Is Love really the greatest? (1 Corinthians 13:13)

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You make a serious accusation, Ben2, and I wonder what I am to do. How can I convince you that the person you describe who deserved to be banned is not me?
Oh it is not such a serious accusation. People have been banned before no big deal. They just come up with a different name and sign back on again just as you have done. I know a few who have done that so you’re not the first. I even knew someone who has 3 going at the same time. 🙂
I suppose the first step is to not be surprised but to be grateful. I’ve been praying that I would learn Wisdom, and now my prayer is answered. For what better way to become wise than to put my ideas to the test and see if I pass. And here is my test: Jesus said,
“Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you.”
(Matthew 5:11-12)I’m not saying you are intentionally making a false accusation. I’m sure you are sincere, but sincerely wrong. The wise thing to do is to not get mad, but be glad that I’m wrongfully accused. For this will give me an opportunity to put what P7 and Ryan and others have taught me about Love and Wisdom to the test.
Sorry, but this really doesn’t work for me.

You are Socrates4Jesus alright. The style of writing, the kind of reasoning, even the pictures.
 
Ben2:

I’ve no doubt that you sincerely believe me to be this person you describe. But if you take time to hear me out, you might change your mind. Please listen to what I have to say.

You say that this person you accuse me of being was “not really interested in learning, but merely to twist things around.” In my opinion, such a person might certainly deserve to be banned from the Forum. St. Paul himself warned the young priest Timothy about those"… who are loaded down with sins and are swayed by all kinds of evil desires, always learning but never able to acknowledge the truth."

(2 Timothy 3:6-7)So I endeavored to demonstrate that I’m not like that. I explained that I’ve learned a lot from P7 and Ryan in this discussion thread. But if you don’t have the time to read our discussion, that’s OK. Perhaps you will have the time to consider this:

You say that you encountered this person you describe in a discussion thread about the Eucharist. From the sound of it, he did not believe in the Real Presence, and was unwilling to learn. But, if you will look at my response in this discussion thread, you will see that that is not what I believe at all:

forums.catholic-questions.org/showthread.php?t=416344

Please read post # 7, there, and tell me if I sound like a person who “is always learning but never able to acknowledge the truth” that the Eucharist is the Real Presence. Do I not, rather, sound like a person that not only believes, but also defends what he believes?
You know what I think? The gentleman doth protest too much. And that post, well you only posted that after I mentioned the Eucharist thread.

You wrote there that: “What made me decide to return to Catholicism were Jesus’ words in the sixth chapter of John’s Gospel.”

Well you have not really returned because you call yourself CLOSET Catholic. Much like Soc4Jesus who is a fence sitter. And how did you know that the debate I was talking about was John 6?🙂

So let it rest. And just enjoy debating the others. 🙂
 
Ben, Ben. All I can ask is what Jesus Himself asked:

“If I said something wrong,” Jesus replied, “testify as to what is wrong. But if I spoke the truth, why did you strike me?”

(John 18:23)

You accuse me of not believing in the Real Presence. I’ve shown that I do. You slander me by saying I’m only interested in winning some debate and not in the finding the truth. My last reply in this discussion thread to P7 and Ryan, as well as other replies, show that this accusation is also unfounded. Regarding your criticism that I’m one who is not yet a Catholic but wants to return to Catholicism, are there not many people here who meet that criteria with whom you don’t find any fault? Please tell me, then, what crime have I committed that warrants you to strike me?

🤷
 
… Wisdom is NOT greater than Love, because:
  • Wisdom is generation for the sake of an essence, and that essence is Love
  • Wisdom is a means to a wise end, and that wise end is Love
  • Wisdom is a cause of a good effect, and that good effect is Love
  • Wisdom discerns God’s will, and God’s will is Love
  • Wisdom guides us toward our ultimate goal, and that ultimate goal is Love
Ryan and P7 (and anyone else):

Do you think that Wisdom has helped us give birth to the living truth about her and her sister virtue Love? Or are you of the opinion that this idea is stillborn?

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Has Wisdom helped deliver newborn truth?
 
Hi spockrates. I hope you do not mind if I barge in, but I really am scratching my head why you think Love is not the greatest virtue…and it seems you are pitting it against Wisdom. I have not read everything yet, but may I start with these, uhm, tests?
Before we end our dialog, I think it good to revisit our six tests. For this will help us recall why Love is fairest of all.

The 1st test:

The greatest virtue is the only virtue, for all other virtues are examples of her.

We found that Love failed this test. For many things that are the will of God are examples of Love, but some things are not. Some acts considered wise and God’s will are not loving. A police officer who shoots and kills a perpetrator of a crime in self defense does so wisely, for it is prudent and just to protect oneself from harm. But his act is in no way a selfless act of love for the one shot.
Uhm, wait, a police officer who shoots and kills a perpetrator of a crime in self defense is NOT doing an act of love? First of all, a police officer is doing an act of love just by doing his or her job well. Jesus said,

“If you love me, you will keep my commandments.” John 14:15

Now, a police officer has the vocation to protect and serve the citizenry from lawless men and women, including and especially himself/herself, for if he/she is severely injured or dead then there is one less person to protect the said citizenry. That is his/her calling, which comes from God. Therefore, someone’s vocation is what one may consider the “standing orders” of God to that someone. Therefore, any action that furthers his/her vocation is an act of love, because he/she is keeping the Lord’s commandments for him/her.
And we might find many examples where an unloving act is a wise act and not against the will of God. Thus, not all acts that are God’s will are examples of Love. But all acts that are God’s will are acts of Wisdom. But Wisdom does not pass this test, either, for Wisdom is not an emotion, like Love, so any example of Love cannot possibly be an example of Wisdom.
Love, or at least Christian love, which is properly called charity, is not an emotion, but it is seated in the will of the person. You say that love is
  • an emotion
  • a motivation
  • a decision
  • an action
Love, or at least Christian love, cannot be called as such without the last item: action. Indeed, of all of those components, emotion is the least important of them all. Charity can act without or against emotion, and it is apparent with the actions of the Church’s saints during their times of what is called their “dark night of the soul.” In recent times, this was most apparent in the life of Mother Teresa of Culcutta: catholiceducation.org/articles/facts/fm0106.htm
The 2nd test:

The greatest virtue is the one who causes all other virtues.

We find that both Love and Wisdom fail this test. For some acts of Love are not wise. An act motivate by love (such as the granddaughter who helps her grandmother commit suicide) might be unwise and against the will of God. And some acts of Wisdom are not loving. As St. Paul said, if we have knowledge but do not love, our Wisdom is worthless in God’s eyes.
Now this had me scratching my head. Wisdom, or Prudence, is the mother, the source of all virtues. You cannot have Charity without Prudence. From that definition alone, you cannot Love (properly defined) without Wisdom. All acts of Charity must be wise, or they cannot be called as such.

And yet I cannot agree that the greatest virtue is the “one who causes all other virtues.” For that means this virtue is the “basic” virtue: it is required to have all the other virtues, but it also is the most common virtue, the lowest of them all. Charity, being a theological virtue, is rarer. In fact, it is the pinnacle of virtues: it is the hardest to acquire, yet the most desirable of them all. Add that with the fact that Charity perfects, inspires, orders, and makes easy all the other virtues (CCC 1827) and you have what is called by some theologians the “super-virtue.”

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The 3rd test:

The greatest virtue is the only virtue necessary to bring us closer to God and heaven.

Neither virtue has victory over the other, here, though both are certainly winners. For both the power to Love that God gives us and the Wisdom God gives us are necessary to bring us closer to Him.
On the contrary: you may receive the Wisdom of God, but it still falls on you whether you act on that Wisdom or not. For remember, when you act on that Wisdom, it automatically becomes Charity. And to not act on that Wisdom is, well, nothing.

Read Matthew 25:31-46. Here is a link.
The 4th test:

The greatest virtue is the one who will be with us forever after death.

Again, we have a tie. Love and Wisdom both receive the gold medal, as both will be at our side for ever and ever.
Hmm, I cannot argue with that.
The 5th test:

The greatest virtue is the one who makes us most like God.

At first glance, Love appeared to be the victor over Wisdom, because St. John the Apostle wrote, “God is love.” Yet, we know that God is not only loving, but also wise. And there are some acts that God commits that are not loving, though they are definitely just, and therefore wise (for Justice, we found, was a kind of Wisdom). Judging unrepentant sinners, for example, is in no way an act of love for the ones judge, but it is an act of justice. So God is Love, but He is also Wisdom. And Christ appears to agree, for He said He was the Truth.
No, Charity is truly what makes us like God. For as was said previously, as Charity is seated in the will, it must have action; and if action, then it must always have consequences. Thus, Charity always bear fruit. And as the Lord God says:

“For as the rain and the snow come down from heaven,
and return not thither but water the earth,
making it bring forth and sprout,
giving seed to the sower and bread to the eater,
so shall my word be that goes forth from my mouth;
it shall not return to me empty,
but it shall accomplish that which I purpose,
and prosper in the thing for which I sent it.” Isaiah 55:10-11

And Justice is not always loving? God’s Justice always is loving, because all of the acts of the Justice of God are always for the love of the oppressed.
The 6th test:

The greatest virtue is the one we desire above all, because nothing we desire compares to her.

After much exertion in competition (and a great deal of exertion ourselves in judging the competitors!) we gave Love the gold medal, here. For although it might have been true for Solomon that nothing he desired compared to Wisdom, it is not true for us. For after Christ came, died and rose again, he gave to us the Holy Spirit and the power to Love as God loves. Love, we found, is superior to Wisdom. For Wisdom is only a means to an end, and that end is Love.
Got that right 👍
 
Ben, Ben. All I can ask is what Jesus Himself asked:
“If I said something wrong,” Jesus replied, “testify as to what is wrong. But if I spoke the truth, why did you strike me?”

(John 18:23)You accuse me of not believing in the Real Presence. I’ve shown that I do. You slander me by saying I’m only interested in winning some debate and not in the finding the truth. My last reply in this discussion thread to P7 and Ryan, as well as other replies, show that this accusation is also unfounded. Regarding your criticism that I’m one who is not yet a Catholic but wants to return to Catholicism, are there not many people here who meet that criteria with whom you don’t find any fault? Please tell me, then, what crime have I committed that warrants you to strike me?

🤷
Okay shall I bring out the violin now? Or was that playing in the background while you were writing this? :rotfl:

What I said was you are Socrates4Jesus and you know you are. And based on my past debate with you it really was not worth the effort. I am sure you know which debate I am talking about. Marsha, FathersKnowBest and Joe thought the same thing.

Maybe this time around you will try to learn because you have been found out and now you know that someone is on to you.

So friend this is my last response to you on this subject. I refuse to play your game and I am unsubscribing from this thread.

So Ciao.🙂
 
Ben, Ben. All I can ask is what Jesus Himself asked:“If I said something wrong,” Jesus replied, “testify as to what is wrong. But if I spoke the truth, why did you strike me?”

(John 18:23)You accuse me of not believing in the Real Presence. I’ve shown that I do. You slander me by saying I’m only interested in winning some debate and not in the finding the truth. My last reply in this discussion thread to P7 and Ryan, as well as other replies, show that this accusation is also unfounded. Regarding your criticism that I’m one who is not yet a Catholic but wants to return to Catholicism, are there not many people here who meet that criteria with whom you don’t find any fault? Please tell me, then, what crime have I committed that warrants you to strike me?

🤷
Oopps before I say Adieu, let me post here two posts on the thread you started regarding Jesus’s ambiguity.
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twb1621:
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joe370:
You are wasting your breath with Socrates, I’m afraid. Christianity is nothing more than an exercise in slow motion urgency, to him…He has helped me realize my shortcomings though: must spend less time here and more time at church; thank you Soc for your unwitting advice…👍
Too much time on his hands. He could have used it to read the Bible more often.
 
Hi spockrates. I hope you do not mind if I barge in, but I really am scratching my head why you think Love is not the greatest virtue…and it seems you are pitting it against Wisdom. I have not read everything yet, but may I start with these, uhm, tests?
Nun:

You are not barging in at all! I’m glad to continue the dialog if it will get me closer to the truth!

👍

The tests were not just my own, but those suggested by others, as well as myself. As someone proposed a reason why Love is the greatest, I added that to the list of tests. If you have another reason why Love is the greatest of all virtues, please let me know.

🙂
Uhm, wait, a police officer who shoots and kills a perpetrator of a crime in self defense is NOT doing an act of love? First of all, a police officer is doing an act of love just by doing his or her job well. Jesus said,

“If you love me, you will keep my commandments.” John 14:15

Now, a police officer has the vocation to protect and serve the citizenry from lawless men and women, including and especially himself/herself, for if he/she is severely injured or dead then there is one less person to protect the said citizenry. That is his/her calling, which comes from God. Therefore, someone’s vocation is what one may consider the “standing orders” of God to that someone. Therefore, any action that furthers his/her vocation is an act of love, because he/she is keeping the Lord’s commandments for him/her.
Yes, gunning down a shooter to protect an innocent bystander or other potential victim would indeed be an act worthy of being called self-less love. But is killing for the sake of self-defense selfless? St. Paul the Apostle writes:

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking … .”

(1 Corinthians 13:4-5)

The apostle appears to be making a distinction between the virtue of selfless Love, and the natural love of oneself. Our Lord also says this:

“You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? And if you greet only your brothers, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.”

(Matthew 5:43-48)

I find it interesting, but not surprising, that the one who died for you and me equates self-sacrifice with moral perfection. To not shoot in self-defense, I think, is more akin to loving one’s enemies. But I suppose it is more difficult to turn the other cheek when the risk of being mortally wounded is so great! And I do not think it a sin to kill in self-defense; I consider it a wise and moral act. But killing, rather than turning the other cheek, is in no way an act of loving the one who is killed. Do you see what I mean?
 
… Love, or at least Christian love, which is properly called charity, is not an emotion, but it is seated in the will of the person. You say that love is
  • an emotion
  • a motivation
  • a decision
  • an action
Love, or at least Christian love, cannot be called as such without the last item: action. Indeed, of all of those components, emotion is the least important of them all. Charity can act without or against emotion, and it is apparent with the actions of the Church’s saints during their times of what is called their “dark night of the soul.” In recent times, this was most apparent in the life of Mother Teresa of Culcutta: catholiceducation.org/articles/facts/fm0106.htm
Fascinating! While I agree that the virtue of Love is not merely emotion, I cannot fathom how she can be devoid of compassion. Please explain why you believe Love has no feeling of affection for the one loved. This is a new concept I’d like to understand.

🙂
Now this had me scratching my head. Wisdom, or Prudence, is the mother, the source of all virtues. You cannot have Charity without Prudence. From that definition alone, you cannot Love (properly defined) without Wisdom. All acts of Charity must be wise, or they cannot be called as such.
Yes, that is the conclusion reached. The reason being is that Wisdom has no emotion, but Love always has compassion. Therefore, Wisdom cannot possibly be the same as Love. Prudence, or doing what is wise and in one’s self-interest, does not appear to fit the proposed definition of Love, which is both selfless and compassionate. Rather than being a kind of Love, Prudence is more likely a kind of Wisdom. However, if you were to prove that Love has no compassion, this logical argument would collapse like a house of cards! For it stands on the premise that Love always has selfless emotion.

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And yet I cannot agree that the greatest virtue is the “one who causes all other virtues.” For that means this virtue is the “basic” virtue: it is required to have all the other virtues, but it also is the most common virtue, the lowest of them all. Charity, being a theological virtue, is rarer. In fact, it is the pinnacle of virtues: it is the hardest to acquire, yet the most desirable of them all. Add that with the fact that Charity perfects, inspires, orders, and makes easy all the other virtues (CCC 1827) and you have what is called by some theologians the “super-virtue.”
Yes, I completely agree with you, there. Generation is not as great as essence. The virtue that causes another exists for the sake of the one caused, and therefore cannot be greater.

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On the contrary: you may receive the Wisdom of God, but it still falls on you whether you act on that Wisdom or not. For remember, when you act on that Wisdom, it automatically becomes Charity. And to not act on that Wisdom is, well, nothing.

Read Matthew 25:31-46. Here is a link.
Yes, I agree with you. I should have been more clear and explained that it I was speaking of Wisdom in the most perfect sense–Wisdom that is not just potential, but is actual by virtue of her actions.

👍
Hmm, I cannot argue with that.
Not sure I understand. Do you not agree that Love and Wisdom will be virtues we will possess in Eternity?
No, Charity is truly what makes us like God. For as was said previously, as Charity is seated in the will, it must have action; and if action, then it must always have consequences. Thus, Charity always bear fruit. And as the Lord God says:

“For as the rain and the snow come down from heaven,
and return not thither but water the earth,
making it bring forth and sprout,
giving seed to the sower and bread to the eater,
so shall my word be that goes forth from my mouth;
it shall not return to me empty,
but it shall accomplish that which I purpose,
and prosper in the thing for which I sent it.” Isaiah 55:10-11

And Justice is not always loving? God’s Justice always is loving, because all of the acts of the Justice of God are always for the love of the oppressed.
Yes, I partially agree. Justice is indeed an act of loving the one’s protected from those judged. However, I’m having difficulty understanding how Justice is an act of love for the objects of such judgment. I mean, how can causing someone to burn in hell for ever and ever be considered a loving act? Is it not a righteous act of deserved condemnation rather than love?

🤷
Got that right 👍
If I got it right, it’s only because people like you, P7 and Ryan set me straight!

😃
 
Okay shall I bring out the violin now? Or was that playing in the background while you were writing this? :rotfl:

What I said was you are Socrates4Jesus and you know you are. And based on my past debate with you it really was not worth the effort. I am sure you know which debate I am talking about. Marsha, FathersKnowBest and Joe thought the same thing.

Maybe this time around you will try to learn because you have been found out and now you know that someone is on to you.

So friend this is my last response to you on this subject. I refuse to play your game and I am unsubscribing from this thread.

So Ciao.🙂
I see. So you are saying I’m misrepresenting myself, but that I might not be like I used to be.

Would you also say that one who misrepresents oneself should never be forgiven? I mean, do you think that you should never have a relationship with one found guilty of misrepresentation? (It’s OK if you don’t want to answer. But I’ll continue to wonder what your answer might have been.)

🙂
 
Nun:

You are not barging in at all! I’m glad to continue the dialog if it will get me closer to the truth!

👍

The tests were not just my own, but those suggested by others, as well as myself. As someone proposed a reason why Love is the greatest, I added that to the list of tests. If you have another reason why Love is the greatest of all virtues, please let me know.

🙂
Hmm, lemme think about it 👍
Yes, gunning down a shooter to protect an innocent bystander or other potential victim would indeed be an act worthy of being called self-less love. But is killing for the sake of self-defense selfless? St. Paul the Apostle writes:

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking … .”

(1 Corinthians 13:4-5)

The apostle appears to be making a distinction between the virtue of selfless Love, and the natural love of oneself. Our Lord also says this:

“You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? And if you greet only your brothers, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.”

(Matthew 5:43-48)

I find it interesting, but not surprising, that the one who died for you and me equates self-sacrifice with moral perfection. To not shoot in self-defense, I think, is more akin to loving one’s enemies. But I suppose it is more difficult to turn the other cheek when the risk of being mortally wounded is so great! And I do not think it a sin to kill in self-defense; I consider it a wise and moral act. But killing, rather than turning the other cheek, is in no way an act of loving the one who is killed. Do you see what I mean?
Remember what I posted earlier:
Now, a police officer has the vocation to protect and serve the citizenry from lawless men and women, including and especially himself/herself, for if he/she is severely injured or dead then there is one less person to protect the said citizenry.
You said you already have a family. So if you let yourself die so easily from a perpetrator’s attack, is not that an act of injustice, and therefore an act against charity, to them? They love you, and they need you. You must at least fight for your own life so that you can still love them, support them in this life.

Remember what Jesus said:

“Teacher, which is the great commandment in the law?”
And he said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.
This is the great and first commandment.
And a second is like it, You shall love your neighbor as yourself.
On these two commandments depend all the law and the prophets.” Matthew 22:36-40

You cannot love selflessly without first loving yourself.

continued…
 
Fascinating! While I agree that the virtue of Love is not merely emotion, I cannot fathom how she can be devoid of compassion. Please explain why you believe Love has no feeling of affection for the one loved. This is a new concept I’d like to understand.

🙂
It is simple really. There are times that all of your emotions are against doing what is right (for example, forgiving someone who greatly wronged you). And yet when you still do that right thing, even though all of your passions, all of your being, is against that choice, that is charity.

In fact, that is the very definition of a theological value: it is supernatural, it can go against your natural inclinations, because it does not come from you, but comes from Divine grace. No amount of natural practice or ability can give one Charity if there is no Divine grace.

G. K. Chesterton speaks of this most eloquently: “To love means loving the unlovable. To forgive means pardoning the unpardonable. Faith means believing the unbelievable. Hope means hoping when everything seems hopeless.”
Yes, I agree with you. I should have been more clear and explained that it I was speaking of Wisdom in the most perfect sense–Wisdom that is not just potential, but is actual by virtue of her actions.

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Let me just quote from a famous commentary on St. Thomas Aquinas’ Summa Theologica:

It might be well, here, to rule out the modern confusion of love with mere sentiment. Long, happy sighs, a dazed expression, or copious tears shed at a movie may mean no more than a low, an exceedingly low I.Q. Love, if it be worthy of a human being, must have something rational in it; after all, it proceeds from man’s rational appetite, his will. Yet charity is often far from reasonable. A cursory reading of the lives of the saints will impress us immediately with their divine madness, their attempts at impossible things, which nevertheless they accomplished. To say that charity is rational is like saying a mathematical genius is good at arithmetic. Reason is not the rule of charity as it is of the human virtues. Charity is regulated only by the wisdom of God Himself.

For charity exceeds all nature, aiming at God Himself; so, of course, it exceeds all reason.

, 1940.A Companion to the Summa
Not sure I understand. Do you not agree that Love and Wisdom will be virtues we will possess in Eternity?
Wisdom is a deep understanding of people, things, events or situations, empowering the ability to choose or act to consistently produce the optimum results with a minimum of time and energy. Since we will be united with God in Heaven, the Source of Wisdom, we will not only retain our wisdom, but also perfect it.

Charity, on the other hand, is a divinely infused habit, inclining the human will to cherish God for his own sake above all things, and man for the sake of God. Since we will be united with God, we will infinitely cherish Him, and thus our Charity will also be perfected.
Yes, I partially agree. Justice is indeed an act of loving the one’s protected from those judged. However, I’m having difficulty understanding how Justice is an act of love for the objects of such judgment. I mean, how can causing someone to burn in hell for ever and ever be considered a loving act? Is it not a righteous act of deserved condemnation rather than love?

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The thing is, to sin gravely without contrition until death is what merits Hell. With all the graces and opportunities given by God during one’s lifetime, to consistently and gravely sin until death is to refuse God’s love. Therefore upon death God will give what the impenitent sinner what he/she obviously wants: eternal damnation. And to grant what one wishes is an act of charity.

On the other hand, Purgatory is also a manifestation of God’s Charity, for in Purgatory all the effects of sin on one’s soul, all the impediments to Charity, are burned out by God’s Love, so that in Heaven one can finally love God in full joy and happiness.
If I got it right, it’s only because people like you, P7 and Ryan set me straight!

😃
Well, I hope you do spockrates. I’ll be praying for you 🙂
 
… Remember what I posted earlier:
Originally Posted by nuntym View Post
Now, a police officer has the vocation to protect and serve the citizenry from lawless men and women, including and especially himself/herself, for if he/she is severely injured or dead then there is one less person to protect the said citizenry.
Agreed, Nun. But I’m not speaking of myself. I’m speaking of a police officer who has no family, and no friends, for he is new to the police department. In this example, killing a gunman is not an act of selfless love, it’s an act of self preservation. It might be wise, for it is prudent and just, but it is in no way loving the one who is gunned down and killed. But I’m wondering this: Do you believe that an act can never be moral unless motivated by selfless love?
Remember what Jesus said:

“Teacher, which is the great commandment in the law?”
And he said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.
This is the great and first commandment.
And a second is like it, You shall love your neighbor as yourself.
On these two commandments depend all the law and the prophets.” Matthew 22:36-40

You cannot love selflessly without first loving yourself.

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Perhaps you are correct. But I’m thinking that what makes Love a virtue is when it takes on the divine quality of self-sacrifice for the benefit of another. But perhaps I’m wrong? I suppose one way to find out would be to compare a life devoted only to loving others with a life devoted to only loving oneself. Do you think both lives are pleasing to God? Or is the sacrificial life the kind that He wants for you and me? Jesus said this,

“Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.”

(John 15:13)

and this,

“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”

(John 13:34-35)

It seems to me that to love others as He loved us, we must adopt the kind of love that sometimes results in suffering, rather than benefiting, ourselves. Jesus wants us to practice is a love that puts the needs of others above our own–the kind of love that that loves others as he loved us. It seems to me that His suffering on the cross was not an act of self preservation. But what do you thinl? Would you say the kind of love that is pleasing to Him is the self-preserving kind, or the self-sacrificing kind?

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It is simple really. There are times that all of your emotions are against doing what is right (for example, forgiving someone who greatly wronged you). And yet when you still do that right thing, even though all of your passions, all of your being, is against that choice, that is charity.
Yes, well, I mentioned my aunt. After describing her, you suggested that we pray for her, as she lacked love. But my aunt is one who will commit an act one might think was loving, but she does it with a frown on her face. While she does the right thing, I doubt that she is doing it for the right reasons.

Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.

(Romans 12:9-10)

writes St. Paul the Apostle. I wonder if a so-called loving act, that is not accompanied by sincere compassion, deserves to be called Love. To treat a person right, but to continue to loath him, is not love–it’s veiled hatred. Isn’t it? I mean, when Jesus prayed on the cross,

“Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.”

(Luke 23:34)

did our Savior have no compassion at all? Or do you think His emotions matched His words?
In fact, that is the very definition of a theological value: it is supernatural, it can go against your natural inclinations, because it does not come from you, but comes from Divine grace. No amount of natural practice or ability can give one Charity if there is no Divine grace.
Yes, I agree. But I also wonder: What can be more supernatural than feeling compassion for those who hate you? Isn’t this what makes Love divine? Isn’t this the kind of Love Christ had for you and me?

But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

(Romans 5:8)
G. K. Chesterton speaks of this most eloquently: “To love means loving the unlovable. To forgive means pardoning the unpardonable. Faith means believing the unbelievable. Hope means hoping when everything seems hopeless.”
Agreed. Love must be sincere by loving the unlovable with both compassion and action, I believe.
Let me just quote from a famous commentary on St. Thomas Aquinas’ Summa Theologica:

It might be well, here, to rule out the modern confusion of love with mere sentiment. Long, happy sighs, a dazed expression, or copious tears shed at a movie may mean no more than a low, an exceedingly low I.Q. Love, if it be worthy of a human being, must have something rational in it; after all, it proceeds from man’s rational appetite, his will. Yet charity is often far from reasonable. A cursory reading of the lives of the saints will impress us immediately with their divine madness, their attempts at impossible things, which nevertheless they accomplished. To say that charity is rational is like saying a mathematical genius is good at arithmetic. Reason is not the rule of charity as it is of the human virtues. Charity is regulated only by the wisdom of God Himself.

For charity exceeds all nature, aiming at God Himself; so, of course, it exceeds all reason.

Walter Farrel, O.P., “Charity and the soul of man: Its object and origin,” Chapter III, Volume III, A Companion to the Summa, 1940.
Yes, it is completely unreasonable to have compassion for one’s enemies and to sacrifice one’s only Son to benefit them. I completely agree: There is indeed something unreasonable about God’s love for you and me!

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Wisdom is a deep understanding of people, things, events or situations, empowering the ability to choose or act to consistently produce the optimum results with a minimum of time and energy. Since we will be united with God in Heaven, the Source of Wisdom, we will not only retain our wisdom, but also perfect it.

Charity, on the other hand, is a divinely infused habit, inclining the human will to cherish God for his own sake above all things, and man for the sake of God. Since we will be united with God, we will infinitely cherish Him, and thus our Charity will also be perfected.
Are you saying that Wisdom is not divine, is not infused, is not a habit, does not incline one to cherish God for His own sake above all things, and does not incline one to cherish others for the sake of God?

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The thing is, to sin gravely without contrition until death is what merits Hell. With all the graces and opportunities given by God during one’s lifetime, to consistently and gravely sin until death is to refuse God’s love. Therefore upon death God will give what the impenitent sinner what he/she obviously wants: eternal damnation. And to grant what one wishes is an act of charity.
Perhaps allowing someone to be eternally tormented in Hell is an act of divine love for the one who suffers for ever and ever without end. Amen. But I have my doubts. Please consider this example:

The same police officer who shot and killed the gunman finds herself in a different situation the next day. She is at the top floor of a tall building looking out the window at a determined woman who is standing on a ledge and saying she has decided to jump to her death. The woman explains, quite calmly and rationally, that she has made up her mind that this is what she wants to do, and asks the police officer to not interfere.

“The most loving thing you can do,” she says unemotionally, “is to let me die.” The police officer wants to love the woman by saving her from death, but it is obvious the woman is refusing such love. She worries that trying to save the woman might result in their both falling to their deaths! And there are no innocent bystanders who might be hurt in the street below.

Would you say the truly loving thing to do to act according to, or against, the will of the one wanting to commit suicide?
On the other hand, Purgatory is also a manifestation of God’s Charity, for in Purgatory all the effects of sin on one’s soul, all the impediments to Charity, are burned out by God’s Love, so that in Heaven one can finally love God in full joy and happiness.

Well, I hope you do spockrates. I’ll be praying for you 🙂
Yes, I agree with you, there! The lack of Purgatory in Protestant theologies is one reason why I eventually found Protestantism untenable.

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I’m enjoying the conversation and hope you will continue, Nun, if you have the time. I also appreciate your prayers, for God knows I need them!

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Agreed, Nun. But I’m not speaking of myself. I’m speaking of a police officer who has no family, and no friends, for he is new to the police department. In this example, killing a gunman is not an act of selfless love, it’s an act of self preservation. It might be wise, for it is prudent and just, but it is in no way loving the one who is gunned down and killed. But I’m wondering this: Do you believe that an act can never be moral unless motivated by selfless love?
No, even maintaining your own self can be, and is, moral. Everyone has a moral obligation to take care of one’s self, because you cannot lose something you do not have in the first place. You must have a self to lose to love selflessly.
Perhaps you are correct. But I’m thinking that what makes Love a virtue is when it takes on the divine quality of self-sacrifice for the benefit of another. But perhaps I’m wrong? I suppose one way to find out would be to compare a life devoted only to loving others with a life devoted to only loving oneself. Do you think both lives are pleasing to God? Or is the sacrificial life the kind that He wants for you and me? Jesus said this,

“Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.”

(John 15:13)

and this,

“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”

(John 13:34-35)

It seems to me that to love others as He loved us, we must adopt the kind of love that sometimes results in suffering, rather than benefiting, ourselves. Jesus wants us to practice is a love that puts the needs of others above our own–the kind of love that that loves others as he loved us. It seems to me that His suffering on the cross was not an act of self preservation. But what do you thinl? Would you say the kind of love that is pleasing to Him is the self-preserving kind, or the self-sacrificing kind?

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The love that Jesus wants from us is the love He requires of us in each moment we are in. Remember we are called the Church Militant, and like all soldiers we are called not only to fight, but also capable of fighting. There will be times that we have to strengthen ourselves, and times to use that strength against the enemy. There are times we have to take care of our lives, and times to give up that life whenever the Lord commands it.
Yes, well, I mentioned my aunt. After describing her, you suggested that we pray for her, as she lacked love. But my aunt is one who will commit an act one might think was loving, but she does it with a frown on her face. While she does the right thing, I doubt that she is doing it for the right reasons.

Do not judge other people, spockrates, especially on things only they could ever know.

Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.

(Romans 12:9-10)

writes St. Paul the Apostle. I wonder if a so-called loving act, that is not accompanied by sincere compassion, deserves to be called Love.
One cannot control emotions, for they come and go. But one can control the reactions to his/her emotions. There will be times that you cannot feel compassion, but those are not excuses to be compassionate, to act compassionately.
To treat a person right, but to continue to loath him, is not love–it’s veiled hatred. Isn’t it?
It is, but only if you do not try your best to change that loathing to compassion.

This story of St. Therese of Lisieux comes into mind:

One of my favorite St. Thérèse stories is that in the convent, Thérèse disliked intensely one of her fellow nuns, confusingly named Teresa of Saint Augustine. In her spiritual memoir, Story of a Soul, Thérèse described this fellow nun as “a Sister who has the faculty of displeasing me in everything, in her ways, her words, her character.” But instead of avoiding her, Thérèse sought out this nun at every turn and treated her “as if I loved her best of all” – so successfully that the sister once smugly asked Thérèse, “Would you tell me…what attracts you so much toward me; every time you look at me, I see your smile?” After Thérèse’s death, the disagreeable nun said with great complacency, “At least I can say this much for myself: during her life I made [Thérèse] really happy.”

Teresa of Saint Augustine never suspected that she was the disagreeable sister described in Story of a Soul until thirty years later, when the chaplain, in a fit of exasperation, told her the truth.

Source

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I mean, when Jesus prayed on the cross,

“Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.”

(Luke 23:34)

did our Savior have no compassion at all? Or do you think His emotions matched His words?
I cannot ever judge what Our Lord felt towards His executors while hanging on the cross, but I am quite certain that if He ever felt any hatred against those people, He would have stamped it down with His will and His own compassion for them.
Yes, I agree. But I also wonder: What can be more supernatural than feeling compassion for those who hate you? Isn’t this what makes Love divine?
Maybe, but I think it is more divine, more supernatural, to act lovingly with someone you hate with your whole being, to have your whole insides screaming, kicking, crying that no, I am not going to be good to that monster! but you do it anyway all for the love of God.
Isn’t this the kind of Love Christ had for you and me?

But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

(Romans 5:8)
Not all the time. For we can also read these words of His from Revelation:

"`I know your works: you are neither cold nor hot. Would that you were cold or hot! So, because you are lukewarm, and neither cold nor hot, I will spew you out of my mouth. For you say, I am rich, I have prospered, and I need nothing; not knowing that you are wretched, pitiable, poor, blind, and naked. Therefore I counsel you to buy from me gold refined by fire, that you may be rich, and white garments to clothe you and to keep the shame of your nakedness from being seen, and salve to anoint your eyes, that you may see. Those whom I love, I reprove and chasten; so be zealous and repent.

“Behold, I stand at the door and knock; if any one hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and eat with him, and he with me. He who conquers, I will grant him to sit with me on my throne, as I myself conquered and sat down with my Father on his throne. He who has an ear, let him hear what the Spirit says to the churches.’”

Revelation 3:15-22
Are you saying that Wisdom is not divine, is not infused, is not a habit, does not incline one to cherish God for His own sake above all things, and does not incline one to cherish others for the sake of God?

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Uhm, wait a minute, I said that?
Perhaps allowing someone to be eternally tormented in Hell is an act of divine love for the one who suffers for ever and ever without end. Amen. But I have my doubts. Please consider this example:

The same police officer who shot and killed the gunman finds herself in a different situation the next day. She is at the top floor of a tall building looking out the window at a determined woman who is standing on a ledge and saying she has decided to jump to her death. The woman explains, quite calmly and rationally, that she has made up her mind that this is what she wants to do, and asks the police officer to not interfere.

“The most loving thing you can do,” she says unemotionally, “is to let me die.” The police officer wants to love the woman by saving her from death, but it is obvious the woman is refusing such love. She worries that trying to save the woman might result in their both falling to their deaths! And there are no innocent bystanders who might be hurt in the street below.

Would you say the truly loving thing to do to act according to, or against, the will of the one wanting to commit suicide?
Remember what I said earlier:
The thing is, to sin gravely without contrition until death is what merits Hell. With all the graces and opportunities given by God during one’s lifetime, to consistently and gravely sin until death is to refuse God’s love. Therefore upon death God will give what the impenitent sinner what he/she obviously wants: eternal damnation. And to grant what one wishes is an act of charity.
Well, this police officer is obviously the carrier of one of the opportunities God has given to this poor woman. It is this officer’s duty at this very moment to make the woman reconsider what she is about to do, or even stop her against her own will, so that God’s will of giving her another opportunity would be fulfilled.
Yes, I agree with you, there! The lack of Purgatory in Protestant theologies is one reason why I eventually found Protestantism untenable.

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What is quite amusing for me is that Protestants acknowledge this need to be free of the effects of sin before going to Heaven; they however don’t call it Purgatory, they call it glorification.

Well, if it is a banana, then it is a banana, however you call it, I’d say 😉
I’m enjoying the conversation and hope you will continue, Nun, if you have the time. I also appreciate your prayers, for God knows I need them!

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Glad to help! And I’d appreciate if you pray for me too, spockrates. We all need those 👍
 
No, even maintaining your own self can be, and is, moral. Everyone has a moral obligation to take care of one’s self, because you cannot lose something you do not have in the first place. You must have a self to lose to love selflessly. …
OK, let’s please slow down and try to listen to, and understand, one another. (I like to kid that God gave me two ears and one mouth to remind me that I should listen twice a much as I talk!)

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Sorry for being unclear, but I did not intend to imply that self love is immoral. I was asking if you think there is a difference between self love and selfless love. Is one kind of love better than the other? Why or why not?

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