you quoted the above:
Fundamental misunderstandings here, IMO.
FIRST: the Church does NOT tell her she must ‘quit the marriage’. The option is there, especially for those spouses who have had children, to live ‘as brother and sister’.
SECOND, just ‘who’ is ‘destroying’ this marriage? The Church? No. With respect, usually the people who go into these marriages either know that they are not valid in the eyes of God, or had the opportunity of knowing. It’s not as though for 2000 years Christians --nonCatholic Christians as well as Catholic Christians–lived in a happy state where they could divorce and remarry and go up for communion, and only NOW is there some kind of man-made ‘crackdown’. If these cases are between Catholic Christians and non-Catholic Christians, it’s part of the bitter fruit of the so-called Reformation whereby Christians became ensnared by so many man-made doctrines culminating in the 20th century ‘loosening’ of divorce laws’ which are purported to be ‘real Christian’ that they DO think they can marry and divorce and receive. The answer to that problem is not to kowtow to wrong doctrine, but to reinforce correct doctrine. If the cases are between Catholic Christians and nonChristians, once again, this is not a matter where we accommodate wrong doctrine as though it were ‘equal’ to correct doctrine.
I am sorry for those who marry, and divorce. (Before the stones get thrown at me, I’m one of them. I did not remarry, not even after I received a decree of nullity, although my ex-spouse did). Had I been lucky enough to ‘fall in love’ again, I would still have waited to pursue any kind of matrimonal relationship until/unless I received that decree. But because I trust Christ (and His Church) I didn’t expect the Church to accommodate itself to me and what my ‘needs’ might be, as though having suffered in a marriage ‘unfairly’ I was somehow being deprived of my ‘right’ to be married whenever I chose, even if in God’s eyes I was not free to do so.
Once again, I find the real trouble in society is that we simply do not trust God to ‘do right’ by us. If WE think that we NEED something, and God says ‘no’, well, we’ll do our best to find loopholes and ways to wiggle through, and finally,.we’ll just do as we please and expect God to forgive us because hey, after all, it’s just too HARD to follow His teachings and He should understand. IN fact, He’d better change those teachings like all the rest of the world has done, if He still wants to have followers. . .and sadly it seems some of His own bishops think that Christianity isn’t about having people follow Christ, but having Christ follow what the people need.