually at home) with anyone, it was probably a church family. We didn’t really associate much with people outside of our church, although once our family got involved with figure skating, we did a lot of our socializing with these rink families–and we were called out for it at our church. People in the church thought that it was wrong of us to spend so much time in a non-church environment and openly criticized us for not being at church as much as we were at the rink.
So no wonder we hung around after the worship service–the church was our “social center,” our “gathering place.”
BUT…that’s NOT the way it is in the Catholic Church.
Catholics are divided into “parishes,” (we would call them “neighborhoods” in these modern times). The idea was that all the people in the parish would become friends because they lived close to each other. Their children would attend the parish school and that would give the families plenty of opportunities to become friends and socialize. In the past, many of the parish people shopped at the same neighborhood stores, ate at the same coffee shops, and socialized at the same bars and nightclubs.
In other words, they actually got to know each other and socialized OUTSIDE of the church doors!
This is a difficult concept for evangelicals to wrap their minds around, at least older evangelicals like me and my husband. We literally grew up in the church–we were there all the time and that’s where we socialized. We really didn’t do much outside of the church.
But Catholics socialized OUTSIDE the church, and the church was reserved for the worship of God in the Mass.
Also, keep in mind that Catholics drank alcohol, which meant going to bars or having parties at home. Until recently, evangelicals were generally abstainers, and so they didn’t go to bars or have “parties.” They had “potlucks” (or covered dish suppers) at church in the Fellowship Hall.
I think that even though evangelical social practices are changing and the people are getting outside their churches more, there are still a lot of evangelicals who know very few people outside of their church, and who do little socializing outside of their church.
So it’s no wonder that evangelicals hang around after worship services–it’s part of a long-standing social culture. And it’s no wonder that Catholics leave immediately after Mass–the idea of the church as a social gathering place and fellowship headquarters is simply not part of the Catholic social culture.
But we have to realize that both groups, evangelical Protestants and Catholics, are friendly and enjoy being with their friends. They just practice their friendships in different places. This makes it appear as though the Catholic Church isn’t as “friendly,” but that’s not true at all. They’re just friendly OUTSIDE of the church building!