Is this sinful, ladies?

[PatriceA]

Who is going to get attention in the dating scene:
A) A tall, leggy, busty, blonde who is a size two, but vapid.

or

B) A chubby, brunette, busty, somewhat tall, kind woman who can crack everyone up.

And that is why women need surgery in order to compete for a husband. Or else it is a life of hundreds of cats, sitting on a porch yelling “GET OFF MY LAWN!” and shooting men with a shotgun. That is my main fear.

Well I was option B, and I was only trying to attract the man that was designed by God to be my husband, not the guys that were interested in option A. You only need to attract one guy, just one really, great perfect guy that is meant for you, and not option A. And what happens while you are busy trying to be Option A, having unnecessary procedures to attract all the men that think Option A is the “hot” option that you miss the man that is attracted to option B, who you really are?

You have to decide you are attractive, no one is going to believe you are if you don’t believe it yourself.

The more you buy into the line of thinking you are currently on, the more you make it much more difficult to find the right guy for you, OR for him to find you.

 

[jmcrae]

Who is going to get attention in the dating scene:
A) A tall, leggy, busty, blonde who is a size two, but vapid.

Vapid women attract vapid men.

B) A chubby, brunette, busty, somewhat tall, kind woman who can crack everyone up.

She’ll get all the shy, nice guys who are looking for someone who can hold up her end of the conversation.

 

[psalm42]

Well then I need to work on smiling more often and enjoying the present!

You only need to attract one guy, just one really, great perfect guy that is meant for you, and not option A. And what happens while you are busy trying to be Option A, having unnecessary procedures to attract all the men that think Option A is the “hot” option that you miss the man that is attracted to option B, who you really are?

I agree with Patrice, Countrysinger! Just some encouragement, I did Weight Watchers a few years back and since then, have lost 45-48 pounds. My whole life I was overweight, even being an athelete. My self-esteem was low throughtout my young life and thankfully it is better today, but not the best. I still have similar thoughts as you sometimes. What I pray is that God prepares me and my heart for my future husband, and him likewise, and my future kids as well.

And you know what, honestly? When I start to freak out and get anxious about marriage and kids, I begin to pray for them. It sort of takes my all-of-my-friends-are-married freak out to, “Please prepare me…etc”

Hope this helps!

 

[CountrySinger]

Well I was option B, and I was only trying to attract the man that was designed by God to be my husband, not the guys that were interested in option A. You only need to attract one guy, just one really, great perfect guy that is meant for you, and not option A. And what happens while you are busy trying to be Option A, having unnecessary procedures to attract all the men that think Option A is the “hot” option that you miss the man that is attracted to option B, who you really are?

You have to decide you are attractive, no one is going to believe you are if you don’t believe it yourself.

The more you buy into the line of thinking you are currently on, the more you make it much more difficult to find the right guy for you, OR for him to find you.

I’m just tired of being passed over, and if I can get some attention for men, I do whatever it takes (even hiring a psycho trainer and extreme dieting). I want to be adored and be thought as beautiful, not the quirky best friend, they never get the man (even though they have the best lines).
I don’t think plastic surgery is wrong, as long as it makes a person happy. Who does it hurt?

 

[Linda_Marie]

I’m a 28 year old woman, and I’m beginning to notice that I’m looking older. I now when the first wrinkle comes in, I’m making an appointment for Botox! I’m single, so I have to look good to maintain my market value. I’m also in the process of losing a lot of weight, so I know I will need to lifting, implanting (I want to keep my big chest), and tucking done as well.

I am a single cynical Catholic woman who loves shooting ranges, rugby, kickboxing, cheesy pop music, Lemon Drops, Monty Python, and country music. I am SO not your average Catholic. I am a sinner, but aren’t we all?

I question the wisdom of getting implants while you engage in these sports.

 

[CountrySinger]

I question the wisdom of getting implants while you engage in these sports.

I’ve already talked to a doctor, and I got the all clear. All I need to do lose the weight! But if had to stop those activites, I would.

 

[psalm42]

Do you think you would be more attractive to men if you got them? Or ultimately feel better about yourself long-term? I am not sure I know your exact reasoning…and also, you are not a piece of meat (you mentioned market value!!) pray for the right man to come into your life who loves you for YOU.

This is off the topic, but I was watching the news last night and they showed two pics of a famous actress/singer, one was of her airbrushed, and the other her true self. I was so astonished in how much different they looked!!! What is the point?! It was a huge difference, but it also put into perspective on how I can now see her as humanly, so to speak.
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Do airbrushed pics always look that much better???**

 

[jmcrae]

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Do airbrushed pics always look that much better???**

That’s kind of the point, really. What they do is they make the girl’s eyes and breasts bigger, take out any flaws in her skin, lengthen her neck and legs, and make her shoulders really skinny.

If you ever ran into a human being with those proportions in real life, though, your first instinct would be to call an ambulance and get them to the hospital. No one would even want to look like that in real life - it only looks good in two dimensions and with no movement.

 

[jaimepsalm63]

Let’s look at the original question for a moment. Having cosmetic procedures done for the purpose of only looking what modern society dictates as being “beautiful” in my opinion isn’t the way to go. Having them done because you’ve had cancer or an accident, fine.

If you want a man to love you for your body only, you’ll be very lonely in a few years of marriage when your body starts to age and you can’t afford the payments to do the “up keep”. He’ll leave you anyway for someone who is what you tried to be for him.

If you want a man to love you for you (your mind, your sense of humor, your kindness, your value that God gave you) then you’ll have a lasting marriage because you’ll both be able to grow together learning about each other.

What would happen if you got this surgery and then were in a horrific accident where you have to have total reconstructive surgery? Who would be by your side no matter what? Would it be the man who sees you superficially or the man who sees you deep down inside? What about burn victims? (My husband has burn scares on his leg and they are just as handsome as my husband, himself.)

When I went through the back window of my truck, my husband was there to comfort me even with staples in my head. When I got stretch marks from each of our kids, my husband said they were the most beautiful marks on my body (all 3 kids have their “own” marks) because they were there to remind us of the gift God gave us. After my last pregnancy I weighed more than 200 pounds and he said I was so beautiful. I now am a size 8…but I can’t eat a lot of food because of a medical condition.

Beauty is what God gave you already. The media tries to tell you what God has isn’t good enough. My suggestion, turn off your TV, stop reading gossip magazines, and turn your life to the saints for guidance as to what beauty really is for this life.

Just my 2 cents.

 

[psalm42]

Let’s look at the original question for a moment. Having cosmetic procedures done for the purpose of only looking what modern society dictates as being “beautiful” in my opinion isn’t the way to go. Having them done because you’ve had cancer or an accident, fine.

If you want a man to love you for your body only, you’ll be very lonely in a few years of marriage when your body starts to age and you can’t afford the payments to do the “up keep”. He’ll leave you anyway for someone who is what you tried to be for him.

If you want a man to love you for you (your mind, your sense of humor, your kindness, your value that God gave you) then you’ll have a lasting marriage because you’ll both be able to grow together learning about each other.

What would happen if you got this surgery and then were in a horrific accident where you have to have total reconstructive surgery? Who would be by your side no matter what? Would it be the man who sees you superficially or the man who sees you deep down inside? What about burn victims? (My husband has burn scares on his leg and they are just as handsome as my husband, himself.)

When I went through the back window of my truck, my husband was there to comfort me even with staples in my head. When I got stretch marks from each of our kids, my husband said they were the most beautiful marks on my body (all 3 kids have their “own” marks) because they were there to remind us of the gift God gave us. After my last pregnancy I weighed more than 200 pounds and he said I was so beautiful. I now am a size 8…but I can’t eat a lot of food because of a medical condition.

Beauty is what God gave you already. The media tries to tell you what God has isn’t good enough. My suggestion, turn off your TV, stop reading gossip magazines, and turn your life to the saints for guidance as to what beauty really is for this life.

Just my 2 cents.

BEAUTIFUL and so true, post! I am going to read this about 10 more times!!!

 

[presidentjlh]

My hope is that I will become mature enough that when I get married, from that point to the day I die, I will always think of my wife as that beautiful, smart, kind, funny, thoughtful, sexy, wonderful blessing that said the words, “I do.”

If I were to not be mature enough, I would be so incredibly disappointed in myself, words cannot describe how pathetic I would think I was.

 

[jaimepsalm63]

I made a spelling error in the middle of my post and don’t know how to edit stuff very well after it’s posted.

I had said my husband had a burn “scare” on his leg…I meant scar, but I’m sure you all caught onto the main meaning of my message and knew what point I was trying to get across.

 

[PatriceA]

I’ve already talked to a doctor, and I got the all clear. All I need to do lose the weight! But if had to stop those activites, I would.

You would give up the physical activities you love to do just so you could get implants?? I don’t think I understand that logic. The physical activities are what would be keeping you in shape, in good health and HOT. You want to sacrifice those for something fake. Plastic surgery should be to help a condition, to enhance one’s life. Not to prohibit someone from doing the activities they enjoy before they sought out the surgery. You can’t sacrifice the things you love, just to attract the attention of men.

 

[CountrySinger]

You would give up the physical activities you love to do just so you could get implants?? I don’t think I understand that logic. The physical activities are what would be keeping you in shape, in good health and HOT. You want to sacrifice those for something fake. Plastic surgery should be to help a condition, to enhance one’s life. Not to prohibit someone from doing the activities they enjoy before they sought out the surgery. You can’t sacrifice the things you love, just to attract the attention of men.

Well, I already did give up food I love to lose weight (with the only intent of attracting men), how is that different? I would kill for some french fries right now. Or pizza. Or a really good hamburger. Or a Frappucino. Grr.

Plus, playing aggressive sports turn guys off most of the time.

 

[PatriceA]

Well, I already did give up food I love to lose weight (with the only intent of attracting men), how is that different? I would kill for some french fries right now. Or pizza. Or a really good hamburger. Or a Frappucino. Grr.

Plus, playing aggressive sports turn guys off most of the time.

Those foods are unhealthy if they are the main staple of your diet. Congratulations on changing your food choices, most people should make similar food choices whether they are married or not. That’s why its different.

But giving up a hobby or interest because it wouldn’t attract a man? Men are attracted to women that have their own interests and hobbies, as well as having those in common with them.

Maybe some of the guys can weigh in on this conversation and either correct me in my line of thinking, or yours, because I don’t buy that a woman playing a sport that they really love would turn a guy off.

 

[CountrySinger]

Those foods are unhealthy if they are the main staple of your diet. Congratulations on changing your food choices, most people should make similar food choices whether they are married or not. That’s why its different.

But giving up a hobby or interest because it wouldn’t attract a man? Men are attracted to women that have their own interests and hobbies, as well as having those in common with them.

Maybe some of the guys can weigh in on this conversation and either correct me in my line of thinking, or yours, because I don’t buy that a woman playing a sport that they really love would turn a guy off.

Granted that I have men who will not go out with me because I play rugby, they don’t like aggression in women. It’s not having interests, it’s the aggressive nature of the activity that they don’t like. Maybe they are scared I would tackle them.

 

[PatriceA]

Granted that I have men who will not go out with me because I play rugby, they don’t like aggression in women. It’s not having interests, it’s the aggressive nature of the activity that they don’t like. Maybe they are scared I would tackle them.

Maybe you need to find some men that think its down right sexy that you play rugby. There are men out there that do. I don’t know much about the men you are friends with, but if its any indication from what you have said, they seem a little narrow minded on what makes a woman attractive and what does not. They seem like they want a Barbie doll, not a real woman with real interests and a real body.

 

[psalm42]

I agree with Patrice.

I grew up in a very competitive/sports family and I enjoy working out. It releases so much stress and makes me feel good about myself. Find a man who plays rugby like you, or likes to exercise!

 

[CountrySinger]

I don’t get it either. Women tackling each other in mud, I would think guys would like that. And when it rains, it’s like “Wet T-Shirt Wrestling”.

 

[psalm42]

I don’t get it either. Women tackling each other in mud, I would think guys would like that. And when it rains, it’s like “Wet T-Shirt Wrestling”.

Lol I don’t even know how to respond to that. Technically speaking, I think the girls who do “wet t-shirt wrestling” do it for the attention of men and looking hot while wearing pratcially nothing. And I think rugby players are more focused on winning the game, not how hot they look, am I off track?