What would a person do if a priest just refused to grant absolution for no reason? I mean, I bet that rarely ever happens, but if it does…what does that mean? What does a person do?
The priest would have to have a reason to deny absolution. For one he must what the sins are in order to know what sins are forgiven. He also offer advise on how to combat the temptation that leads to sin.
Here is a fictional example:
Thomas: Bless me father for I have I sinned. It has been a month since my last confession.
These are my following sins. I currently love with my girlfriend, and we been having sex on a daily basis. I feel really bad about it and I’m sorry for having committed them.
Fr. Mark: God is please that you have come to seek his mercy. Tom, do you live with this girlfriend of yours?
Thomas: Yes, Father. This is the girl I plan to marry when I graduate college.
Fr. Mark: If you are truly sorry, you should not live with her. You are putting yourself in the near occasion of sin.
Thomas: I can’t do that. I love her.
Fr. Mark: Why not?
Thomas: Because I love her.
Fr. Mark: How do you know you love her?
Thomas: Because I feel it, and there is chemistry.
Fr. Mark: Love is not just mere feelings. Within a year those feelings may be gone, and if its chemistry your relationship might explode. What do you desire for her?
Thomas: Well, when we do marry, we plan to have fun first. Kids later. Build a home maybe… I don’t know its too early. I just meet this girl 2 weeks ago.
Fr. Mark: There is more to love than that. If you truly love her, you must not have sex with her. Sex is sacred and it is holy. Save it for marriage. If you do love her, you desire heaven for her. Your love for your girlfriend should reflect the union between the Church and Jesus Christ. Jesus Christ died for his Bride. You ought to do the same. You have to move out of the apartment, and not have sex.
Thomas: But Fr. I love her.
Fr. Mark. Then don’t live together. I cannot grant you absolution until you make a resolution to abstain from sex. This isn’t love that you are displaying.
Thomas left the confession completely disappointed.
Well, that’s a fictional storyline and just one example. The priest have to know the sin order to forgive the sins. Second, the pentitent must make a resolution from within not to do the sin again.