Is it ok to lie if someone asks if their hair looks good?

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It depends on the relationship, and also the way they ask. If it’s someone I only I know casually and they enthusiasticaly ask “how does my hair look” (like they’re really happy with it), I’d probably say “it looks nice”. If the person is asking because they really aren’t sure and is truly looking for feedback (and I don’t like it), I would say something like “i like your hair a little longer”, or “auburn is more flattering for your complexion”.

But in general, don’t ask a question if you really don’t want to hear the answer.
 
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I think it is better all around to just say you don’t care for that particular style.
 
No, I don’t think it’s ok to lie. I’ll often say “you know I don’t like ‘on the spot questions’”. It’s really tough to get out of these kinds of questions. Say anything, “Well, it’s something new and different, that’s for sure”. It may be as honest you can be without saying, no, I hate it!
 
You never know. Without a direct answer, you will get pressed until you finally say what you really think!
 
I considered flagging due to the word, but didn’t do it because it’s obvious that it has a slightly less insulting meaning in Australia than it does in UK (where I would definitely not use it, it’s like the N word) and of course in USA most people who haven’t spent a lot of time in UK or downunder have never heard of it.
 
There’s a few of those words with significantly different meaning or denotations british english . . .

Actually, the only reason I recognized this word was from it’s use in military SF and space opera (where it tends to be about the local planetary inhabitants by the imperial [or whatever] military). There it’s dismissive and condescending, but not racial.

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If it's a sin to lie, is it a sin to tell your girlfriend that she DOES look fat in that dress? Moral Theology
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I think this applies
 
"What matters most is whether you like it. Are you happy with it? "

If they persist, “I actually really liked your hair when it was Auburn (or whatever it was.) I think it went better with your skin tone.”
 
Just by putting someone in that spot, they will need to be ready for criticism; when I just can’t take being harassed anymore, i’ll just walk out of the room.
 
That’s the case for reasonable people like you and me 😀 who are genuinely asking for a opinion but some people seem to be more asking for a compliment.
 
I would never ask my boyfriend that.
I can’t imagine many women who not be hurt if their boyfriend said “yes,you do look a bit fat” lol.
I should know for myself if I feel “fat” in something or I would ask a sister.
 
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Honey does this dress make me look fat?
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The only rational response for a man when asked this question is to immediately jump out the window.

Hopefully, he’s no higher than the second floor, but he just can’t taketh chance . . .
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hawk
 
‘It’s less important to know what i think, more important to know what you like about it.’

Done and done … don’t lie … seek to understand
 
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Hell hath no fury, and all… I think I’d self-defenestrate in that case, even if the question was posed to another man in the room. None of us are safe.
 
I have heard that in the Uk it is apparently very offensive and takes a different meaning.
In Australia it would only be offensive if someone else called you that in an insulting way,but people of European Backgrounds (or Lebanese etc) sometimes jokingly call themselves that (eg:films The wogboy,Wogs out of work etc).

I used it as a description term because I thought everyone would know what I’m referring to,but as this site has members living in all different countries, I have found out that doesn’t seem to be the case as it is an Australian Colloquial reference.

“Wog” can be used in Australia for anything from Eastern European,Ex Yugoslavs to Italy,Greece or Lebanese etc.
Personally I am from Croatian (Ex Yugoslav) background but the “features” I am referring to in this question would be something more like “strong dark greek features”.

My dad strongly dislikes the “wog” word because he associates it with in the 60’s when he emigrated to Australia and it was used in a racist way.
Nowadays it is used more “loosely” in Australia or even “owned” with pride (unless of course someone is not a very nice person then they still may use it as an insult).
 
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yes people need kindness in life. a compliment from you is like a compliment coming from Jesus. You should not be judging anyway.
 
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