Right. They were barren.
Not sure what your point is. That’s exactly what I said.
There is also the fact that some of us wanted a big family and hoped to have one but never met the right person and are not in a financial place to afford adoption.
Agreed. If only my mother received the SS paid in my her 12 children. All gainfully employed and over half paying in the maximum rate. If she were rewarded with more income and security for raising productive citizens as society had historically birth rates wouldn’t be an issue.
We adopted two children without spending a dime on fees, thousands of children in foster care are waiting for parents.
Actually a bit different, single parent households tend to have nearly the same number of children as two parent households.
Do you mean unwed single mothers or divorced single mothers?
The largest denomination in the United States is Roman Catholicism. There are nearly 70 million Catholics in the US, a little over 20% of the population. The number of Muslims is growing, yes…it is *one *percent, and the Pew Research Center estimates it could reach 2% by 2050.
Very good points.
I agree. One would think the Church might conduct some research to understand why the “loss” rate is as high as it is. Why do people cease to go to Mass? Why is acceptance of and adherence to certain elements of the faith or teaching so limited? And a sober assessment of the quality and effectiveness of (Catholic) high school religious education would also be interesting.
Relativism is huge (I say this based on people I know).
Thank you!!!
That’s been my experience as well. Never married mothers in most places we have lived have as many children as married/divorced parents. I know more married people choosing to never have children or to have one child only than I have single parents with only one child.
I could say a lot about this. I’m sympathetic to a degree - I had really rough postpartum depression and motherhood was a hard adjustment, and I also really wanted kids. And some people are better at some ages and stages than others. I stink at toddlerhood, although I’m getting better.
Maybe address that instead of wishing people didn’t exist.Very well said.I could say a lot about this. I’m sympathetic to a degree - I had really rough postpartum depression and motherhood was a hard adjustment, and I also really wanted kids. And some people are better at some ages and stages than others. I stink at toddlerhood, although I’m getting better.
The “backlash” against publicly expressing this kind of thing is, IMO, appropriate. For one thing, children aren’t likely to understand the fine distinctions these mothers are trying to make, and two, what’s the point? They’re here. Deal with it. Make the best of it. For generations we understood that we had to live with the consequences of our actions (and sometimes the actions of others.) If you have to hash it out in therapy, please do. But don’t make public statements about loving your children less than your spouse or wishing you hadn’t had your children. That’s a really, really $%^&% thing to do, even if it’s true. Miss Manners is on to something when she says it’s a mistake in our society to think we have to tell people everything we think and feel.
I think in a society where children were more present and mothers were more a part of the community, this kind of phenomenon wouldn’t exist even in the small way it does now. There’s always been bad mothers (and fathers). But a few generations ago it was easy to get a break from a neighbor or relative and you had other people around you all the time even if you stayed home with your kids. That’s not the case now.
What he said.