In the story of the rich man who asked Jesus what he must do to inherit eternal life, Christ confronts him and commands him to sell everything he owns and FOLLOW HIM. In fact, Christ told all His disciples to follow Him. The Catholic Church is Christ’s church so He was indeed commanding them to follow the “one true Church”.
No, he didn’t confront him. He answered the man’s direct question, and there was nothing confrontational about that.
When I speak of confrontation I am speaking of people getting in people’s faces in uncharitable ways rathering that acting out of love and in a loving way. And yes, I know about “tough love” and that there are times when loving and honest fraternal correction are necessary. There is a difference though between correcting a wayward brother and trying to bring about conversion through insult.
These boards, however, are filled with people who believe they can shame, coerce, or beat into submission people who disagree with them, often over the most trivial of things that are simply preferences. And the greater Church is also full of them, sticking their fingers in people’s chests and insulting them for not having a full understanding of the truth–as if any of us have such an understanding. It is those kinds of attitudes, often leading even to violence, that cause many people to have a less than rosy perception of the Church.
I willl continue to maintain that Jesus would not have condoned any such thing, and did not practice any such thing. As the Son of God, he showed infinite love and mercy in every action. Even in confronting the Pharisees over their blindness, he confronted only their self-righteous belief that they could be saved by the law–the same belief that is implied by many here when they start implying that one isn’t worthy if they (pick your favorite): receive communion standing/kneeling; on the tongue/in the hand; do or don’t wear a head covering; prefer Latin/vernacular; accept/condemn the death penalty;
ad nauseum. In the end, I bet there are plenty of Catholics who have a negative opinion of much of the Catholic Church after their experiences with “Church people”.

I myself left the Church for many years over the kinds of attitudes I ran into that so contradicted gospel values.
I won’t belabor the point any further. I didn’t expect a warm reception in pointing out that many of our wounds are self-inflicted, and that we often induce the negative perception some have of us. That is not to say that we as individuals, and the Church as a whole, don’t have an abundance of good things to offer also. It is just a recognition that human nature is to focus on the negative and form our perceptions from there. It’s unfortunately especially prevalent in the Headline News, “sound bite” mentality of the culture we live in.
Peace,