Is it wrong for a Catholic woman to work and have a family?

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I just wonder because a lot of times I hear how more traditional Catholics have families where the dad works and the mom stays at home. While think that stay at home moms are ridiculed in our society and should be WAY more appreciated, is it wrong for Catholic women to work and have a family, or am I just some flaming liberal here (BTW i’m hardly a womens rights type of guy, I just think if a wife has a family and wants to work, go ahead. In fact i’d probably rather have my wife work since i’m a teacher and I don’t make much money.) I just feel conflicted because i’m drawn more to traditional catholicism, but don’t necessarily want the housewife type of girl to marry.
I think its rather an exaggeration that stay at home mums are ridiculed. All mothers have stayed at home at some time or another for varying periods.

No, it is not wrong for a woman with children to work outside the home.

Why wouldn’t you be for women’s rights?
 
I hardly think this is the case. Stay at home moms work extremely hard. Harder than some mothers who actually have jobs. I meant this in the terms society uses. Trust me, I’ve never known a lazy stay at home mom
I know you didn’t mean it, but the words we use sometimes carry unintentional messages. Labels matter and we should find ones that are precise, but don’t carry negative implications. Not that I have the perfect one figured out myself. Best I’ve come up with is Stay Home Moms as compared to Career Moms.
 
I really don’t know what to make of these labels. Who comes up with that these days anyway? Last time I checked being a *faithful Catholic *meant doing God’s will, desiring holiness and picking up the cross along the way. Not sure where all this extra stuff about women and work comes in. I really don’t see why you should marry a housewofe type of girl if you don’t want to.
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The traditionalist forum is about discussing traditions of the church - hence the name. Many of them have been neglected or forgotten. Us mad trads like to learn about them in order to enrich our faith life. Perhaps you could go over and check it out. All the weird threads about women tend to take place on this forum for some reason.
I’ve been on that neck of the woods a few times.

I have come across at least ONE thread on there where multiple members were trying to say it’s against Catholic values for moms to have work outside the home.
 
I think its rather an exaggeration that stay at home mums are ridiculed.
Agreed. My mom is a stay at home mom, I myself tell people all the time that I want to be a stay at home mom, and I’ve NEVER heard anything negative whatsoever against this decision. 🤷
 
Technically, no it isn’t wrong. There are many single women out there that are the sole provider to her children.

What is very important is how you raise your children and if you make sure to raise them good Catholic with good human values.

If you can afford to stay home during the early age of your children, you should make the sacrifice because the mother can understand well her child (she needs to have a bound of course).

Luxury should always take the back seat but at time, it isn’t a choice and the women has to work.

Hope every women that wish to be stay home, will be able to do so.
 
I’ve been on that neck of the woods a few times.

I have come across at least ONE thread on there where multiple members were trying to say it’s against Catholic values for moms to have work outside the home.
Thats what i’m talking about. Why does it seem like (and sorry to generalize) but many trad catholics think women should not work outside the home. Its one thing to want to stay home. Its entirely another for a man to tell his wife she can’t work. To me thats a little cruel.
 
I just wonder because a lot of times I hear how more traditional Catholics have families where the dad works and the mom stays at home. While think that stay at home moms are ridiculed in our society and should be WAY more appreciated, is it wrong for Catholic women to work and have a family, or am I just some flaming liberal here (BTW i’m hardly a womens rights type of guy, I just think if a wife has a family and wants to work, go ahead. In fact i’d probably rather have my wife work since i’m a teacher and I don’t make much money.) I just feel conflicted because i’m drawn more to traditional catholicism, but don’t necessarily want the housewife type of girl to marry.
YES IT"S WRONG!!! Just kidding. I’m a working mom and if I’m in the wrong…oops 😛
 
Thats what i’m talking about. Why does it seem like (and sorry to generalize) but many trad catholics think women should not work outside the home. Its one thing to want to stay home. Its entirely another for a man to tell his wife she can’t work. To me thats a little cruel.
It’s extremely cruel. It’s a decision that needs to be made mutually. No one spouse has “more authority” than the other.
 
An example on semantics: Anybody ever notice that NOBODY in the media uses the term “pro-life” to describe us? Yet they have zero problem supporting the (at least as) biased term “pro-choice.” Yes, the argument can be made that it’s unfair to imply that anyone that supports legal abortion is “anti-life.” But’s it’s also unfair to characterize those opposed to abortion as “anti-choice,” a term that actually DOES get used at times in media.

The same dynamic is at work when people use the term “working mom.” Intend it or not, you are slapping moms not paid wages for their work in the face.

I’ve got it, how about “Bacon Bringin’ Moms!” 😃
 
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Thats what i’m talking about. Why does it seem like (and sorry to generalize) but many trad catholics think women should not work outside the home. Its one thing to want to stay home. Its entirely another for a man to tell his wife she can’t work. To me thats a little cruel.
It’s extremely cruel. It’s a decision that needs to be made mutually. No one spouse has “more authority” than the other.

Exactly.
 
In a word: No.

However, I’m a working mom, but would give my left arm to be a stay-at-home mom right now (and always). I have the job that pays the best, so I work full time and it has caused a lot of tension, sadness, resentment, and lack of understanding in my marriage. My husband loves being a “stay-at-home-dad” because he loves his kids, but it is taking a toll on him and myself. He has moments where he feels less like a man, and I have many moments where I disagree with how he parents. We have tiny babies with a 3rd on the way, so the added tension of another one doesn’t seem to help us lately.

P.S. I hope I didn’t distract too much from the purpose of this thread. I’m merely offering a view, and while we have no other option in our family, I wish it WAS wrong to be a working mom so that I could be home with my little ones. I’d give almost anything and my husband could use some “man” time to himself. Every family dynamic, perception, and need is different though.

In my personal opinion, if you can afford for at least one of you to be home with your children, you should do it, especially in the early years of child development. These are the most impressionable years of their lives.
 
Dearly beloved friends,

Cordial greetings and a very good day.

First, the whole notion of a bread-winning husband and home-making wife is a family pattern that is firmly rooted in Sacred Scipture (see Titus 2: 4,5). This arrangement, which gave stability to both the family and wider society, has sadly been gradually abandoned, reaping a bitter harvest in terms of family breakdown and emotionally damaged children. Only by a diminuition of Christian principles could our current situation ever have become possible, a situation where children frequently come home from school to empty homes (‘latch-key children’) and where mothers are no longer available as full-time guides and carers, always on hand to counsel and console and sharing in the daily ups and downs of young life in sympathy and understanding.

Whilst, dear friends, I do not think that we can argue that it is intrinsically evil for a woman to work and have a family in every single circumstance, I do not believe that it is desirable or in the best interests of the children. As the Catechism of the Council of Trent states: “The wife should love to remain at home, unless compelled by necessity to go out; and she should never presume to leave home without her husband’s consent”. Thus, for example, if a husband has a long term physical or mental health problem that precludes him from working, then there may be a necessity for the wife to go out and earn a living if possible.

Pope Leo XIII’s Encyclical, Rerum Novarum, clearly favours the position that a married women will ideally be a ‘keeper at home’ and care for her husband and children:

“Women, again, are not suited for certain occupations; a woman is by nature fitted for home-work, and it is that which is best adapted at once to preserve her modesty and promote the good bringing up of children and the well-being of the family”.

It should be observed, dear friends, that Pope Leo does not establish his remarks upon any social circumstances or customs which can and do indeed change, but rather upon the nature of woman, which never changes from one generation to the next. Again, although it is manifestly obvious to housewives themselves, many others, especially today, overlook the fact that being a housewife* is* work. In Pope Leo’s remarks the Church acknowledges it as such, thus when other subsequent Popes speak of ‘working women’ we ought to see that as not excluding being a ‘keeper at home’ or homemaker.

Unfortunately, dear friends, owing to a barrage of aberrant feminist propaganda, especially since the permissive Sixties, woman have been made to feel unfulfilled and somehow incomplete unless they are a part of the workforce. This is a monumental tragedy of the first rank and is actually demeaning to women because it is tacit denial of the true ‘nature’ of womanhood. How very sad it was last year to hear Cherie Blair (wife of the former UK Prime Minister and a professing Catholic) launch an astonishing attack on women homemakers, warning that it was ‘dangerous’ for women to rely upon their husbands. Moreover, she criticised what she termed “yummy mummies” (where do they get these silly phrases from?) who marry wealthy men and put their energies into rearing children rather than concentrating on their careers. How deeply saddening to hear such remarks from someone who professes the holy religion of Christ!

God bless.

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I just want to know… who are all these guys that are earning enough to let their wives be housewives?

My bro does it, but he’s stinking rich.

Otherwise, maybe it’s just my area which is somewhat pricy, but it seems exceedingly difficult.
 
My question is it wrong for a Catholic man to work and let the mom do EVERYTHING!

I bring this up because a mom on my son’s Little League team is mom to four kids under 6, including a newborn and I have yet to see the dad at any practice or game. She is always there trying to corral the younger three kids as best she can, but for some reason the dad can’t make it for even 15 minutes to watch his son play at 9 a.m. on a Saturday morning or 7 p.m. on a Wednesday or to practice at noon on Sunday?

And no, he’s not in the Army or overseas or anything. I’ve heard the wife talk about him being there. But he’s really not there. At all. It just gets my goat.
 
My question is it wrong for a Catholic man to work and let the mom do EVERYTHING!

I bring this up because a mom on my son’s Little League team is mom to four kids under 6, including a newborn and I have yet to see the dad at any practice or game. She is always there trying to corral the younger three kids as best she can, but for some reason the dad can’t make it for even 15 minutes to watch his son play at 9 a.m. on a Saturday morning or 7 p.m. on a Wednesday or to practice at noon on Sunday?

And no, he’s not in the Army or overseas or anything. I’ve heard the wife talk about him being there. But he’s really not there. At all. It just gets my goat.
Is it possible that that is just one responsibility she has and that he helps her with the child care in other ways?
 
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