I can see this, but lemme ask you this-
These colleagues knew you were married?
Did you take your ring off?
Did your husband know these guys? (or most of them)
Look I dance like Bill Cosby, D does pretty good. I’ve been places where she danced with friends while I sat talking with the guys, I could care less. But if the situation is the one in the OP, noway.
The part about taking your ring off prolly a moot point, in this day and time, just jewlry to many out there in the secular world.
This is a great post like many have said already. If it is coming off in the way it sounds, then yes, that is unacceptable and trash behavior, however, she might not have a man at home, maybe she’s lying and doesn’t want a relationship, so she stages this mockery to let the guy understand that exchanging information will not happen. If it is true, then she really wants to get out and do more things and her husband is not keen on dancing.
There was an episode of Everybody Loves Raymond, where Debra was Dancing with Robert(her brother-in-law) often, Ray’s brother, and Ray didn’t mind because he is all sport involved and doesn’t care for dancing. Eventually Robert and Debra were so good and having so much fun, it made Ray jealous.
The situation described from the first poster was different in that it crosses a line when you do the slow dances with someone. Interesting to know you single guys are going through the same thing.
This is all I encounter. Men making themselves sound and seem single, I have had various conversations with the same men and they never seem to bring their wife or gf into the conversation. No one wears a ring! It is not just me, this is mostly what I have had to deal with post-college. A friend had hit it off at a party last summer, and upon the gentleman asking to exchange information, my friend got all defensive and said in a rather serious/focused tone, “Why? You got a wife? A girlfriend?” He said “no,” to where we found out later from his roommate he was lying, (truth was he has had a gf for a while but this is a way some men keep their options open when they care little for them).
Maybe friends first could work out better with this stuff? If not, then I say an interrogation room is just fine with me. No more Miss Nice! Nothing you can really do, there is no screening for this kind of stuff at any singles event.
A story:
I liked a guy when we were involved in a show together in college, get this, we had rehearsals for six weeks, went out to cast parties every weekend, his game was on, but I still couldn’t figure him out, some awkwardness in his demeanor. Sure enough he shows up to opening night with a woman…who happens to be his 4-year live-in girlfriend! WOW…in all that time he never shared one story about her to me, or any other cast member. He never loved this woman, she was just accessible to him. I, along with two other cast-mates helped him move, and no sign of woman’s things that time. I never got too close or dated, new people are special cases where you need the time to find out about them, even though it was flirting, wow, how disrespectful was that…they broke up, she moved back to her hometown and married someone else, he then pursued me, to which I backed off thinking he will just do the same to me, and she can’t stop calling him within her marriage. Holy soap opera batman!
Sorry Bama if this is too long, I know my posts tend to wear you out!
