Lust

[MS_SURVEYOR]

You are welcome

Sure, I would think that would be fine. It helps to have an anonymous place to go to for help. It helps me

Yeah, there is something about the physical that the spiritual realm recognizes. A few days ago, I was hearing the most terrible things about myself and it would not let up, and then I put something religious on and poof it stopped instantly. Never had that happen before, but it was interesting.

God bless!

Very True! I too struggled not too long ago with Lust. I returned to the church this past Ash Wednesday. Went to confession after 40 years are so. Satan just kicked into high gear. I started praying the Rosary. Satan laid back, but keep putting thoughts in to view. I then got enrolled with a Brown Scapular. Silence! I keep a Rosary at hand at all times. I wear a Brown Scapular always except while showering. I’ve also added a Miraculous Medal. Can’t keep too many weapons!

 

[Darran]

I have began wearing my rosary and keeping it handy, encouraging me to use it. I’ve just now attached my St Philomena’s cord to it. You are bound to be right! I’ll look for a scapular, better the devils catch me armed to the teeth.

From confession last saturday, it’s now wednesday. I don’t know how long if at all I was abstaining before confession. When I meantioned stupification before, it’s starting to kick in a little now. Can barely focus, mind is heavy, becomming harder to become fully involved in prayer. I was listening to the Catholic Answers radio with Matt Fradd yesterday, that is a great help and I would recommend anyone suffering the same to listen to it.

I’m discouraged from making updates like this, but if the community can help me and keep me from making this a “secrecy” you would be helping me a great deal.

 

[emisher]

Darran,

Hang in there man, it can be a tough battle, but there is hope.

A few things:

When you mentioned that you get restless and can’t sit still it reminded me of when I’ve dealt with depression. Depression can cause us to become restless. I’m not trying to diagnose you, just throwing it out there. Sometimes we can be experiencing depression and not really even know it.

Personally I would not recommend fasting right now. I could be wrong, but this has been my experience. Attacking several sins of the flesh at once, I don’t think is a good idea. In my opinion, if you get these attacks where everything becomes clouded and you just want to expereince some pleasure, I would eat a pizza! I’m not kidding. I know that the spiritual directors I’ve read say, take one thing at a time. But like I said, I could be wrong. Just make sure, that if you start eating more, that you keep up the exercising.

Thirdly, you absolutely have to starve your eyes. When I was struggling with this several years ago, I read a book called Every Man’s Battle. It’s not written by Catholics, but it is a good book. They have several stratagies to help you in this. But you really have to turn off the TV, the computer, force yourself to not look at the magazine covers, the ads in the Sunday paper, the jogger on the side of the road. Be onguard against everything. Start exercising your will in little steps like this throughout the day. Keep forcing yourself to not look at these things. Because once these things work there way into our daily lives it becomes harder to avoid the temptation later on when your lying in bed. Men being very visual, we need to get some relief from the constant onslaught of visual eye candy.

Fourthly, don’t linger in bed in the morning. Get up as soon as you can and start doing something. Say your prayers like you do. Keep distracting yourself. It’s an addiction like any other and you have to keep forcing yourself not to do it, like you’ve been doing. Keep exercising your will.

Lastly, what I did was ask Mary to help me to see women in a pure light. I asked her to help remake the image of women that I had been formed with. She did.

Also you should say delieverance prayers against lust. You can get them at St. Mike-org.

And of course keep trying to say a daily Rosary. And use short prayers throughout the day.

God Bless

 

[Leon_Bloy]

Hey, we will pray for you. In fact, I will pray the rosary for you in a church near me (I was on my way there anyway), in just a few minutes.

Some already said some of these things, but:
-get a spiritual director who is “orthodox” but also understanding, who you can trust, and try to go to him exclusively (but if you fall into this sin, the important thing is to get to confession again ASAP, no matter who you have to go to).
-get some holy water from church and use it frequently - sprinkle a bit on your bed before going to sleep when you say your prayers.
-keep saying your rosary and asking our Blessed Mother for help.
-every time you feel the temptation, make a habit of saying a prayer or making the sign of the cross, so that you “replace” it with a holy intention.
-use sacramentals to your advantage… blessed/exorcised St. Benedict medal, crucifix, blessed rosary that you keep with you always, scapular…
-never ever give up.



This in itself does not mean you don’t have a vocation. Don’t let it upset you or worry you - just keep fighting and praying! Jesus loves you and will help you. Never give up.

Also, do you know about this? I recommend it highly!!

angelicwarfare.org/

 

[Elisabetta21]

Please try these two as well. I know I already mentioned them but I think they might really help:

1. Promise Mary you will pray the Rosary every day for an extended period of time. Make a vow to her to pray every day for a year, for example. At the end of that time you can renew it however you please.

I suggest this one because you need to find some way to make sure you are saying the rosary over a long period of time. Without the vow, it can be easy to slack off.

1. Make a vow to God to try as hard as you can to never sin against chastity. I am not saying take a vow of chastity at this point, just a personal vow to promise God that you will try as hard as you might and if you fail you will pick yourself back up and try again, but that you really are going to try with all your might.

Again, the vow will add an element to this that you are missing right now, and which could help you have more fortitude.

Hang in there

 

[Darran]

Please try these two as well. I know I already mentioned them but I think they might really help:

1. Promise Mary you will pray the Rosary every day for an extended period of time. Make a vow to her to pray every day for a year, for example. At the end of that time you can renew it however you please.

I suggest this one because you need to find some way to make sure you are saying the rosary over a long period of time. Without the vow, it can be easy to slack off.

1. Make a vow to God to try as hard as you can to never sin against chastity. I am not saying take a vow of chastity at this point, just a personal vow to promise God that you will try as hard as you might and if you fail you will pick yourself back up and try again, but that you really are going to try with all your might.

Again, the vow will add an element to this that you are missing right now, and which could help you have more fortitude.

Hang in there

Definately! I’m thinking I’ll commit myself to it on Christmas day and stick with it. That really is quite wise to come up with. Just thinking of it, there really isn’t a situation you can ever be in where you can’t say a rosary.

Thanks a lot, I’ll say my rosary tonight and offer it for you.

 

[Elisabetta21]

Definately! I’m thinking I’ll commit myself to it on Christmas day and stick with it. That really is quite wise to come up with. Just thinking of it, there really isn’t a situation you can ever be in where you can’t say a rosary.

Thanks a lot, I’ll say my rosary tonight and offer it for you.

Thank you Back at you!

 

[Darran]

Hey, we will pray for you. In fact, I will pray the rosary for you in a church near me (I was on my way there anyway), in just a few minutes.

Some already said some of these things, but:
-get a spiritual director who is “orthodox” but also understanding, who you can trust, and try to go to him exclusively (but if you fall into this sin, the important thing is to get to confession again ASAP, no matter who you have to go to).
-get some holy water from church and use it frequently - sprinkle a bit on your bed before going to sleep when you say your prayers.
-keep saying your rosary and asking our Blessed Mother for help.
-every time you feel the temptation, make a habit of saying a prayer or making the sign of the cross, so that you “replace” it with a holy intention.
-use sacramentals to your advantage… blessed/exorcised St. Benedict medal, crucifix, blessed rosary that you keep with you always, scapular…
-never ever give up.



This in itself does not mean you don’t have a vocation. Don’t let it upset you or worry you - just keep fighting and praying! Jesus loves you and will help you. Never give up.

Also, do you know about this? I recommend it highly!!

angelicwarfare.org/

God bless you man! I haven’t heard of it, I’ll definately give it a good read. Thanks for the suggestions. Our two parish priests change over on confessions weekly, one I know a lot better than the other. I would love to make it so far as to speak to my regular priest and tell him that I haven’t sinned in this way in the past fortnight.

To be honest, since I found how effective confession is against this (and I’ve also confessed the times when I held it back, but I didn’t know it was an offence) I’ve noticed that we aren’t very well equiped for it around here. One cathedral has started holding confessions regularly now though, which is good.

 

[Darran]

Personally I would not recommend fasting right now. I could be wrong, but this has been my experience. Attacking several sins of the flesh at once, I don’t think is a good idea. In my opinion, if you get these attacks where everything becomes clouded and you just want to expereince some pleasure, I would eat a pizza! I’m not kidding. I know that the spiritual directors I’ve read say, take one thing at a time. But like I said, I could be wrong. Just make sure, that if you start eating more, that you keep up the exercising.

Thirdly, you absolutely have to starve your eyes. When I was struggling with this several years ago, I read a book called Every Man’s Battle. It’s not written by Catholics, but it is a good book. They have several stratagies to help you in this. But you really have to turn off the TV, the computer, force yourself to not look at the magazine covers, the ads in the Sunday paper, the jogger on the side of the road. Be onguard against everything. Start exercising your will in little steps like this throughout the day. Keep forcing yourself to not look at these things. Because once these things work there way into our daily lives it becomes harder to avoid the temptation later on when your lying in bed. Men being very visual, we need to get some relief from the constant onslaught of visual eye candy.

Haha thanks a lot. I think I know what you mean about depression, but I think it might be different. Although in the same sense I stop being able to see things as they really are, it seems that it’s just the outright weight of flesh causing it.

In the book I bought it recommended fasting, I think it does help, I suppose it can only help. Thanks for the suggestion though. Pizza is a good idea haha. I love pizza, would just be afraid of going from one problem to another though

So far as custody of the eyes have gone so far, I’ve done as all of you have said. Kept my head down my eyes well away at every oppertunity, I’ve made myself look like a complete spanner in town doing Christmas shopping, but what does that matter I suppose. I really don’t understand why girls don’t even want to cover up in winter here.

 

[Leon_Bloy]

Thanks - I prayed that rosary for you. Also, try not to think about it too much, because you know how it is when you try not to think about something. The graces will come if you ask for them. Try to say a silent prayer for the soul of any girl you see who prompts the impulses you are trying to get under control. That will help form your interior in a good way, and will also be good for the other person!

 

[Darran]

Thanks - I prayed that rosary for you. Also, try not to think about it too much, because you know how it is when you try not to think about something. The graces will come if you ask for them. Try to say a silent prayer for the soul of any girl you see who prompts the impulses you are trying to get under control. That will help form your interior in a good way, and will also be good for the other person!

I hope all of you have had a great Christmas.

Thank you very much. I have been doing this since you said so, great information. I’ve even gotten myself into a distracting paradox by trying to think about not thinking of it. Haha

It’s not quite 2 confessions yet. I am counting in confessions as opposed to weeks, since this is entirely a spritual progression. None of you will fully understand how much your prayers have helped me, I beg you to continue to pray for me.

“God’s hand is outstretched to you more anxiously than is possible for you to outstretch yours to His. Nothing can resist His force, remember this.”

I now understand more clearly why I was previously unable to pick myself up again before confession when I fell, even though from a human point of view it should have been a “release”. It was God, showing me the vanity of my pride. It’s impossible, absolutely impossible to deliver myself from this sin. It was an error in my thinking to reason that it was possible for me to deliver myself with the help of God. When it’s entirely and soely God who delivers.

Any past failures have been my own failures for denying and pushing away the hand of God who Matt Fradd said recently: “Is more anxious to save you, than a mother is to save her child from a burning building”. In giving our whole selves to God, it is an impossibility of an impossibility to fall to this sin, as nothing can resist His force. I understand this more now than I ever could before, but I’m still in dire need of your help. Please pray for me.

 

[Darran]

Sorry to bump, please pray for me!

 

[Patavium]

Lord,

Sanctify Darran. Darran’s body has been defiled and your temple in Darran is in ashes and destroyed, but WITH YOUR HELP! a NEW temple will be REBUILT!, a beautiful temple worthy of you LORD. A temple where YOU WILL always reside in. Darran’s heart will be pure and open for YOU to reside in, Lord!.

Amen.

 

[Robert_Sock]

I control my libido with Paxil, which I take for depression and anxiety. I believe you can get it for the soul purpose of reducing the libido. It really works well!

 

[fbl9]

I control my libido with Paxil, which I take for depression and anxiety. I believe you can get it for the soul purpose of reducing the libido. It really works well!

Real licorice also has a reducing effect on the libido.

 

[Darran]

Sounds tempting, but that would mean me taking up pride again to want to deliver myself from the sin, as opposed to a complete reliance on God. Nothing learned, it would seem to be the devil wanting to cure a cold in exchange for cancer.

It might be good for someone else, I can’t say, but definately, definately not me. Thank you for the advice in good faith anyway.

 

[Patavium]

Anima Christi, Sanctifica Darran
Corpus Christ, Salva Darran
Aqua Lateris Christi, Lava Darran
Sanguis Christi, Inebria Daran
Passio Christi, Conforta Darran

Dear Lord,

Please continue to Bless Darran, and guide him against temptations of sexual sins.

Amen

 

[Darran]

Thank you very much.

Sorry to bump.

 

[Darran]

I should maybe update. It has now almost been three confessions.

Never, ever, ever over my whole teenage years have I stayed pure for this long. The absolute surrender of the will to God is what it took me so many years to understand. Earlier on in the day today though, I became stupid again like what I tried to explain before. Not as bad as it used to be when I still thought I could do anything, I’ve been preserved from that very well, but I’m sorry to say that I saw a revealing picture in a related video on youtube and I clicked on it. I don’t know why. The page didn’t load, thank God. I don’t know if I would have even watched it if it did, but the fact that I clicked on it I fear will set me up for a worse temptation.

Now all my family have gone back home, confession is on saturday and I’ll be alone almost all day tomorrow. I need your prayers guys, all of your prayers are making a difference.

 

[Patavium]

I should maybe update. It has now almost been three confessions.

Never, ever, ever over my whole teenage years have I stayed pure for this long. The absolute surrender of the will to God is what it took me so many years to understand. Earlier on in the day today though, I became stupid again like what I tried to explain before. Not as bad as it used to be when I still thought I could do anything, I’ve been preserved from that very well, but I’m sorry to say that I saw a revealing picture in a related video on youtube and I clicked on it. I don’t know why. The page didn’t load, thank God. I don’t know if I would have even watched it if it did, but the fact that I clicked on it I fear will set me up for a worse temptation.

Now all my family have gone back home, confession is on saturday and I’ll be alone almost all day tomorrow. I need your prayers guys, all of your prayers are making a difference.

Darran,

Here’s some advice, if you feel tempted, and again feel tempted, turn off the computer, and start praying. Eventually you will be strong enough to close the picture or the video.