Kids or God First?

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Unfortunately, another issue in this ongoing drama. My Lutheran family insists that my kids come before God. I insist that God is above my kids. What to do?
 
Well, technically the order of priority is actually
  1. God
  2. Spouse
  3. Kids
  4. Everyone else
God comes before everything. Not sure why that’s even up for debate.
 

Matthew 10:34-39 New Revised Standard Version Catholic Edition (NRSVCE)​

Not Peace, but a Sword​

34 “Do not think that I have come to bring peace to the earth; I have not come to bring peace, but a sword.

35 For I have come to set a man against his father,
and a daughter against her mother,
and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law;
36 and one’s foes will be members of one’s own household.

37 Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; and whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me; 38 and whoever does not take up the cross and follow me is not worthy of me. 39 Those who find their life will lose it, and those who lose their life for my sake will find it.
 
Michael16 said:
They don’t understand. They’re religious to a devree
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Can you elaborate on the context of this? What exactly are they concerned about? For example, are they concerned that you spend too much time at church and not enough time with your children?
 
Psalm30 said:
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Michael16:
They don’t understand. They’re religious to a devree
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Can you elaborate on the context of this? What exactly are they concerned about? For example, are they concerned that you spend too much time at church and not enough time with your children?
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Yes, good question. We need more context.
 
You are their father.

Your opinion in the religious’s upbringing of your children come before their own opinion.

And no, God is first. Because without God’s law we cannot raised children in a moral way. Even if they are Lutherans, and have differents view on religion and many things, they should agree with that.
 
That’s a good question!

we should always preverve our marriage as a first priority, because the couple is the pillar of the family.

Yet… In my own practical life, my children’s needs go before my husband’s needs.
 
They don’t understand Catholic doctrine on mortal sin and putting God above all else. Any criticism of Lutheranism sends my parents into paroxysms. My father just yelled and cussed at me for being too literal about missing just one Sunday Mass.
 
Me. I’m trying to practice my faith seriously. When any confrontation draws near, I have to choose between family tranquility or being a good Catholic.
 
adamhovey1988 said:
Who puts their spouse before their kids?
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Well, this is an ongoing debate. Some will say put your marriage first. Others will say put the kids first.

There’s substantial evidence that children suffer if their parents’ marriage is on rocky ground. The priest who did pre-Cana with my husband and me said the best thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.

Spouses are one body. Their relationship must be solid since it is the foundation of the lives of their children. One of the best gifts you can give your children is a good marriage.

Don’t want to hijack this thread, though.
 
In what what way do you keep bringing it up?

For some people maybe the average self-proclaimed Christian in America but doesn’t take their faith seriously
… When they see someone really practicing their faith they might be brainwashed and think fanatic.

Is that a recent thing about you getting serious with your faith?
 
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I’m sure this would be less of an issue if you didn’t live with your non-Catholic parents. Any chance you can establish your own home so that they won’t be as involved in which church the grandchildren attend?
 
Anicette said:
Yet… In my own practical life, my children’s needs go before my husband’s needs.
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I think there’s a broader concept to putting your spouse before your kids.

Yes, a newborn’s or very young child’s needs are most certainly going to come first because they’re more urgent. It’s more so the relationship that takes priority. As I said earlier, spouses are one body. So, that relationship needs to come first, after God.

I’ll stop hijacking now. God bless.
 
I’ve been in mortal sin for a year. So, I haven’t been as fervent as I want to be. Now that my ex is dead, I’m free of the mortal sin situation I’ve been living in. So, I’m trying to more fervently practice my faith better.

My father thinks I’m being too literal in my beliefs and my parents can’t wrap their minds around Catholic doctrine.
 
Michael16 said:
When any confrontation draws near, I have to choose between family tranquility or being a good Catholic.
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I’ve got non-Catholic relatives who simply cannot be reckoned with. I’ve learned to just not bring up the topic of religion. Nothing good ever comes of it.

Can you explain why you keep bringing up the topic? Is it absolutely necessary to bring it up at all?
 
Pray for them both please. The fact that you want to get serious with the church and God you could be facing opposition spiritually speaking by the evil one working through them. I’m not saying that’s the case though.

Try responding if you haven’t already with kindness.
 
Deep down inside; I’m very devout. Almost like a monk. I bring up religion each and every time that my family’s belief that family comes before all else, backed by their understanding of Lutheran doctrine; conflicts with my duties as a practicing Catholic.

I’m devoted to God; my family is devoted to family. Period.
 
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