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Hi everyone,
I usually just lurk here in Family Life and Parenting (I don’t have any kids…but love reading about all of yours 😃 ), but I have a dilemma and am wondering if any of you who live in bigger cities can help me.

I am currently working a job that I really enjoy but living in a place that I HATE. I’m far from family/friends, I’m alone and not dealing with that well, when I’m AT work I do well, but once I get home…not so much. I was offered a position that would allow me to move back to “home” and commute. The pay difference is significantly higher (that’s why I could commute), but I will be commuting a total of 160 miles a day. Does anyone do this? Is it worth it in the long run? If I take this job I have to sign a contract to stay for 3 years :eek: . So…any suggestions? Advice?

Oh! I’m in the health field…physical therapy to be exact…going from hospital to nursing home/outpatient (which is super exciting!)

Thanks everyone!
 
That’s a lot of miles in the car. With gas $$$, would that be feasible??
Kathy
 
Well, that’s something I’m trying to consider…even with figuring gas and “wear and tear” on a car I’m still coming out ahead on the financial end if I take this job. 🤷
 
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but I will be commuting a total of 160 miles a day. Does anyone do this? Is it worth it in the long run? If I take this job I have to sign a contract to stay for 3 years :eek: . So…any suggestions? Advice?
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A number of years ago, I took a job 75 miles away from where I lived. A 150 mile round trip commute was hard. However, I never intended for that commute to be permanent just until I could get moved. I did it for 3 months before moving with a friend into an apartment near my job.

It’s very tough to do a commute that long every day. It really sucks all the life out of your day. It put so many miles on my car, it accelerated a lot of maintenance I needed to have done-- tires, gas, oil, etc. It’s very expensive. With gas only getting more expensive it seems foolish to take such a position.

But mostly, it was just depressing. I’d leave in the dark (5 am) and then by the time I got home (6 pm) it was dark again. In the summer when the day was longer, I wanted to be doing fun things w/my friends but I was on the road!

And, don’t sign any contracts!

Move where you want to be, and find a job there.
 
Will the new employer reimburse you for on the job travel expenses or mileage? Is being close to family worth the extra expenses incurred by the commute? Will it be frustrating to live close but still not see them because you’re exhausted from the drive?
 
1ke thanks for the thoughts…it gives me something to think about. I’m worried about the feeling of being depressed…however I don’t know if the depression of driving a lot will be more or less than the feeling of depression from being all alone.

This company won’t be reimbursing me for my travel, but the salary is more than the job I’m currently at…even taking into consideration the $$ for gas and car issues. It’s more of “does being near family/friends make the drive worth it” sort of issue.
 
Could you move near your new job, and then commute 160 miles when you want to see your friends and family?

This would not be an ideal living situation, but it would be better than what you’re doing now.
 
Well, that’s something I’m trying to consider…even with figuring gas and “wear and tear” on a car I’m still coming out ahead on the financial end if I take this job.
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I’d run those numbers again. You’d also hafta factor in what your time is worth. That is 3 hours a day, 15 hours a weekm if DON"T you have any traffic problems.

The only reason I’d do it would be I thought it could open doors to find the next job.
 
I’m with Guy and Ack.

I used to commute 51 miles one way to work. It was all on back roads so I didn’t have to contend with traffic, but like 1ke said, it was depressing to only see the sun on weekends. The only thing that made it bearable was that it was temporary, and that I was working with nice people.

Ruthie
 
Jea9 said:
Hi everyone,
I usually just lurk here in Family Life and Parenting (I don’t have any kids…but love reading about all of yours 😃 ), but I have a dilemma and am wondering if any of you who live in bigger cities can help me.

I am currently working a job that I really enjoy but living in a place that I HATE. I’m far from family/friends, I’m alone and not dealing with that well, when I’m AT work I do well, but once I get home…not so much. I was offered a position that would allow me to move back to “home” and commute. The pay difference is significantly higher (that’s why I could commute), but I will be commuting a total of 160 miles a day. Does anyone do this? Is it worth it in the long run? If I take this job I have to sign a contract to stay for 3 years :eek: . So…any suggestions? Advice?

Oh! I’m in the health field…physical therapy to be exact…going from hospital to nursing home/outpatient (which is super exciting!)

Thanks everyone!
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Why can’t you live close to where the new job is, and pocket the extra money for trips to see your family on the weekends (or whenever your time off is), etc.?
 
Hi everyone, thanks for all of the insights. I COULD live closer to the job and commute back and forth on the weekends, but that’s what I’m doing right now and doing this is depressing for me. I couldn’t handle it much longer, even at a different facility. I know I might not get the best times to spend with my family/friends, but at least a hello/goodbye in the morning or at night. Another plus is that I could pick my own hours, as long as all of my patients get treated. That might make the drive better for me. Is there anyone who LIKES the commute?

Oh! And, this is in southeastern Colorado, there isn’t much traffic and the one highway I’m on is actually pretty good during this stretch. If I pass 20 other cars on the way I’d be surprised.
 
Until recently, I drove 120+ miles each day to and from work. It is expensive, it is tiring.

If you do this, I suggest you get Sirius Satellite Radio. 2 stations with Catholic programming - it made the drive a thing to look forward to.
 
You have to also consider the weather. If you live in an area where lots of adverse weather, especially in the winter, that only will add to stress and safety concerns…just my opinion…
 
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