Is porn damaging to marriage

[RockAndHoops]

Just to clarify for Ruthie, I don’t believe in my mom’s advice one bit! I know that even the chaste relationship I had, when problems came up about anything at all, it was communication that prevented us from reaching any solution. I think the same would be true of the physical (sexual) side of marriage. Maybe that’s where the “instruction” comes in. I hope that the only person I learn from is my wife (even though I’ve struggled with the sexual sin of this post, I’m still clueless, thank God ).

 

[Michael_T]

When I saw this post, I thought, duh!

Of course porn is bad for married people. It’s objectively a serious sin for anyone, married or not, to deliberately view or use pornography for sexual gratification or curiosity.

I can only think of one instance where it wouldn’t be a sin, and that is to look at it and/or use it to prosecute crime.

Porn is very bad.

 

[Psalm45_9]

Wow, look at the amount of men that voted that porn destorys marriages.

 

[Loser]

No option for porn not being a sin? But it depends on the couple if or if not porn would be good for their relationship.

 

[felra]

Loser:

No option for porn not being a sin? But it depends on the couple if or if not porn would be good for their relationship.

The poll is geared for believers.

 

[justice]

There is no room in a marriage for porn. To me it’s in the category
of drugs and everything that is illegal, ill-moral and unheathly. I stay away from it

 

[ega]

wisdom 3:5:

My marriage came crashing down because of my husband’s porn addiction. It started there and moved on to affairs. Our marriage will never be what it was and we struggle to stay together. I loved my husband so much, now I am numb most of the time.

Yes, porn is damaging to marriage.

To be technically accurate you mean “porn was damaging to MY marriage”

 

[ega]

Methodology folks.

If porn is ‘obviously damaging’ you will outline the process by which that damage is done, and you will demonstrate the inevitability of that damage.

 

[MariaGorettiGrl]

To ega and all those saying ‘it depends on the couple’:

Did you know not everyone who gets hit by a car dies? Some people just break a few bones or get badly bruised. Some people survive just fine with only a little damage. So let’s all go out and get hit by cars! It’s only hurt SOME people. It’s only if you believe you’ll get hurt that anything bad will happen.

Seriously, you don’t let yourself get hit by a car because not everyone dies. In the same way, it’s silly to risk life long pain for you and others just because “not everyone suffers serious problems”.

Personally, I find it to be a serious problem if you have nothing better to do with your life than watch other people have sex. I’d rather watch grass grow. At least I’d have more control over when that popped into the front of my mind.

I’ve never been exposed to porn (Praise God!), but just the stuff on TV is sometimes bad enough to get into my head and tempt me. I can’t control when it pops into the front of my mind and sometimes I have trouble getting it out of my forethoughts. Anything that has that much control over you doesn’t leave you a free person, and a slave is never a happy, healthy person.

Did I mention that not everyone dies of cancer either?

 

[Jay74]

Porn is really bad for the thought process in marriage. If I were to engage in porn, I’d end up fantasizing about women who appear superior to my wife. What I mean by appear is that my wife doesn’t have (nor do I have) physical trainers, make up artists, choreographers, scripts, scripted responses, reshoots when something doesn’t go right, etc. I’d be comparing her to people who aren’t real who are impossible to match in real life.

I’d say the same if it were reversed. I certainly can’t match in real life what the men in those films would display in fantasy.

Because of fascination with porn, spouses all over the world are compared to seemingly perfect encounters and falling short. Not fair to their spouses, and horrible for the thought process.

 

[Gottle_of_Geer]

rayne89:

Ok since there’s a thread that’s been going on with a husbands viewing of porn at the center of the arguement what is your view on pornography’s effect on marriage?

Regardless of its effects on a marriage, it is a bad thing. We become like what we think about.​

 

[Fergal]

No spouse can ever compete with the images created by porn.

Therefore the spouse of the one who views it will always be seen as in the second place.

For a spouse to be in second place in a marriage, to anything, undermines the marriage and eventually, if not rectified, leads to marriage breakdown.

 

[ega]

Fergal:

No spouse can ever compete with the images created by porn.

Therefore the spouse of the one who views it will always be seen as in the second place.

For a spouse to be in second place in a marriage, to anything, undermines the marriage and eventually, if not rectified, leads to marriage breakdown.

Interesting.

Personally I think most men can tell the difference between their fantasies and reality.

I also believe people turn to porn when their relationship is in trouble. As an escape from the grim reality.

Perhaps porn is a symptom not a cause…but its easy to criticise and so gets the blame.

 

[RockAndHoops]

ega:

Interesting.

Personally I think most men can tell the difference between their fantasies and reality.
The fact that fantasies about someone else are there is a problem in and of itself. A spouse should only be desiring his/her spouse, not anyone else.

I also believe people turn to porn when their relationship is in trouble. As an escape from the grim reality.

Perhaps porn is a symptom not a cause…but its easy to criticise and so gets the blame.
Sometimes it can be a symptom, but that does not mean that it is permissible, morally okay, or anything good. It is seen as a way to remove oneself from troubles, but instead it hatches many other troubles and in turn causes the marriage to degrade. In fact, whereas it may have begun as an evil symptom that something is amiss in the marriage (be it communication, stress, whatever), it immediately becomes an impediment to solving the problem. That’s the reality of porn: it starts innocously but quickly becomes lethal.

 

[Katie1723]

Personally, I feel if you are secure with your marriage and your spouse, there is no need for porn. If you indulge in porn, then there are different issues you need to deal with.
~ Kathy ~