I've been married for a long time

[dochawk]

Having been “in the trenches”, I can assure you it is not a regular tactic.

I think that must depend upon when and where you practiced.

I handled divorces and custody in the early 90s, hating every second of it.

I came to the conclusion that a majority of abuse claims first raised during divorce reasons were tactical. The way our system worked at the time, getting that initial temporary custody and supervised visitation changed the status quo, and generally needed a “change of circumstances” to change.

I saw the whole gamut of whom abused who I had women who sat across from me with black and blue faces, and others who had learned to call or threaten to call the police and falsely claim abuse in “routine” fights with their husbands. More than once, men who had called for help as they were beaten with pans or other objects and were conditioned too well not to hit back who got arrested and criminally charged.

I still shudder decades later, and can feel my elevated pulse just from writing this . . .

hawk, esq.