Making people feel awkward

[joshrp]

Josh, I imagine that the incident with your aunt, and the distress and frustration that her remarks caused you, has a lot to do with your posting this thread. It may be that you weren’t especially popular with your parents because your aunt was critical and extreme, and they liked none of that. Their mixed loyalty blew up in your face.

Perhaps, then, you need to recover, and to realize that you’re not as weird as they think. It’s not pleasant to be accused in the manner you were or to have any family see you in the light you mentioned. You’ve made the situation clearer, and thus more understandable. I’ve been called odd and different, especially when I was around your general age.

You can only speak the truth as you know it, and there was nothing wrong with what you did reply. I hope you can get through this and trust God in your life to continue supporting you when you do your best to do right by God and your just beliefs, while also handling things as wisely as possible. It’s not always easy but is sounds as if you’re doing your best.

Let me give another example. I told my mom that I thought of a good response to give to people who ask us if we are saved. I said that when someone asks me if I am saved, I will tell them “I don’t know. Jesus hasn’t told me yet. Do you know his phone number so I can call Him and ask?”

My mom was like “Stop thinking about that stuff!”

What is the deal with people. My parents complain about Baptists harassing them all the time with this question.

 

[maryjk]

Hi,

It seems like I’m always making the people around me feel awkward. My parents seem to think there is something wrong with me. I don’t know what to do about this.

Joshua

**Honestly, I think some people have a stick up their butt though. ** I have some really good friends and they don’t treat me like this. What most people call socializing is not real socializing. I think it is the other people who don’t have the social skills. They just kind of know how to stroke each other in the right way.

Honestly, I think I can socialize fine. Most other people just don’t know how to talk about ideas. Obviously there are plenty of people who do know how on CAF. But really, I think I’ve just been sticking to a very anti-intellectual crowd who doesn’t appreciate ideas. They just want to talk about movies and TV shows, and video games and rock music. I think I just need to stop hanging around these people and go find people who appreciate a thoughtful conversation. I talk about various subjects and people look at me like I’m crazy. And honestly to me, they don’t say anything that makes sense.

CAF has helped me a lot.

I don’t think I am superior to anyone. Maybe you think I do, but it is not true. I’m just like everyone else. But most people treat my like I am different. Like I am less than human. They treat me like they are fine, and there is something wrong with me. Whenever people disagree with me they call me crazy or stupid. I don’t push my ideas on them, but if they ask me a question I tell them what I know. Sometimes people ask you for what you think, and then when you tell them, they act like you insulted them.

That is just one incident. It is hard to be social when other people around you are hostile to your principles and beliefs. I don’t push my ideas on anyone. I have as much to learn from other people as other people do from me. I benefit from talking with other people. It’s when people start to treat me like what I know doesn’t matter, that I get aggravated.

So many of these statements are red flags. I have to agree with the previous poster, you seem to think that you know more than all and that most people are inferior to you.

If you are willing to share, it sometimes helps to know the age/generation/station of life of the poster. Like for me, I am a home schooling Mom. That tells you a lot about me, without giving away personal information. Are you willing to share your age/generation/station of life?

It sounds like you are a teen. Sorry if I am wrong. And if you are a teen, most likely your friends or people you meet at school are not going to want to talk about your religion. And depending on your station in life, some people are not going to be willing to talk to you about “adult” things. I know I am that way. I feel it is fine to have opinions, but I am going to take them with a grain of salt, because you just haven’t lived that long. The ins and out of life change as you age. I sometimes need to tell my teen that. His father and I may be discussing something, and I don’t really want a 15 year old’s opinion.

 

[Whitacre_Girl]

I’ve read some of your other threads, one of which says you suffer from Asperger’s syndrome. One of the symptoms of that is not having very strong social skills. You should bear this in mind in your social interactions.