HomeschoolDad:
And as far as prom dates go, if I were running the school, there would be no “prom dates” — everyone would be encouraged to attend, to wear formal dress, with the girls coming in groups, and the boys coming either in groups or “stag” as they saw fit.
Is that reasonable in dealing with young adults? I mean, they are going off to be on their own in college (or in the military!) where they will experiment with all sorts of things – I would not relegate them to a ‘junior high’ sort of event.
Have you ever been a high school girl who didn’t get asked to the prom, and had to stay home while the more “popular” girls got asked? Go to school the next morning, or on Monday if it was on a weekend, and be “the one” who didn’t go?
Neither have I. (For one thing, I’m a guy.) I have to imagine that this would be one of the most hurtful things a high school girl could go through. Put yourself in her place. Let that soak in.
If you have single-sex groups meeting up at the prom, then everyone gets to go, and “not having a date” is no disgrace. I also have in mind, perhaps, of making the prom an “all-girls’ cotillion” of sorts, where everyone gets to “shine” equally, again, with no stigma of “not having a date”, and the young men are assembled as a group as well. This could also be a way to teach the young men valuable lessons in etiquette and chivalry — dance with
all the girls, not just the most “popular” ones, and put your best foot forward. Create an environment where everybody can just enjoy everybody else’s company, where one’s best manners can be on display. If there are any “steady couples” (something I would really like to see discouraged at a high school level), they’ll eventually pair off, and everybody gets to have a nice time. It could even fuel new romances that didn’t exist before!
In a perfect world, schools of that age group should be single-sex anyway, and such proms, cotillions, and balls should be a joint effort of male and female schools. Pius XI warned of the errors and pitfalls of co-education in his encyclical
Divini illius magistri (1929). Traditionally, even non-Catholic and secular institutions were often single-gender.