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kage_ar said:
Jelousy is something that shows immaturity or insecurity.

You might want to take a step back and ask if this is the kind or marriage you want to be in, one where your husband is jealous?
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I think that really depends on the situation and couple. My step-dad can be a bit jealous, but he is in no way insecure or immature. He just likes his wife to himself at times when she might be involved with friends.

I don’t think there is anything wrong with a tiny bit of healthy jealousy - I think it shows that we care and are involved and love the other person. I can be a little jealous myself at times, but I don’t think that in any way equates to immaturity or insecurity.

~Liza
 
Scripture does speak about jealousy, and does not count it as part of Charity in 1 Cor chapter 13.

Also see…

1 Cor 3: 1-3

James 3:15
 
I think you out to take a step back a bit.

Scripture also tells us ours is a jealous God.

So perhaps there’s some context to what Becky42 posted
 
kage_ar said:
Scripture does speak about jealousy, and does not count it as part of Charity in 1 Cor chapter 13.

Also see…

1 Cor 3: 1-3

James 3:15
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Well, I suppose I better just give up on my marriage then. I’m hopeless. 🤷

~Liza
 
Dandelion_Wine said:
I think you out to take a step back a bit.

Scripture also tells us ours is a jealous God.

So perhaps there’s some context to what Becky42 posted
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Well, God is lots of things that we humans are not - omiceint, omnipresent, without beginning…
 
lizaanne said:
Well, I suppose I better just give up on my marriage then. I’m hopeless. 🤷

~Liza
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Why? I have many faults and pray/work on them with God’s help.

Back to 1Cor 13, that is a HIGH standard to live up to, but, what we should all strive for.
 
kage_ar said:
Why? I have many faults and pray/work on them with God’s help.

Back to 1Cor 13, that is a HIGH standard to live up to, but, what we should all strive for.
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I don’t consider this to be a fault.

~Liza
 
kage_ar said:
Well, God is lots of things that we humans are not - omiceint, omnipresent, without beginning…
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Yes, but if humans possessed any of these attributes, they wouldn’t be sinful.

God is different, yes, but nothing that is a good for God is at the same time bad for us.

Since Scripture seems to exercise a bit of latitude in its use of the word “jealous”, perhaps Becky should be extended the same courtesy?
 
Sorry ya’ll, it is MY OPINION that jealousy is not a desired trait in a spouse, in a child, in a friend, etc. I would have never married a man who was jealous.

In my experience and study, jealousy is not part of Christian Charity.
 
kage_ar said:
Sorry ya’ll, it is MY OPINION that jealousy is not a desired trait in a spouse, in a child, in a friend, etc. I would have never married a man who was jealous.

In my experience and study, jealousy is not part of Christian Charity.
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I think perhaps other people are using the word jealousy in a different way than you are? Certainly, there are types of jealousy that can be very problematic in a relationship (and are sinful). But I don’t think everyone uses the word in the same way.

The only point I was trying to make is that what Becky meant when she said “jealous” may not be the same thing you think of when you hear the word “jealous”. Thus, we should not jump to conclusions that she is in an unhelathy relationship (which is, I think, how some people interpreted your first post).
 
wow lots has happened since i went to sleep!

ok, joe, i know it is your opinion about it and all but you must admit, you chose to take one word out of my whole post and use it as an argument for me to take a step back in my relationship with my boyfrind! dont you think that is a bit extreme???:eek:

the rest of the posts have almost been a tribute to how good a boyfriend he actually is because he thinks my natural beauty is the most beautiful, which as far as i am concerned means he looves me and can see through any physical skin faults i have to the person within.

when i used the word jelousy, i was really hesistant to use it because it is not quite the word i imeant and yet i could find no other word. all i mean when i say he is jelous is that he looks out for me, he knows i love him with all my heart and he looks after me in that he wouldnt want me to give off the impression that i am ‘open for business’ to the rest of the world through the way i dress when in fact i am not! plus, who doesnt get a teency bit jelous (maybe protective would be a better word to use) when some complete stranger tries to crack onto your girlfriend! really!

i agree with you that strong jelousy, and jelousy of the bad kind is an undesired thing in a relationship but that kind is not present here.

becky

(ok…i need to go to work now! i’ll see what is in store for me when i get back!!😛 )
 
I wish that I could get away with not wearing makeup.

I have very red skin. People ask me if I’m OK, or if I have a fever. (I’m blonde with blue eyes, BTW.)

The dermatologist says it’s rosacea and gave me anti-inflammatories.

And I wear makeup. Green-tinted moisturizer underneath a foundation.

And I look GREAT in my makeup! It is so nice to glance into a mirror and see regular flesh-colored skin.

But I don’t wear eye-makeup because I have hooded eyes. Sometimes if I am playing piano for an evening affair, I will wear some shadow or liner. But mascara is out of the question–the hood obscures it.

And I love to wear lip color, but I usually only wear it in the evening, although I do have a few shades that I can wear during the day. However, my red skin is often accentuated by colored lips.

I think that it is important for a woman to do what makes HER feel attractive. To a man, the most attractive woman is one who is confident of her own beauty, even if she doesn’t fit the world’s view of beauty. If she chooses to wear no makeup, great. If she chooses to paint it on, great. The main thing is appropriateness. I personally think that many women make the mistake of wearing “evening” makeup during the day and vice versa. Or “theater and dinner” makeup to church, and vice versa.

I have to admit, when I see a woman who has skin flaws who wears no makeup, my first thought is that she doesn’t care about herself. I know that’s not true, but I think it anyway. And in the business world, not wearing makeup is usually not acceptable. If a woman doesn’t wear makeup, it is assumed that she doesn’t care about herself, and if she doesn’t care about herself, it is assumed that she doesn’t care about her company, its product, and the customers.

In case people think this is sexist, well, a man is expected to look good, too, and keep his hair and nails groomed, his faced shaved (or well-trimmed if he has facial hair), and his clothing up-to-date and well-fitting. He is also supposed to stay in good shape and it helps if he is tall. So men have their own set of unspoken appearance rules in the business world.

You can complain about it, but it won’t go away just because you don’t like it.

Years ago, I wasn’t wearing makeup at all, but for some reason, decided to start wearing it. When I showed up at for children’s choir practice (I was directing), a little boy, about 8, said,“You look so beautiful today!”

So not all men love a bare face!
 
Becky42 said:
hi guys

not sure if this post belongs here but if not plz feel free to move it!

i just have a question of the ladies (and also the men maybe).

why is it that that i (and possibly other girls) think i look hideous without makeup but my boyfriend thinks i look way better without??

it sounds like a stupid question but i am completely flawed by it! i am pretty sure i am not blind, i can see my imperfect skin!! does he not see it?!??!🤷

is this just me or are there more like me out there?? or…is it as i have been suspecting…my boyfriend is partially blind from playing too many computer games!!!😛
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It’s not just your husband. I remember back in high school having this discussion in class. The overwhelming response from the guys was “Makeup? Yuck!” They all responded that they wanted to see a girl’s real face and not some fake facade.

I know that my two sons, 23 & 25 seem to be of the same school of ‘naked face better than painted face’.

I’ve only ever worn the stuff on stage and was always happy to wipe it off after the performance. I never could justify the expense or the time required to learn how to apply it so that it “looked natural” so figured it made more sense to just “be natural”. That’s why I was so angry several years ago when an airline in the US decided that all its counter agents had to wear makeup and fired a woman who wouldn’t comply – although she had a great work record and certainly didn’t need makeup to look good. Talk about lack of respect for the workers!
 
kage_ar said:
To defend Joe, his step back comment was directed at me 🙂
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Thank you kage_ar. That is correct! 😉

I wasn’t trying to say anything about Becky’s relationship with her boyfriend. In fact, I hoped to achieve exactly the opposite! I guess I should be better about prefacing my post with the name of the person it is directed to! :o
 
When I was a teenager I used to love to pile on the makeup to grab the attention of the older boys in high school. While in college, I began my conversion and opted to wear the most minimal amount of make-up because I wanted to renounce my old vain ways and I actually began thinking I might have the vocation to become a nun. Then, I met my future husband and, naturally, wanted to put my best face forward, so I began wearing makeup but not nearly as much as my teenage days. I like wearing a bit of makeup, especially on my eyes and cheeks. I tend to have dark circles under my eyes, so I like to conceal that and brighten them up so I do not look so worn out. Also, I like to give my cheeks a bit of color during the winter with some blush. My husband actually really likes it when I wear some eyeshadow too. I no longer think it is complete vanity if a woman chooses to wear makeup. God created us as beautiful creatures, His children, and just as most of us agree it is good to make an effort to wear your Sunday best to Mass for God, I think it is okay and a good thing to want to make yourself look the best you can for your spouse. Caking on tons of makeup, though, usually is not the best option, especially when you age for just as young girls wear it to look older, your wrinkles are really highlighted by the excess makeup that makes the creases pop. At least, that is something I noticed in older relatives who do so.
 
Nechasin said:
I’ll start by saying I’m a guy. Beauty is about you and not about what you wear. You are you, including all the flaws that make up you. He probably sees the flaws, but he recognizes them for what they are. You. Sounds like a good guy to me.

I have the same disagreements with my wife all the time. Now the only makeup she puts on has a sunblock to protect her skin. I can’t argue with that. If a woman’s face is too perfect because of the makeup, it may be pretty, but it is not attractive because it is fake. Attraction goes beneath the outside layer. It is about the whole package. It took a long time for my wife to accept this fact.
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As a woman I definitely agree with this. Yeah, I think it takes some of us a really long time to figure this out. 🙂

When I was a teen I wore make-up all the time. My mom took me to a Merle Norman’s type place to learn how to properly apply makeup. When I got into college I quit wearing makeup out of laziness. When dh and I met I did not wear makeup most of the time. I would wear some on special occasions, like our wedding. Now I never wear makeup and have thrown all of what I had out. The only thing you will find in our house is either chapstick or carmex that I use. DD does have play makeup but she rarely uses it. I would guess it’s because I don’t wear any. I have found since I quit wearing makeup that when I did wear it made my face would feel really caked. It did not matter what kind of makeup it was either. We had a lady from Mary Kay come to our play group and showed us their line of makeup. We tried some on and I made this comment to her. She looked at me like I was strange. 😛 She believed it was because I was wearing cheap makeup. The Mary Kay stuff had the same effect. It’s mainly the foundation that causes the caked on feeling.

This thread has made me wonder if makeup actually ages woman? Think about it. All the anti-age stuff out there is either some form of lotion/cream or a form of makeup. Most of it is meant to go on your face too. Hmmmm, I might try researching this to see what I find.
 
Becky42 said:
hi guys

not sure if this post belongs here but if not plz feel free to move it!

i just have a question of the ladies (and also the men maybe).

why is it that that i (and possibly other girls) think i look hideous without makeup but my boyfriend thinks i look way better without??

it sounds like a stupid question but i am completely flawed by it! i am pretty sure i am not blind, i can see my imperfect skin!! does he not see it?!??!🤷

is this just me or are there more like me out there?? or…is it as i have been suspecting…my boyfriend is partially blind from playing too many computer games!!!😛
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When you love a woman, Becky, you don’t look at her with your eyes. You look at her with your heart.
 
Becky42 said:
hi guys

not sure if this post belongs here but if not plz feel free to move it!

i just have a question of the ladies (and also the men maybe).

why is it that that i (and possibly other girls) think i look hideous without makeup but my boyfriend thinks i look way better without??

it sounds like a stupid question but i am completely flawed by it! i am pretty sure i am not blind, i can see my imperfect skin!! does he not see it!!!🤷 …
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Stan Rogers answered this question in his song Lies. He speaks for me, anyway:

At last the kids are gone now for the day.
She reaches for the coffee as the school bus pulls away.
Another day to tend the hous and plan
For Friday at the Legion when she’s dancing with her man.

Sure was a bitter winter but Friday will be fine,
And maybe last year’s Easter dress will serve her one more time.
She’d pass for twenty-nine but for her eyes.
But winter lines are telling wicked lies.

All lies.
All those lines are telling wicked lies.
Lies all lies.
Too many lines there in that face;
Too many to erase or disguise;
They must be telling lies.

Is this the face that won for her the man
Whose amazed and clumsy fingers put that ring upon her hand?
No need to search that mirror for the years.
The menace in their message shouts across the blur of tears.

So this is Beauty’s finish. Like Rodin’s “Belle Heauimiere”,
The pretty maiden trapped inside the ranch wife’s toil and care.
Well, after seven kids, that’s no surprise,
But why cannot her mirror tell her lies?

All lies.
All those lines are telling wicked lies.
Lies all lies.
Too many lines there in that face;
Too many to erase or disguise;
They must be telling lies.

Then she shakes off the bitter web she wove,
And turns to set the mirror, gently, face down by the stove.
She gathers up her apron in her hand,
Pours a cup of coffee, drips Carnation from the can,
And thinks ahead to Friday, 'cause Friday will be fine!
She’ll look up in that weathered face that loves her’s, line for line,
To see that maiden shining in his eyes
And laugh at how her mirror tells her lies!

All lies.
All those lines are telling wicked lies.
Lies all lies.
Too many lines there in that face;
Too many to erase or disguise;
They must be telling lies.
 
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