Issue with Priest, wondering what to do

[Gorgias]

It was always my understanding that the bride and groom were questioned separately, under oath, during that part of the prenuptial investigation.

The priest didn’t question us separately.

I can speak best about the current process, and not the earlier one, but in the current process (which might be for the U.S.?), the couple is separated for the bulk of the questions (which do include “do you intend sexual intercourse and the possibility of children?”). However, if it’s a marriage between a Catholic and a non-Catholic, then the questions about maintaining the practice of the faith and of baptizing children Catholic are asked in the presence of both.

I think the priest might have asked us together about raising the kids Catholic and I said we planned to do that and my husband-to-be said he was fine with it, had no objection. I think that was the end of the topic.

Both of you were Catholic, or no?

 

[Tis_Bearself]

My husband was Presbyterian, as I’ve said many times. He was baptized, Trinitarian, etc.
We had a Nuptial Mass.

It seems like the process has been very formalized in USA since we got married.
Many people on here talk about interviews and filling out questionnaires.
We were prepared for the third degree as I literally didn’t know any Catholic who’d married a Protestant and my priest seemed quite strict.
Didn’t happen though.

 

[Gorgias]

My husband was Presbyterian, as I’ve said many times.

Didn’t remember that.

You (personally) weren’t asked to sign anything saying that you had made those promises?

 

[Tis_Bearself]

I honestly don’t remember signing anything. As it was 25 years ago I may well have forgotten.

It also wouldn’t have been a big deal, we didn’t need to sign a piece of paper to keep our promises. If he hadn’t been okay with raising children Catholic, I’d have kicked him out long before we ever got to the point of seeing the priest. (It took us 10 years to get married.) So like I said maybe I forgot.

 

[Phemie]

Tis_Bearself:

My husband was Presbyterian, as I’ve said many times.

Didn’t remember that.

You (personally) weren’t asked to sign anything saying that you had made those promises?

I know in my diocese the Catholic does sign a statement to that effect and then the non-Catholic signs one to the effect that he/she has been informed of the promise and the implications of the promise. I can’t remember signing anything at the time I met with the priest but since it was 43 years ago I guess my memory isn’t that sharp anymore.

The documents are then forwarded to the chancery for the Bishop’s dispensation if it’s a disparity of cult case. In our diocese priests can give the permission for a simple mixed-marriage and don’t have to petition the bishop for permission each time.

 

[Powdercoater]

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