Is modesty overrated?

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Think about the salvation of men’s souls first sweetheart before inviting them to sin with lustful thoughts.
 
Modesty is so underrated as previous users have stated.
First, modesty in dress is important for not only the eyes and minds of others (whether it be women or men because believe me, women can get distracted by other women’s cleavage being out in an unsexual way) who see you but also for your own sense of dignity. I saw somewhere (I believe it was the justahandmaiden blog or Instagram) that God would never look at one of His daughters and call them sexy. He’d call them beautiful because that’s what He created them to be. You can still look pretty, feminine, attractive, etc. and be modest! Modesty doesn’t mean having a feed bag on! It means veiling what is sacred and that is our bodies. Of course, there are socially acceptable times to not veil everything like swimming where you can get a modest swimsuit.
For your first question about girls who are immodest are getting all the likes: likes and follows don’t mean something is truly good. Likes and follows usually come from something being outrageous/scandalous, trendy/viral, or good/beautiful. The people who like those girls are more than likely using one of God’s creations, however humanly altered it might be, for gratification. Society has taught us that women are supposed to be objectified like that and that putting your sacred body out there for all to see is going to get you what you want, whatever that might be.

All I can say about the family man type doing that is that it’s sad. Perhaps they’re struggling with lust or are being influenced by society to think of women in that light and don’t realize that they are creations of the Father and should be treated with dignity.

Sexy is not a term I like to use for men or women, how about attractive, handsome, cute, beautiful? Sexy, in my mind, is really for sexualized dress and looks. I think in a way, a woman can dress “sexy” for her husband maybe in the bedroom? But if that’s her goal outside of the house, she’ll be getting way more attention than from just her husband.
A woman can be attractive by her smile, her sense of dignity, her laugh, the way she dresses with respect for herself, her hobbies and interests, etc. it shouldn’t have to be from looks only but with society breeding us to be attracted to looks, that’s what humans go for.
So perhaps humans need to realign their values for what is physically attractive about a person and how that goes with their morals.
The poor girls on Instagram are not known for their personalities but for their bodies and that is NOT what God made them for.
I know this is jumbled but just keep in mind that Likes and Follows don’t mean something is good. Modesty is not overrated, it’s a beautiful thing that encompasses body and mind and should be brought to the forefront more often. Humanity needs to reassess their actions and start treating people as people and not just images on a screen that are physically attractive.
 
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Social media does seem to draw out the narcissistic tendencies of people.

What better way to gain attention than by being immodestly dressed, especially if you have the body for it.
 
I think it also draws out the desire to “fit in” with all the other famous social media models. You get attention, you feel good about yourself for a while, it’s a whole cycle 😦
 
As one of the saints wrote: ‘Just because everyone else is doing it, doesn’t mean it’s right.’

Bible new testament quote of Jesus:
Romans 1 ‘And since they did not see fit to acknowledge God, God gave them up to a debased mind to do what ought not to be done.’ ‘They not only do those things but give approval to those who practice them.”

‘The way of the world is at enmity with God. He who is friends with the world is at enmity with God’
‘One cannot serve two masters.’
 
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tweedlealice said:
I have a Center or conscience. I see
Something, I’d know it was wrong. You shouldn’t expose your mind to Mediums that show sensual dress or lifestyles and embolden girls. These venues make you think, what they show is normal. I walk to a different drummer. I didn’t date. Why? These teen boys could grow up to go to jail or be rich.
Teen years are, for some, all about sex w hormones raging. HS should be about learning a career you wish to embrace.
We need to go back to boys and girls segregated schools. I should research, who order schools to integrate boys and girls together HMMMM
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My point was that society has almost obliterated morality as we USED to know and have. Unfortunately, secularism is the new religion in society today
 
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kgmlg said:
Now let a muslim woman wear that in a muslim country. This is trouble.
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Speaking of Muslim women. In those countries where Sharia law and custom dictate the wearing of burkhas, I assume there is no mal treatment of women because of dress. I take it Muslim men are ALL highly respectful of women and would never harm a woman of any persuasion and culture?

The responses of some of the above posters that absolute abhor sexuality in any form are just more fuel for the fire in portraying Catholic values as beyond Puritanical. Any wonder why so many leave the CC or won’t consider becoming a part when they read the responses of the “witch burners.”? Or maybe I’m wrong and all the responses are regarding teen age boys and their perceptions??
 
joeybaggz said:
The responses of some of the above posters that absolute abhor sexuality in any form are just more fuel for the fire in portraying Catholic values as beyond Puritanical. Any wonder why so many leave the CC or won’t consider becoming a part when they read the responses of the “witch burners.”
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Are you saying God is asking too much when He asks men and women to reserve certain body parts for the eyes of their spouse in marriage?

Are you saying that the teachings of the saints, mystics, Doctors of the Church, the Fathers of the Church, and the Popes; are puritanical?

Jesus did say in scripture: ‘Only the pure shall see God.’
 
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YoungCatholicGuy said:
Jesus did say in scripture: ‘Only the pure shall see God.’
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I believe “pure of heart” was part of that quote.
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God is asking too much when He asks men and women to reserve certain body parts for the eyes of their spouse in marriage?
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Yea, but didn’t God see that all He created was GOOD? Some of the posters are getting hysterical about cleavage. I hate to inform everyone, but women have breasts, something quite obvious. And looking isn’t a horrible sin. It is what you do with looking that determines that.

I remember seeing in National Geographic magazine when I was a kid, tribes in Africa where women wore nothing above the waist. And everything worked pretty well in that society. It was simply the norm.

Human sexual desire is good. It is the way we are wired and guess who (God?) did the wiring. It is when the good is corrupted by malice and intent that sin enters the picture. That is a choice. One man can look at a picture of a nude woman in a girlie magazine and think, nice, then go mow the backyard long. Another can look at a woman in a burkha and then rape an infidel wearing a cross on a chain. Modesty is in the mind; there is a great difference between appreciation and lust.
 
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You should look into that, and the start of co-ed dorms at colleges. All of this was promoted. It did not happen by itself.
 
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An observation. Back in the late 1970’s (at the height of the sexual revolution) there was a sitcom on U.S. television called WKPR om Cincinnati. There were two lead female characters, Jennifer who was the blond bombshell, va-va-voom girl; the sexpot, and Baily Quarters, the shy assistant. Bailey was played by an actress named Jan Smithers. The character Bailey was shy, unassuming, always dressed very modestly, unlike Jennifer. The actress, Ms. Smithers was a very lovely young woman. The upshot was, if you asked ten guys in a bar who were familiar with the program, who they were most attracted to, I know eight of them would have said the Bailey Quarters character. I know, because I actually did this. There was a wonderful feminine quality about her that men found attractive, and without the cleavage and the booty call.
During the height of the sex rev, modesty won out. Men are attracted to lovely women who dress modestly, and carry themselves with an air of dignity and honor. Was then, is now.
 
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Modesty is not overrated. Modesty is up to each individuals walk with God, to find a pathway that allows them to walk in their faith as best they can and how they see fit.

The bigger question is, how are you going with your journey?

So many are so eager to look and comment on what others are doing (or not doing) that they forget about their journey with Christ.

Are you comfortable with what you wear? If so, mind your own business unless others ask you for your opinion. If not, pray on it and ask yourself why. If what others wear affects you so much, ask why.

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I always dressed (and still dress) as I like it, even if some teenage relics (shorts) went to the second hand store when I past the early 20s. I never liked dressing slutty, but elegant and yes, attractive. Now as I live in a city where you see ultra-short hotpants with bra tops on almost everyone, as well as ungroomed men in shorts, I noticed that I dress more covered. It´s protest, to be honest. I ike the idea to be church ready in my dress most of the time.
 
That was always the girl I wanted to be with. Yes, there were some attractive women who I found were not so nice when I got to know them. Being feminine and dressing modestly go together. And the way a woman carries herself is very attractive if done with dignity.
 
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Except for a few who take modesty to extreme levels it is usually the other way around.
 
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