What specifically were you told regarding the vasectomy “posing a problem”, and by whom?
Not necessarly, however you should consider reversing it if that is possible. You should make sure that your pastor understands the circumstances.
I still don’t think there is an impedment to getting Married. Good job on the kids and as you and I said they are a HOOT.
At 64 years of age what’s the point? Its over and done and all in the past. Reversals are not all that sure and easy. As for contrition for having had it, not being a Catholic and probably being unaware that it was wrong at the time. Where’s the sin? At 64 most men have more sense than to marry a young chickee that can still have kids. The chance of any new child reaching adulthood before the young chickee drives him into cardiac arrest is fairly slim. I know there are exceptions but being a Grandfather at this stage in life is a lot more appropriate than looking to procreate yet once again.
I of course posted my answer after only reading your original post, before knowing more of your details. Even though, God’s moral law of all sexual acts between husband and wife being open to the possibility of new life, even if it seems new life may not be possible is still valid. Also notice that I said you should consider it, not that it was required for the validity of the Marriage. Any Marriage entered into with the intention of excluding the possibility of children is considered an invalid Marriage. Entering a Marriage with a vasectomy would most likely be considered entering Marriage with the intention of excluding children. The best place to ask would be the priest preparing you for the Sacrament of Marriage. I have told you in a general way the basic application of Canon Law. I am in no position to speak to your specific case and canon law, nor would I even try.At 64 years of age what’s the point? Its over and done and all in the past. Reversals are not all that sure and easy. As for contrition for having had it, not being a Catholic and probably being unaware that it was wrong at the time. Where’s the sin? At 64 most men have more sense than to marry a young chickee that can still have kids. The chance of any new child reaching adulthood before the young chickee drives him into cardiac arrest is fairly slim. I know there are exceptions but being a Grandfather at this stage in life is a lot more appropriate than looking to procreate yet once again.
You should probably post your question in the Ask the Apologist forum to get an “official” answer.
I think I gave as much an official answer as possible in a public forum!!
Unless I missed it, nowhere do you state how you “found this out” after 3 years of marriage preparation. Who told you? what was his authority, when and how fully did you discuss this with the priest preparing you for marriage? as has been stated, many times here, and in response to your request for authority, the priest is that authority. we can give general answers here. If you do a search in the AAA forum under vasectomy you will find several references to answers citing canon law and other authority. which is great. but if you want direction in your personal situation, urgent since you have been given misinformation, see the priest who is preparing you for marriage.
I’m not discounting your advice at all. It just seems the OP may have thought he wasn’t asking (mostly) lay people when he posted the question. I thought since he was new to the forum he didn’t really understand that.
I think at age 65 that would unnecessary.
Hey, remember what happened to Sarah in the bible!
