Irish Polock, you asked two questions.
Where dose the Roman Rite draw the line
There are distinct lines drawn.
We use three Latin terms:
latria,
dulia, and
hyperdulia.
Latria is the worship that goes to God alone. *Dulia *is the veneration we give to the known Saints in Heaven. It is **not **the worship we owe only to God. *Hyperdulia *is what we give Mary; it is veneration greater than the saints (hyper-veneration, if you will), but a lot less than God. So:
Latria - to God alone
Hyperdulia - to Mary
Dulia - to the Saints
and should we confront those whom we witness crossing said line?
Probably not. You can’t tell from the outside when someone has crossed the line from *Hyperdulia *to
Latria.
Many people are very devoted to Mary. You may see someone on their knees in front of an image or statue of Mary, but you don’t know what they are saying, or what they mean by what they are saying. Even if they say, “Mary, grant this prayer,” hopefully they understand that the only way she can “grant” a prayer is by interceding for us with Jesus.
If they don’t understand that - if they think that it is Mary herselfthat grants a prayer - then they have gone beyond the line. Mary cannot make anything happen. She can only ask the Lord to make it happen. But you cannot tell that by looking at them.
Also - there is a lot of very florid language about Mary. When I went through RCIA two years ago, I had problems with the “Hail, Holy Queen” prayer, because I thought it was overdone, to say the least. Now I understand it better, and like it a lot.
Mary’s whole *hyperdulia *comes from the fact that she
is the mother of Jesus. God did not look around and say, “Lemme find some handy container to decant Jesus from.” He picked her specifically, out of all women, past, present, and future, to be the mother of our Lord. He interfered at her conception to remove the stain of Original sin from her, so that Jesus would not inherit it. And Jesus Himself, from the Cross, gave her to John as John’s mother. (Jn 19:26-27) We believe that means He gave her to all of us.
Hope this helps.
Welcome to the Church, and God bless you both!
Ruthie