All these responses to your question are, in my view, excellent, and I hope you see them that way as well.
What I keep forgetting, in my petition prayers, is that God is always NOW. We humans have created time and time is important to us. We live in time. God doesn’t. That’s why the Eucharist instituted by Chirst 2,000 years ago is also happening on our altars today. God is timeless.
When we pray, we can pray for ourselves or our loved ones for situations that happened in the past as well as situations that will happen in the future or right now. It’s all the same to God.
That’s why we talk about prayers being answered “in God’s time.” Our urgency is not urgent for God.
We also know that God often answers our prayers of petition in a way that we do not appreciate at the time. Only later, in hind sight, do we come to understand why our prayer was answered the way it was.
When we are desperate, we want help now and we want a solution to the problem now. That may not happen the way we want it to, but that does not mean God has not heard you or has other plans for you.
You are in a serious dilema and I will add my prayers to yours, asking for a reasonable solution.