Manners: Not rushing out after Holy Communion

[Julia_Mae]

Besides, the “other” could very well be a reality in 2012.

I don’t doubt it.

I have never in my life gone to Mass because I was supposed to.

Not.

One.

Time.

Before we started moving around the country, I went every day. I went more than once on Sundays quite often, because I sang in the choir and felt I couldn’t give the Mass my full attention. Is it because I am such a devout Holy person, gee gosh and so darned obedient wonderful?

Not so much. :nope:

These days, years later in a new place, I go to daily Mass in the evening three times a week usually (which is as often as we have it in the evening) and Saturday night. I’ll tell you why I go as often as I do:

Because God is there.

I personally don’t think God has a bit of interest in the number of times or on what mandatory holy days we go to Mass. I think if you don’t know God is there, you need to stop receiving the Eucharist immediately. I think if you do know God is there, the question you need to answer is: why would I ever want to be anywhere else?

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[ConstantineTG]

I wish people could use as much energy of explaining to others the importance of going to mass and fullfill it, rather than come up with excuses why it is OK to treat the mass and our church like an hourshift.

As I said earlier, if people appreciate the purpose of Mass in our lives, they would stay for the entire thing and laws wouldn’t be necessary to force people to come and stay.

 

[Dymphna82]

Pretty much agree with what Julia said.

And this whole “Other” business, just because you don’t like some people here? What you have to ask yourself is do you believe Jesus is your savior? Do you believe the Catholic church is the one true church?

 

[MissRose73]

I would say leaving after Communion is rude unless you have a pressing reason to leave early or a requirement such as going to work right after Mass or being someone’s care giver as an example. I would say you haven’t fulfilled your Sunday obligation by leaving after Communion unless you have a dire emergency like illness or on call for work etc. You should get there on time (with 5 minutes minimum before Mass starts would be ideal), and stay until after the priest processes out.

 

[MSSheBear]

I hope lisahiku stays on the forum and continues to posts. I value reading a different view. Don’t we all at some time wish we didn’t have to go to Mass? I have but once I was there I felt blessed for having gone. It just seems strange for people to get to Mass and then leave early. Yes, some people do have to leave early but I suspect some people are doing it to save time.

I am looking forward to the next lisahiku post.

 

[YoungTradCath]

I hope lisahiku stays on the forum and continues to posts. I value reading a different view. Don’t we all at some time wish we didn’t have to go to Mass? I have but once I was there I felt blessed for having gone. It just seems strange for people to get to Mass and then leave early. Yes, some people do have to leave early but I suspect some people are doing it to save time.

I am looking forward to the next lisahiku post.

Yeah, but it doesn’t matter why people are missing mass. Unless they can’t control it, for whatever reason, it’s a sin to miss.

I know a woman who tells her 70 year-old mother that “old people don’t have to go to mass” just so she won’t have to go pick her up. No kidding. That’s a sin on the daughter’s fault, though, to be sure.

 

[centurionguard]

If we trivialize leaving Mass down to just manners, people won’t get it.

We need to explain what the Mass is and why its important that people are there for the entire thing.

I agree with you to a point. Most Catholics who go to Church regularly own a Bible and possibly a copy of the Catechism of the Catholic Church which is very self explanatory.

IMHO its not enough to understand and educate oneself about the Mass in ones intellect.

Unless you have a Love for the profound Sacrificial nature of the Mass and the humble miracle that happens on the Altar (in ones Heart), parishioners will continue to leave before the Mass has ended. The problem is transferring the understanding of the Mass from the intellect and safeguarding its ineffable beauty inside ones Heart. This part has to come from a devout prayer life and begging the Holy Spirit to help you love the Mass in your Heart.

 

[MSSheBear]

YoungTradCath: It is sad when the elderly cannot get to Mass. The elderly residents at my mother’s retirement community are lucky if they can attend a Mass once a month. Some of the staff members aren’t helpful about getting them to the center’s monthly Mass and some are too fragile to make it at all. :sad_yes: My mother’s Catholic friends really would like to go to Mass! So if we can go, we should go!

 

[lisahiku]

I don’t doubt it.

I have never in my life gone to Mass because I was supposed to.

Not.

One.

Time.

Before we started moving around the country, I went every day. I went more than once on Sundays quite often, because I sang in the choir and felt I couldn’t give the Mass my full attention. Is it because I am such a devout Holy person, gee gosh and so darned obedient wonderful?

Not so much. :nope:

These days, years later in a new place, I go to daily Mass in the evening three times a week usually (which is as often as we have it in the evening) and Saturday night. I’ll tell you why I go as often as I do:

Because God is there.

I personally don’t think God has a bit of interest in the number of times or on what mandatory holy days we go to Mass. I think if you don’t know God is there, you need to stop receiving the Eucharist immediately. I think if you do know God is there, the question you need to answer is: why would I ever want to be anywhere else?

But the feeling I have is that it would do you a world of good to leave for a while. You sound pretty much like an atheist to me. I think you should go. Someday, when what you know you are longing for and never finding is God, then you’ll stop caring about what anyone says you should do.

I’d say you definitely need to get off this forum, though.

Really? I should get off this forum? Maybe people like YOU who think they are better than
others because they are catholic should get off.
I sound like an athiest? The first ten sentences of your post are full of pride.

 

[lisahiku]

These days, years later in a new place, I go to daily Mass in the evening three times a week usually (which is as often as we have it in the evening) and Saturday night. I’ll tell you why I go as often as I do:

Because God is there.

This might come as a surprise to you, but God is EVERYWHERE!!!
source: First grade ccd.

 

[lisahiku]

I hope lisahiku stays on the forum and continues to posts. I value reading a different view. Don’t we all at some time wish we didn’t have to go to Mass? I have but once I was there I felt blessed for having gone. It just seems strange for people to get to Mass and then leave early. Yes, some people do have to leave early but I suspect some people are doing it to save time.

I am looking forward to the next lisahiku post.

Thanks for your kind words. And I was commenting on leaving early. Not missing mass 100%.

 

[Michael_Francis]

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[NewsTheMan]

This might come as a surprise to you, but God is EVERYWHERE!!!
source: First grade ccd.

But God is sacramentally present in a Catholic Church. He is there in a special way. God is not in your toaster or pillow, but he is in the Eucharist in the Tabernacle. Saying that God is everywhere is true in a very limited sense, but can come off as pantheistic.

 

[Gordon_Sims]

I go to our parish’s low Mass 80-90% of the time. You’d think this wouldn’t be as big of a problem at a Mass that usually clocks in at just under 30 minutes, but it’s often just as bad as the high Mass. I’ve seen people show up just before (or halfway through) the Gospel and leave right after taking Communion (usually the same groups of people). Several others, although they arrive on time, always leave as soon as they get Communion. They don’t even bother returning to their seats; it’s grab the host and go straight to the doors. This can be very distracting depending on where they sit and which door they go out. A couple people have given me a hard time over going for the “McMass” each week (I actually prefer the simplicity of it compared to the high Mass), but at least I stay for the whole thing, as opposed to these others who can only spare 8-23 minutes each week.

Even when we go to longer Masses, I make sure we don’t leave until the priest has completed his recession, or the choir finishes singing, whichever comes last. I was brought up that way and make sure my family does the same. It drives my daughters nuts occasionally, but they’re catching on.

 

[jps23430]

Your pastors opinion differs from what other pastors have taught me.
And yes, other music used is also objectionable and were it possible for me to avoid it and meet my Mass obligation, I would do so.
There is however, a line I will not cross.
If the music is sacrilegious, I am out of there, Mass obligation notwithstanding.
I will not condone outright sacrilege with my presence.
Fortunately the times this has happened, I have been able to make the late morning Mass in the big city.

Are you just going to mass looking for things to find wrong with it?

 

[agw123]

I go to our parish’s low Mass 80-90% of the time. You’d think this wouldn’t be as big of a problem at a Mass that usually clocks in at just under 30 minutes, but it’s often just as bad as the high Mass. I’ve seen people show up just before (or halfway through) the Gospel and leave right after taking Communion (usually the same groups of people). Several others, although they arrive on time, always leave as soon as they get Communion. They don’t even bother returning to their seats; it’s grab the host and go straight to the doors. This can be very distracting depending on where they sit and which door they go out. A couple people have given me a hard time over going for the “McMass” each week (I actually prefer the simplicity of it compared to the high Mass), but at least I stay for the whole thing, as opposed to these others who can only spare 8-23 minutes each week.

Even when we go to longer Masses, I make sure we don’t leave until the priest has completed his recession, or the choir finishes singing, whichever comes last. I was brought up that way and make sure my family does the same. It drives my daughters nuts occasionally, but they’re catching on.

Technically isnt the mass over when Father says “The Mass is Ended, let us go in peace…”

Out of respect for Father and God, I wait until the recessional passes before leaving, but if you waited for the choir and cantor to finish, you’d might be there a while in my Church

 

[TheMc]

Technically isnt the mass over when Father says “The Mass is Ended, let us go in peace…”

Out of respect for Father and God, I wait until the recessional passes before leaving, but if you waited for the choir and cantor to finish, you’d might be there a while in my Church

Technically, the Mass is over when he says the dismissal.

 

[roadsend]

Are you just going to mass looking for things to find wrong with it?

Simple answer, no.
I do a seven hour round trip to Mass whenever I can to avoid the sacrilege, banality, and disregard for the laws and teachings of the Church that I find in more local Masses. Don’t have to look much to find this kind of stuff. It hits you right over the head.

 

[MSSheBear]

Simple answer, no.
I do a seven hour round trip to Mass whenever I can to avoid the sacrilege, banality, and disregard for the laws and teachings of the Church that I find in more local Masses. Don’t have to look much to find this kind of stuff. It hits you right over the head.

Seven-hour round trip to go to a reverent Mass That is dedication for you. Except I didn’t realize banality was a liturgical abuse. I have learned of a parish in my area that apparently does violates the rules and yes, I will avoid it. Honestly I am too new to know for sure what is okay and what is not so I have to take other people’s word for it.

I somehow got the idea the we weren’t suppose to leave before the priest out of respect for him. The Protestant churches I have gone to rarely had people leave early because of the fellowshipping opportunity right after church certainly not out of respect for the pastor.

I do realize that sometimes people do have to leave early so I don’t automatically assume that they are being disrespectful.