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A_Augustinus
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I believe your premise is incorrect. It simply isn’t possible that sexual desire = the sin of lust. Sexual desire is often compared to hunger or thirst, and for good reason. Sexual desire is simply a physical appetite of the body. As such, it has no moral character in itself. A sin requires conscious deliberation and choice. Thus, sexual desire cannot be a sin in itself.Well- penance is a sacrament. But it does not meand God wants us to sin, and so need to use the sacrament of sin.
Now, lust is a sin. As a result of lust (i.e. sexual desire), people get married. Marriage as a sacrament was instituted as a remedy for the sin of lust.
Yes, just as it is better not to sin, and not to need the sacrament of penance, so it is better not to be succumb to the force of lust, and to remain celibate.
Assuming we can agree on that point, let’s move on to the next logical progression. Suppose we define the sin of lust as a conscious choice to experience or feel sexual desire. Is that a plausible definition? In this case, I think it’s important to ask: What is the moral basis for saying that willingly sustaining this physical appetite is sinful? If a hungry man willingly revels in his desire to have a good meal, has he sinned? If not, why would we define the willful experience of one physical appetite as sinful, while another is not?
In most cases I can think of, we define a willful desire as sinful when its object is sinful. For example, If a person desires to destroy his brother’s reputation, and he willingly revels in the desire, he has committed a sin because his desire is directed toward something morally wrong. Therefore, if we say that any willful acceptance of sexual desire is sinful, we are implying that sexual intercourse is always sinful. The church has never taught this, and it would be contrary to natural reason. Humans are innately sexual beings. It would be exceedingly strange for God to create two complimentary sexes if sexual intercourse was not part of his plan.
But if sexual intercourse is not always sinful, that seems to imply that it’s not always wrong to willingly engage in sexual desire. If that’s true, the question becomes: When is sexual intercourse morally acceptable? The church has always taught that it is acceptable within marriage. Of course, it also states that any use of sex that is contrary to love is morally wrong. Therefore, clearly, it is not morally wrong for a married person to willingly experience sexual desire in a way that is compatible with love.
One could object that any willful sexual desire for an unmarried person is sinful, but as long as the desire is ordered toward marriage and love, that seems incorrect. Once again, a willful desire is sinful only when its object is sinful. Therefore, willful desire for fornication would be immoral, but willful desire for sex within marriage, as long as it is compatible with love, is not sinful. Thus, there is no sin for an engaged couple to willingly desire sex after they are married.