Mantilla

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I don’t wear a mantilla, but a scarf. I call it my blinder, b/c it keeps me focused on the Lord! 🙂 Sometimes I get the urge to look about, and it reminds me focus, focus. I’ve been wearing it for a while and now it just doesn’t feel right to me to enter church without my head covered.

Some ladies wear other options: mantilla, hats, and those little lace caps – a doily?? I’m sorry, I don’t know what it’s called!
 
amsjj said:
Some ladies wear other options: mantilla, hats, and those little lace caps – a doily?? I’m sorry, I don’t know what it’s called!
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A chapel cap 👋

(I just wanted to use that smile, it is cute)
 
I think I may order one for myself and wear it also. I do want to talk with my priest about it just to get his thoughts, but I really feel the Lord calling me to make some changes.
 
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I don’t want people to stare at me, I know, that shouldn’t be a thought that I worry about if I feel the Lord calling me to do this, yet, it is.
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Knowing the ladies in my parish, if someone stares, it’s probably because she’s wondering where you got the mantilla. 👍

I am one of very few Catholic women in my area who covers her head at Mass, and one of even fewer who covers in daily life (I wear a cover about 75% of the time, and always at Mass). No one has ever been anything but supportive, though. When asked, I tell folks that I get a lot out of it as a devotion and I feel led to do it, which sounds like it would work for you. In other words, don’t worry about what people think–it’s really not as big an issue as you might make it out to be.

Jag, I don’t (usually) pray unless I’m covering my head, which is why I wear a cover all the time. I don’t really make a judgement as to should or should not, but that’s how I feel led to do it.

Kolbelover, I love your statement about loving your sisters as God intended. It reminds me of what a Muslim woman said once about veiling: “If you’re going to admire me, admire me for my mind and my faith and leave my body out of it. If I’m not married to you, then my physical appearance has no place in our interaction.” Sing it, sister! When I started wearing a headcover, I thought of it as an act of “symbolic modesty,” a reminder of my personal boundaries, and a major statement that I was not there to be sexually useful to anyone else. A headcovering asserts my dignity as a woman who belongs to God. In fact, my MIL and I sometimes refer to my headcovering as a “tiara,” since it makes me feel like a princess (y’know, daughter of the King…)

For the bridesmaids and in other situations where you feel moved to cover but want to keep it as subtle as possible, I suggest a cover like these made in lace or a sheer fabric the same color as your hair. I have job interviews coming up and that’s what I’ll be doing for those, and God willing, at the office.

Have fun, and welcome to the covered-melon club 😛 :rolleyes:

-S-
 
Have you covered your head in the workplace before? If so, what was their reaction?
 
JOL said:
Have you covered your head in the workplace before? If so, what was their reaction?
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This I have never done.

I do know one gal I used to work with was a Muslim and she did wear a wrap/scarf on her head most of the time. Because it had to do with her religion, she was allowed to do it.
 
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Have you covered your head in the workplace before? If so, what was their reaction?
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I have worn a cover at two different workplaces: An office and a retail store. Neither employer ever said word one, but I did get the occasional compliment 👍. It should be mentioned that I have kind of a “bohemian” style of dress anyway and the kerchief/tichel/whatever that I wear fits right in with it.

The office where I worked was a small writing firm where I was the office manager/receptionist/everybody’s mom. We had a fairly freestyle dress code except when clients were visiting, in which case it was all suits and heels (for most of my tenure, the office was all women). I never did wear a cover when clients visited, and I wonder what their reaction would have been. I was working at this job when I started to dress modestly and cover and when I returned to the faith (in that order–I’ll tell you about it some other time).

When I applied at the retail store, I interviewed in a cover (white silk kerchief) and then never showed up without one, so it was pretty clear that I wore it for religious purposes and they just accepted it that way, or they just figured it was part of my style. I also wore a skirt most of the time and I got a lot more guff for that! I didn’t work there for very long (they didn’t pay much and didn’t have benefits), but no one ever gave me trouble about my scarf.

I am prepared to claim a religious right to wear fabric on my head in the workplace, but I figure that in order to do so I need to be committed to wearing a covering every day. I also probably need to be prepared to negotiate as to the kind of covering I wear–since I’m pretty flexible in that regard it shouldn’t be a problem. I don’t really own anything shocking, but a paisley bandana is probably not appropriate office wear. I have a job interview tomorrow at an architectural consulting firm (pray for me), and I will be wearing a subtle black covering that matches my dress.
 
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