Loud children at Mass. thoughts?

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But silence is the expectation at Mass, and it isn’t the expectation at museums, restaurants, and other such places. Same thing with sitting still. While there are more tight boundaries in those places, it isn’t the same as sit up perfectly in your pew and don’t move for an hour at a time.
 
Well we knew the prayers from a pretty young age, and the songs, so we joined in on those so we didn’t have to be completely silent. And for they younger kids my mom had age-appropriate religious books she would bring for those who couldn’t read yet (picture books).

Anyhow, I really didn’t mean for my comments here to cause upset. I think any family that is taking their kids to Mass and are doing their best to teach them about it and how to behave are doing a fine job. Normal, healthy people don’t expect perfection from kids (theirs or anybody elses). I wouldn’t worry too much about what other people think if that is what is going on.
 
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School age kids misbehaving in mass that bady? Really? And the priest approves?
 
Yes, I do agree with you. Some posters were saying no children under 4. Crazy talk. My children did have to leave when misbehaving. Now they are altar servers.
 
Get a missal and follow along, or offer to hold a baby so they can tend to the other wilder ones.
 
Do you have children of your own? It’s an unpredictable struggle.
 
Me either. Sometimes they scream as their parent hauls them out the back door, but that is all I’ve ever seen in my life long Catholic practice.
 
My son was about 3.5 when his father was chosen for the washing of the feet on Holy Thursday. Our younger son was 1. I brought one of those Magna doodles with us because I figured it was quiet and might keep him happy. Well, right when they washing started, my son, who was learning how to read and write letters, writes the word “hat.” I whispered good job, and tried to focus on my husband’s special moment. Then my son erased it and wrote, “fat.” When I ignored it, he held it up higher for me. The row behind us started giggling. I gave him a thumbs up, and quickly erased the word. Then he wrote, “fart.” I’m sure he didn’t know what he was writing, but that really set off everyone around us. I felt so awful that we had disrupted the sanctity of the Mass. It was totally embarrassing, and in hindsight I realized I should have taken the Magnadoodle away, but it was what it was. My husband said later that he noticed people laughing but didn’t realize we were the cause.
 
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Children are so innocent. I remember we were having Easter Mass with our (bald) Bishop and my brother was about 3. They had just processed in and Mass was getting underway and my brother points to the Bishop and says “That man doesn’t have any hair!” I am sure the Bishop was wishing he had worn his “hat” that day. The whole church errupted. Good times. 🙂 Of course, my mother was mortified, as was my dad. Nothing you can do at that point, though.
 
I’m sure the Bishop had heard worse! I actually love some of those types of moments with children in Mass. Sometimes you can just feel the community’s love of children and that is a good thing.
 
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ColorMomma:
Do you have children of your own? It’s an unpredictable struggle.
I do. All grown up, now, though! We never had any of the problems I am reading about here. Maybe I was just lucky.
The more kids you have, the more chances you have to hit the jackpot. 😄

I am very grateful for my more challenging children (2 of the 6) as they have taught me tremendous compassion toward children and other parents. If I didn’t have them in the mix, I would be an extremely arrogant parent, full of advice about how to do things to get the desired results.
 
I love it! 🤣

I’ll add my own. It was about the second Sunday of Easter, and our priest was sprinkling baptismal water on everybody. That’s when my feisty three-year-old shouted, “HEY!!! ?YOU STOP SLASHING ME!!!” I’m so grateful we had a priest capable of keeling over in laughter!
 
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If the child is being persistently loud, take them outside, calm them down, and then return.
As far as I’m concerned that teaches the child I get out of Mass if I’m loud enough.
Well, kids here become loud usually because they get hungry, are in pain or are simply agitaded. I’m talking about kids before the age of reason (less than 6-7 years old).

This kind of thought in kids you pointed out hasn’t been registered where I go to yet simply because they can’t reason in such a way.

Finally, if any kid is able to reason this way, then I see no problem at all. This is actually a good moment for the parent to teach the kid not to be loud inside the temple. And it is also a sign that the parent didn’t teach adequately the importance of the Mass.
 
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But yes, I do not really mind kids misbehaving as long as their parents are really trying to quiet them down…what I really mind are parents who do nothing, and do not care that their kids are going haywire at mass.
So, my husband is this parent. :hugs:😡
😩😩😩 This is my husband, too! Totally oblivious! I’m so glad it’s not just me!
Oh ladies! Your husbands may have received some of my evil stares then!

But more importantly….how do they do this? This is an artform! When kids decide to throw a tantrum, it is almost imposible to ignore…maybe you can ask them what their secret is? May help us with the kids at mass… 😉
 
Well, kids here become loud usually because they get hungry, are in pain or are simply agitaded. I’m talking about kids before the age of reason (less than 6-7 years old).
If it’s for something like that then the reason should of course be dealt with.
Finally, if any kid is able to reason this way, then I see no problem at all. This is actually a good moment for the parent to teach the kid not to be loud inside the temple.
Children will be children. And honestly I can see why they’d find Mass boring. I’ve seen somebody here say that her child gets it hard to sit through things that should interest them. On saying that I have no issue with some moving around or chatter.
 
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ColorMomma:
Do you have children of your own? It’s an unpredictable struggle.
I do. All grown up, now, though! We never had any of the problems I am reading about here. Maybe I was just lucky.
Can’t really blame her for asking. All of your posts on this thread referenced your experience as a child rather than as a parent. That seems an unusual way to relate to the topic for someone who has raised children.

Maybe you’re onto something though, that would be an interesting and nostalgic thread topic. I might just make one. 🙂
 
Can’t really blame her for asking. All of your posts on this thread referenced your experience as a child rather than as a parent. That seems an unusual way to relate to the topic for someone who has raised children.
I don’t get the sense that Qwerty raised her kids in the church. Her profile lists her as Agnostic…
 
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My kids knew the importance of mass. They could not sit still. Before you say kids are diagnosed too often withh ADHD I have one the psychaitrist said was in the top 5% of kids with ADD as itwas called then. He is now a supervisor of 5 group homes and has a BS in sociology.
He is also the kid who backed into the candle at his brother’s Baptism and caught his hair on fire. All I saw was his sister hitting on the head trying to get the fire out.
Parents of kids with invisible disabilities have enough to worry about.
 
I don’t get the sense that Qwerty raised her kids in the church. Her profile lists her as Agnostic…
That makes sense. I’m usually lamenting that people don’t fill in that info on their profiles and here I was just one click away from the answer!
 
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