Just found out I'm pregnant day after honeymoon and freaking out

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Congratulations to you both! Married couples having babies isn’t unusual (:)) and I’m sure your families and friends will be delighted for you.
 
Congratulations! You don’t know how lucky you are…we’ve been trying for 38 years…
 
Wonderful - warmest congratulations. The same thing happened to me so I know what a shock it is but it is a real blessing on your marriage !

Personally I would keep it all quitely in the family until 12 weeks.
 
Isca said:
Congratulations to you both! Married couples having babies isn’t unusual (:)) and I’m sure your families and friends will be delighted for you.
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I agree - not unusual and exactly as God planned it.
 
🙂 Congratulations! I don’t know anyone who hasn’t felt apprehensive at the sight of the BFP. I’d take it as the sign of a good and productive honeymoon and let any negative, tactless or just plain intrusive questions and comments fly out of people’s mouths and off into the sunset 👍

DH and I were ‘late vocations’ to married life and we (me especially as the bride) were on the receiving end of a few observations that we could have been upset about. Instead, we had our own little, “Saying ‘congratulations’ would have been fine, thanks” Awards Shortlist, for all the crass, negative, intrusive and just plain silly things people said.
 
Congratulations! Don’t worry about what anybody thinks or says. Praying to Our Lady of Guadalupe for you to have an uncomplicated pregnancy & safe delivery of a healthy baby.
 
Regarding people judging you, we conceived about 6 months into our marriage and still got “you guys sure didn’t wait, eh” comments. The world will judge you if you have kids prior to 35 and prior to 10 years of childless couple bliss. I exaggerate only slightly. I’m sure it depends on the region.:: but here in Vancouver we were both 28, and when we attended the maternity tour at the hospital we felt like teenagers… Parents are OLD these days. But we as Christians need to simply brush these comments off.
 
Thank you all for the support and encouragement! I’m honestly very happy, and just so eager to learn all I can about what the next 8 or so months have in store 🙂
 
Congratulations. This is a gift that the Lord has blest your marriage with which is part you and part your husband. If you are supper excited about it with others they will be excited with you too. Years down the road you will look back at this and decide you wouldn’t have it any other way. The 9 months and eventually 18 years will fly by before you know it. Slow down and enjoy every day as it comes.

My wife and I have been married 17 years and just found out that she is pregnant with our 6th. We use NFP too but it is no surprise as we were simply leaving the decision up to the Lord. We are expecting some possible negative remarks or hesitation from family. I have found that if you show them strength and confidence they will come around and do the same.

You will come to learn that NFP works very well and is extremely reliable when needed. Proper use of NFP is working with the Lord and not against. There are times you will find the need to use NFP to avoid, other times it can be used to aid in conception and then other times just leaving the door open for the Lord to work his power in your marriage. May the Lord bless your marriage with years of blessings.
 
liaeona said:
We just got back from our honeymoon today. We had decided to use NFP to avoid for a couple of years for logistical and work-related reasons. My signs were a little off before the wedding due to illness and stress/sleep deprivation, so we couldn’t be sure if I had ovulated or not, but we decided that we were ready enough to be parents for it to be worth making love on our wedding night and on our honeymoon.

Lo and behold, I DEFNITELY ovulated day 1 of our honeymoon. Turns out the signs are sometimes super obvious when you know what to look for 🙂 We had had sex both the day before and two days before, so even though we skipped the day of, I knew there was a good chance (better than my husband was thinking). Again though, we talked about it and decided we are ready and excited to be parents if that is what happens.

I started feeling some strange symptoms on our honeymoon–super fatigued, sinus issues, irritable, and an awful bloating. Something definitely felt different than PMS. We just got back today and I took the the test and within seconds it was pretty obviously positive!

So we are excited but also scared. I feel in shock–even though I expected the BFP and prepared myself for it (or so I thought) it is surreal. I have no idea what to do. I told only my mom and my husband and we are waiting to tell anyone else. I’m worried that people will really judge us though for getting pregnant so quickly after getting married. I’m very happy, but this is making me dread when we eventually tell others. We have great paying jobs and we will both be around 26 when the baby is due, so it’s not a scandal by any means, but I feel like we just got all of this attention and I kind of want to fade away into anonymity for a long while :confused:

Also, as this was semi-unexpected, I have no idea what to do now. I hear things about vitamins? Doctors? No caffeine or sushi? What about my traveling job? My mind is racing, I had two hours of sleep before an international flight today, and I’m so full of hormones and mixed emotions and excitement and nerves that I don’t know what to do or where to start. Like AHHHH there is a person inside me! I feel so lucky and almost guilty that we were able to conceive so easily. I know this is a blessing, but I’m so scared about what’s going to happen to my body, how we’re supposed to start out a marriage with a pregnancy, etc. I would love any and all advice, or just a warm hug and reassurance!
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Congratulations!

For reassurance: I was a honeymoon baby. In my case, my mom was considered sub-fertile (actually, she was told she was infertile prior to marriage). So I was born 284 days after the wedding (yeah, people counted back then). My parents celebrated their 51st anniversary earlier this year.
 
Melissa said:
Congratulations!

For reassurance: I was a honeymoon baby. In my case, my mom was considered sub-fertile (actually, she was told she was infertile prior to marriage). So I was born 284 days after the wedding (yeah, people counted back then). My parents celebrated their 51st anniversary earlier this year.
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I was conceived during the engagement. My parents were obliged to make a public confession of their sin (they’re not Catholics and this was the practice in this particular Protestant community). My maternal grandpa refused to pay for the wedding (though he still came) after he discovered their “misdeed”, so my dad’s mom had to pick up the tab. Kinda rich now that we all know he had a long, drawn out affair when my mom and her sisters were young.
 
CONGRATULATIONS :extrahappy: What a beautiful wedding gift God has given you! The best ever!!

1ke had the best response. I’d like to encourage you to be charitable about the remarks you will receive. We live in a time where people no longer know how to filter their responses and are very blunt with their questions. It may be rude, but their intention may not be insulting. At least that’s how I prefer to react to the odd questions of “so soon?” Etc.

Enjoy these beautiful days ahead! You are a wonderful testimony to chastity before and after marriage, and a wonderful pro-life role model for other couples!! Thank you for your courage and openness! You are making the world a better place with your new family! ❤️
 
:dancing: Congratulations!!! :extrahappy:

We had a honeymoon baby too! ❤️ 👋

Is your due date before your 9 month anniversary? We had our little one before our 9 month anniversary at 38 weeks, but she was big! I must admit I was a little worried people would do the math and think it didn’t add up! (We did wait until marriage, so we knew she was a honeymoon baby 🙂 ) We did get comments about “So soon…” etc. but like others said, people sometimes just say things because they don’t understand and/or don’t have the best filters 😉 but often mean well.

We found out we were pregnant at our 1 month anniversary… so exciting!!! I remember sitting there in awe, knowing there was a whole new person, a unique soul, inside of me!!! Dh had just lost his job (after our wedding, before we found out we were pregnant, we found out the company he was working for had suddenly gone under), so we did have worries too, but God blessed us in many ways along the way! I always credit my oldest with helping me adjust to married life easier. We never had that “rocky” first year.

I wish you the best!!! Congrats on your wedding and this beautiful little blessing you have received!!!
 
Aww! :love: ❤️ :bounce: What an awesome way to start your marriage! Congratulations to you and your husband! I’m sure all new mothers “freak out” with their first regardless of how soon they come. Many blessings on your new marriage!
 
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