I've been married for a long time

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I was part of a local Catholic men’s morning prayer group for a couple of years and got the distinct impression that marriage is a painful struggle that people just resign themselves to: a daily cross (I was the youngest by far and the only bachelor). It wasn’t the most inspiring view of marriage. Only one out of the 20 or so men seemed genuinely happily married. I’ve read that women are even less happy in marriage according to some studies, and nearly three quarters of divorces are filed by the wife. Thankfully my own parents provide me a more hopeful example. There is a major attack on marriage and the family today. Thank God for all the good Catholic couples, and we should pray for abundant graces.
 
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The wrath of a woman and being struck by lightening are about the same.
 
ewohdrol said:
I’m not sure what you mean?

If I was describing my marriage as others were up thread I’d honestly rather live alone.
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Imagine your marriage were like the others and you had kids. You would be stuck in a marriage you don’t enjoy and it would be selfish of you to leave if you had kids
 
adgloriam said:
God would be merciful, a wife might not…
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That country song a couple of days ago: “Jesus will forgive, but a daddy don’t forget”
Darryl_B said:
I was supposed to cut the grass this weekend. I won’t pay in the after-life, I will pay next week.
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I"m supposed to cut mine today, but it isn’t even planted yet. . . . but I should be able to. finish my. new sprinkler controller tomorrow, and plant later in the week. . . .

hawk, off to polish a shotgun . . .
 
I think part of that is because it was a prayer group. Most people that are asking for prayers need/want something “fixed.” Perhaps you were only hearing one aspect of the men’s marriage.
 
Depressing? Never has been for me . Hard? At times, but not often.

Not a Hollywood version at all.
 
For all the ladies: a book that has given me new perspective on marriage and male / female relationships is “First kill all the marriage counselors”. I think there’s a new edition with a slightly different title.
Anyway, this book has helped me a ton. I think my husband has benefitted as well.
Celebrated 23 years a few days ago.
 
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Whoa.
This thread, which I meant to be a lighthearted observation on married couples who’ve been together for a number of years, has really gone off the rails.
 
Perhaps Australia and the US have some differences regarding this ? It might be more so over here in Australia 🤔
 
Your cynicism makes me so sad. I am sorry for what she put you through.
 
You know what makes it more interesting? When single people give married people advice on marriage and kids and then they go back to their comfortable homes where they can do what they want and when they want :roll_eyes::crazy_face:
 
I agree. It was a great light hearted op. Unhappy marraiges might not be uncommon, but I believe they are still the minority.
 
tafan2 said:
Depressing? Never has been for me . Hard? At times, but not often.

Not a Hollywood version at all.
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That has pretty much been my experience in my 18 years of marriage.

In some ways, his little troubling habits and personality traits are much more troubling, but so are mine. You add six kids into the mix and it’s going to get more complicated.

On the other hand, I lean on him every day. We were two very independent people who married in our thirties. We were just marveling last week about how two people who are so independent have come to depend on each other so much.

I have learned that the process of getting each other to heaven means that we give each other lots of opportunities to turn to God In prayer for patience and the Grace to keep loving each other. We get a ton of practice.
 
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No man is complete until he is married
and once he is married
he is finished.
 
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