Just a couple of thoughts for what they’re worth.
My Mum was an Anglican, not devout, her version of religion was full of superstition mostly. Anyway my sister had married and they had children and became quite successful and then my brother in law died quickly of cancer. My sister coped quite badly and then she fell down the stairs had a brain haemorrhage and was in a coma for sixteen weeks or so. She was thirty or so. She came out of that coma a shadow and eventually died after spending many years in nursing homes. She left four children. My Mum was angry, really angry with God and she never made her peace with Him. It upset and confused me too, how can you console anyone after tragic loss? I can’t, it’s beyond my ken. But the Church has a faith in God which is not shaken because it knows that we cannot know the full Truth, it is beyond our understanding and to try to guess the mind of God is impossible and does us harm I think, because we come to conclusions which are pathogenic to our faith.
I hate the death of my loved ones but believers are promised salvation and eternal life and life to the full! I believe God is concerned with the better part of us, the spirit and once our temple has been destroyed we live on if we remain faithful to our beliefs. We must trust and place that trust in Christ who did not make promises about this world but the next.
When these tragedies happened I was not ready to listen and did not feel like trying to understand such things. We need time to heal, for our anger to subside, when it does God will help him to see love again I’m sure.
Our Lady is also a powerful intercessor in my experience.
