Leaving CAF??

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But, I will be more prudent about visiting CAF and where to post. I think sometimes I am a legend in my own mind and cross over into topics I know nothing about.

Same here man, same here.
 
Teneas said:
Wow, good for you for the book! I have always wanted to write one myself, but I know I am to lazy to commit myself to it. I have to much on plate as it is. Besides that, I have no idea what I would write about. LOL

Hope you do stay, while I have never read your posts, I will look them up now. Diversity is good man. 🙂
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Teneas, please don’t be impressed with a book writing venture. It’s just a part-time job like any other. I’m sure there are plenty of writers and authors on this site as well as musicians, artists, quilt makers, etc. Everyone has different gifts. My son is a computer wiz and I can hardly navigate this forum! Blessings.
 
Dear Bailey2, I’m glad that you have had a change of heart and decided to stay. I try to give my opinions on threads that I see on here from time to time, and I do this knowing that not everyone is always going to agree with me. for the most part, I just try to offer helpful advice to people who are seeking advice, and I stay away from the threads that look like they are just an argument waiting to happen. sometimes people may respond to something that you, I, or someone else writes, and they have taken what we had to say for the exact opposite of what we actually meant. there are other times when someone might feel offended by something that they read, and without really giving it much thought, they just fire away and then feel very badly for doing so later. We are all sinners in need of God’s mercy, and sometimes God gives us the words we need to say exactly when we need to say them, but other times silence, patience and humility are the keys we need. I once heard someone say that the Catholic church is not a museum for Saints, it is a hospital for sinners, and I think that some of us (including me at times) lose track of that thought. I admire you for staying and I would miss having your friendship. Christ is the head, we are the body, and we all need each other more than we know. Does this make any sense, or am I just rambling?
 
Bailey2 said:
For the last 4 days, I have been notifying a few of you of my intent to permanently dis-enroll from CAF. Two reasons basically: first, feeling like an orange in a cart of apples because of my “un”-orthodoxy, distaste for being “corrected” rather than discussed with, and uncertainty I was being helpful because of possibly being viewed as one of those “bad” Catholics who might lead the young astray. The second reason is that I am supposed to be writing a book per strong encouragement and guilting by my sp. dir. and I have found myself using this forum for procrastination purposes.

So, after four days of a few of you worried I was “mad,” I thought I’d just air my feelings and dilemmas above. One of you has engaged me in a PM dialogue long enough to make it difficult to sign off! I don’t know if that was intended but it is having that affect.

Per the second reason, I saw my sp. dir. yesterday (who is UN-orthodox, by the way–🤷), who basically said two words, self-discipline and boundaries. He also said in essence, lighten up. Strange for someone who is not a fan of CA and CAF.

So now I’m re-considering and I thought that perhaps there are some who would be glad to see me go and some who would like to see me stay. Feel free to address those two reasons. Even if I stay, it would help my feelings about this place. But I thought it would be unfair to just disappear or be mad/hurt and not be open to (name removed by moderator)ut. You guys are people too. 😃
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While I do not know you, please realize you are not alone in these feelings. At times, I think coming to these forums, and having to deal with the attitudes of a number of regular members, is a true test of my faith!

Internet forums bring out all types. I’d be willing to bet that there are MANY on these forums who come off as being Super duper orthodox\holier than anyone, that live a greater life of sin than the majority of the non faith practicing public.

Remember. This is the internet. It’s good, and bad. Stick around, and listen to you SD. Lighten up, and enjoy the ride. 🙂
 
Bailey2 said:
Teneas, please don’t be impressed with a book writing venture. It’s just a part-time job like any other. I’m sure there are plenty of writers and authors on this site …
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Tell me about i. 😛
 
Bailey2 said:
I’ve been thinking about this on and off today…

Perhaps instead of permanently signing off as a way to force my self-discipline or avoid confrontation… I should simply do as several of you have said, limit my time and posts here.

As for those of you who say you feel the same way I do, why the heck don’t you befriend me? I came here for friends and found myself alienating myself instead. 😦 Another reason I was getting off here… I mean I’d welcome interaction with everyone but I understand how some probably wouldn’t want that. I just thought I was quite alone in my feelings here and most would simply be happy to see me leave.

OK, thanks.
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:(Hello Bailey2, I do not know you or what you post about but you seem so sad to me and i know the feeling. What kind of book will you write? On being a good Christian or children’s books? What is your experience of these two? I am going to your site to make friends with you.OK? Guess what? I do mean it if you don’t mind a Protestant being your friend, perhaps you can teach me and try to convince me that i am where i should be? raggetyann Thank You!
 
raggetyann said:
:(Hello Bailey2, I do not know you or what you post about but you seem so sad to me and i know the feeling. What kind of book will you write? On being a good Christian or children’s books? What is your experience of these two? I am going to your site to make friends with you.OK? Guess what? I do mean it if you don’t mind a Protestant being your friend, perhaps you can teach me and try to convince me that i am where i should be? raggetyann Thank You!
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Hey thanks for befriending me!! 🙂
I have lots of Protestant friends; makes no difference to me. I tend not to try to convert anyone. Blessed Mother Teresa of Calcutta never did so I don’t presume to be wiser than her. :rolleyes:

And yes, I was sad. But no longer as I said above… see ya soon here! 🙂

PS. My book is a non-fiction. I am keeping the topic to myself (see above).
 
Sailor_Kenshin said:
This should totally have read, ‘Tell me about IT.’

There’s more than enough ‘i’ in my life.
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I just got back from my son’s hockey tournament (been gone since Friday). What is the IT? My wanting to leave (which I don’t anymore)? My book (which is under wraps except for what I said above–it is non-fiction).
 
Bailey2 said:
I just got back from my son’s hockey tournament (been gone since Friday). What is the IT? My wanting to leave (which I don’t anymore)? My book (which is under wraps except for what I said above–it is non-fiction).
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Ah, no—the IT is the fact that there are authors on here and they (we?) will tell you it’s just another part-time job.
 
Bailey2 said:
Hey thanks for befriending me!! 🙂
I have lots of Protestant friends; makes no difference to me. I tend not to try to convert anyone. Blessed Mother Teresa of Calcutta never did so I don’t presume to be wiser than her. :rolleyes:

And yes, I was sad. But no longer as I said above… see ya soon here! 🙂

PS. My book is a non-fiction. I am keeping the topic to myself (see above).
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hey never thought of letting others know that I would consider leaving a chat arena…but?
Good for you what ever you do we are all here to “love the master in loving others” not judge others, however there is a place for “DISCERNMENT” OK! So saying that no problems with any thing you might say but keep on keeping on being yourself.
Godbless
littleone
 
Bailey, I understand your feelings about CAF; I, too, have been discouraged at times because it seems that, rather than engage in fair and respectful discussion, certain individuals would rather “play God” and make judgements about those contributors whose opinions differ from their own. In fact, I haven’t contributed in months and am now trying again! Some people seem to feel there is one, and only one way to be a Catholic in the twenty-first century, they know just exactly what that way is, and there is no room for differences in approach or opinion. I’m optimistic about a fair and adult way of communicating and discussing this time around!
Alisa
 
Alisa said:
Bailey, I understand your feelings about CAF; I, too, have been discouraged at times because it seems that, rather than engage in fair and respectful discussion, certain individuals would rather “play God” and make judgements about those contributors whose opinions differ from their own. In fact, I haven’t contributed in months and am now trying again! Some people seem to feel there is one, and only one way to be a Catholic in the twenty-first century, they know just exactly what that way is, and there is no room for differences in approach or opinion. I’m optimistic about a fair and adult way of communicating and discussing this time around!
Alisa
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I’m very glad you’ve reverted to Christ’s Body, the Way, the Truth and the Life :D. I love to hear about reverts or converts!!!
 
Well, I’m not exactly a “revert” right now. That is, of course I receive the Sacraments with my family and participate in Catholic retreats, etc. It’s just that, with specific reference to CAF, I’ve noticed a lack of ability on the part of *some *of the contributors to participate in a respectful “give and take” type of discussion on many of the important issues we face. Thank you for your kind comments!
Alisa
 
Hi Bailey, since you are one of my few official CAF friends, I’m glad you are staying. If I get exasperated, I often go hang out in the clubhouse forums or in the spirituality forum. Some of the other forums are a little too heated for me.

I got on the forums after I had a miscarriage and was horribly depressed (compounded by seasonal depression). It was a real escape for me.

I’ve learned alot esp. about not just giving my opinion on Catholic matters, but learning to research documents to support my answers. As a result, I think my theology has more clarity. I don’t think I’ve ever convinced anyone else. But, I’m a better informed Catholic for CAF.

I also have had lots of personal support for several difficulties, including overcoming my depression after my miscarriage. I try to return that support to others, even though that’s not necessarily my best strength. I hope I haven’t hurt anyone, though once, I gave a really vicious response to a catty comment. I really regret it.

Overall, CAF has been a blessing to me. Though, at times, it hasn’t. I hope that overtime, it becomes a blessing to you.
 
This is so weird, but I started another thread on Staying at CAF and yet this one continues to have posts! Hey guys, go ahead to the other one! And that way, no more drama! (cute, wise guy above)😃
 
Bailey2 said:
This is so weird, but I started another thread on Staying at CAF and yet this one continues to have posts! Hey guys, go ahead to the other one! And that way, no more drama! (cute, wise guy above)😃
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Bailey2, where is your other thread located? I am not that use to this yet, can you guide me there? Thank you raggetyann.🙂
 
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