Hi everybody, OP here. Wow, so many responses! Thank you all!
To answer a few questions that have come up, yes, my husband was raised Lutheran, but is basically agnostic now. He very much wants our children (ages 6, 3, and 9 mos.) to be raised with a strong Christian faith, and thus has supported me in raising them thus far in the UMC (he comes to church with us, goes to Sunday School with me, encourages the kids to go to Sunday School and Vacation Bible School and Children’s Church, etc.). Over the past year, I have felt led to study the Roman Catholic Church in as much detail as possible–considering the fact that I am a busy and tired mom of three little ones!–and actually I have been in RCIA now for the past several weeks. My husband supports my faith journey and has no problem with me attending RCIA, but he is fairly adamant that he does not want our children raised Catholic. This is a big problem for me(I’ve posted recently about the issue on the Family Life forum), because if I do become Catholic, then I of course want to impart my faith to my children. My husband went to Catholic elementary school and had some negative experiences there–nothing too extreme, but I believe he sees the Catholic faith as a fear-based religion that will drive our children to feel either terrified of sin or desperate to rebel against all the “rules,” or both. He feels that Protestantism is just far more “positive,” and wants to keep raising them in a Protestant faith community. He’s very uncomfortable with even the idea of me taking them to mass, and has gotten more–not less-comfortable with the idea over time. He has no interest at all in going to RCIA with me–not going to happen.
I’m really struggling right now, because as I said, I am a busy and sleepy mom of little ones, and it’s hard to find the time right now to deeply explore all the tenets not only of Catholicism (which I’m doing in RCIA), but also Lutheranism, Anglican Catholicism, etc. Not to mention trying to pin down the theology of the UMC. I am desperate to make the right decision for my family, and I’m so afraid I’m going to fail. Please pray for me, and if you have any suggestions for where to go from here, I’d love to hear them!