Is it ok to lie if someone asks if their hair looks good?

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I’m referring to friends/casual acquaintances who it sometimes can be harder to be honest with then family.
Like just say someone dyes their hair bright blonde but has really “woggy” ) features (I can say woggy cause I’m one too) and in your view doesn’t look the greatest.
Opinions and style are subjective though so I don’t think people should even ask you this question-it’s what thy think and what they like that counts!

At the same time time,you know that with that question they are sort of asking actually for a compliment,so if you say to them “looks ok” or “everyone has their own style” etc they will be hurt…so is it better just to lie ?

People shouldn’t put you in this position in the first place in my view.
 
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Lying is always a sin, though it wouldn’t be mortal in such a trivial case, and should always be avoided.

Maybe you could try to change the subject and ask what it is they like about the new style?
 
“i could never lie”

your hairy looks “woggy”

whatever that means; i shouldn’t be on this thread & am abandoning ship

God Bless us all…
 
Answer without lying. But in a way that you are truthful but not hurtful.

Eg: ‘Your hair is so unique.’
‘Wow your hair is so different to before.’
‘Unusual idea for your hairstyle yeah.’
‘This hairstyle will definitely draw attention.’

They take it as a compliment.
 
Are you joking or serious lol?

Not “your hairy looks woggy”

Im talking about hair on head,not hairy.
 
It seems that you are not true to yourself. You need a stronger “belt of truth”.

You need to respect yourself and also respect others.

Just say, " if you like it, then I like it."

OR, “I like it, but it doesn’t fit the dresscode.”
 
Try to make an art of saying the truth by making it into something positive. It keeps your credibility intact and at the same time not being a sucker.
 
I have to say, on my list of “topics where I have a concern about committing sin”, this is way down the list in about position 1,291,412 . When God is judging you after death, I sincerely doubt he is going to be having a big discussion with you over that time you thought your roommate’s hair resembled a dead porcupine but you said “Yeah, it’s fine.” Unless you spend all day long lying to your roommate in order to gain some advantage, a hair question between friends is trivial.

But if you’re really concerned, you could always say, “It’s really original/ unusual/ striking/ will certainly get you noticed” or else “Oh, I’m a bad one to ask because that style isn’t my personal taste, so I don’t really know how to judge it. To me it just looks very edgy.”
 
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Op - you are Australian. Bear in mind most of the posters here are American and so don’t understand some of our unique Aussie-isms, including the terms ‘wog’ or ‘woggy’.

For the uninitiated, ‘wog’ is slang for people who are neither Caucasian nor indigenous Australians. It is sometimes seen as somewhat derogatory, although plenty to whom the term applies embrace it - a bit like ‘redneck’ but milder.

To say someone has ‘woggy’ hair is a negative - it’s associated with hairstyles that are overdone or overly fussy to the point of being unflattering and unattractive.

Now back to the actual question, which is whether we can tell someone that they look good if that’s not our honest opinion.

Depends - are they.truly uncertain and genuinely.seeking your fashion or styling advice?
Are they in a shop and about to.drop a serious.wad.of cash if you approve?
Is it your child who is about to drop a wad of YOUR cash?

Then by all means weigh in - but be gentle!

Have they already spent the dough and ask you as they’re just about to walk out the door with no time to.change? Then they’re looking for affirmation rather than brutal honesty. A true friend wouldn’t rain on the parade in this case. Although you could stick with a noncommittal conpliment like ‘you’d be beautiful even in a potato sack’ or something.
 
Eg:
‘Wow that is such a radical hairstyle.’

No insult or compliment given.

Say in a nice tone and the person won’t understand are you saying their hair is lovely or that their hair is in a state.
 
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Often the best solution to any situation is to think:

‘W W J D.?’

‘What Would Jesus Do?’

Sample scenario:
Peter says to Jesus: ‘Lord does my hair look good?’

Jesus: ‘Of course, your hair looks beautiful! You are made in the image and likeness of God, I told mankind this in the Book of Genesis.’
 
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If I ask your opinion, it means I value your opinion. Lie to me and I won’t trust your opinion in the future.
 
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Yikes, I looked up that word.

"Woggy is the adjective formed from wog, an offensive term for non-white people which is commonly believed to be derived from golliwog. In Australian slang, wog means “a foreigner or immigrant, especially one from southern Europe,” which accords with dago, “a Spanish, Portuguese, or Italian-speaking person.”
 
Opinions about such personal subjective matters are not truths or lies. They are just opinions.
 
I’d tell her that it looks good unless she’s a close friend of mine and we have the kind of friendship where we can be totally honest with each other without hard feelings. Most of the alternative replies given here would be interpreted as disliking the style which would end up being hurtful.
 
Start humming or singing,

You’re the Reason Our Kids are Ugly - Lorretta Lynn & Conway Twitty …
Lyrics
You’re the reason I’m ridin’ ‘round on recapped tyres
An’ you’re the reason I’m hangin’ our clothes outside on walls
An’ you’re the reason our kids are ugly, little darling
Ah, but looks ain’t everything… More

🤣
 
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