At a professional conference this week, I had a conversation this week with a woman who is a graduate student from Iran studying at a U.S. university. After a few minutes of talking about technical parts of our industry, we started talking about our personal lives. After a little while, she started talking about her personal philosophy, and started talking about God being all about love and how she doesn’t care what religion a person is as long as they live a good life.
I listened, then asked her if she is Muslim. To this question, she frowned and replied, “I have to be.” I said that I’m Catholic, and that God being love is a very central part of my beliefs, but that I’d never heard a Muslim say that. She seemed very unhappy at that, and we went on to talk about something else.
I was really shocked to hear someone answer that they “have to be” a particular religion. Retrospectively, I’m thinking that in the wake of the Charlie Hebdo massacre in France, she must have been feeling self-conscious about coming from a Muslim country, and that’s why she started talking to me about how she doesn’t care what religion someone is.
Does anyone have any thoughts about what would make this woman say what she did? Muslims I know quote a hadith in which Muhammad is purported to say, “there is no compulsion in religion.” However, this woman seemed really uncomfortable about my asking if she was a Muslim, even though she had been talking with me about God.
Any thoughts anyone?