Married vows health

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Why are you making excuses for this woman neglecting her health?
 
Elf01 said:
She may need a break from the children though. How old are they?
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irishguy1970 said:
18 14 and 8 all in school 8 hours a day
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Raising teenagers can take a lot out of a parent. I know I have a great deal of anxiety about my pre-teen and teens.

I am guessing they are in school only 180 days a year, leaving another 185 days of full-time parenting.
 
If the doc says her bloodwork is fine, I am guessing he gave a clean bill of health, it seems odd to worry that she has some health issue. There is a great little book by Fr Phillipe “Searching For and Maintaining Peace”,it might help you put these worries aside?

Have you looked at a Retrouvaille weekend?
 
Here’s some advice I read in an article:

Every day, ask your wife – sincerely, helpfully, lovingly, and not condescendingly – “What can I do for you?”

or “What can I do for you today?” or “What can I do for you right now?”

Then stop talking for a moment, listen, try to understand what she says, and do what you can do for her.
 
her issue is joint pain lack of energy ----- see blood will only tell you certain things ----- at 46 she larady is out of wind and can’t make it up stair easily - she has no energy to play with the kids - now what about at 58
 
I know I have a great deal of anxiety about my pre-teen and teens.

I am guessing they are in school only 180 days a year, leaving another 185 days of full-time parenting.

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thats me ------ ok sounds fictitious but its true ----- laundry 80% cooking 100% - cleaning 70% kids sports coaching playing 100% - housework 50% and I hired a maid to do the deep cleaning I just don’t have the time… making love ------ I do all the work - on a personal note its not sex to me it is truly making love - and that has become physically difficult
 
That is not Retrouvaille. I’d be booking Retrouvaille so quick it would make a sonic boom.
 
One more thing: Pray.

Pray for her. Pray for her well being. Pray for her happiness.

I would suggest that you avoid, whenever possible, praying for what you want her to be, for example, for her to lose weight or be more active for your benefit.

Pray for your marriage. I mean “your” as in both of yours mutually, and more. It might be helpful to think of the marriage as a third entity. There is husband and wife, and there is also a partnership-friendship-love which is not his, not hers, but which is the bond between them. Pray for the connection between you to grow stronger.

Pray for your children. In today’s world, they need all the prayers they can get.

Pray also for yourself. Pray for your own health. Pray for peace in your heart. Pray for faith, hope, and love.

I too will pray for you, your wife, your marriage, and your children. 💖
 
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I have looked into it ---- trying to find time for something like that - I booked a week in Maui for just us - in April ---- for us to go I need to have vacation time ----- which is lacking currently
 
A gym membership might be too daunting. You have to CHANGE clothes, GET in the car, GO to the gym, get OUT of the car, DO your workout, SHOWER, CHANGE, and DRIVE HOME. Lots of fuss. Much better if you can get her to do something short, at home. Joint pain at 46–yikes, that’s only going to get worse. If she can make just a few changes and lose just a bit of weight, she’ll do better.
 
I told her hey babe — just get into some workout clothes ---- don’t even go to the gym if you don’t want to ---- oftentimes just dressing the part puts you in that mood ------ said to her to just walk to the end of the block and back takes 10 minutes

the gym membership is really for mom’s if you will CHUZE - full memebership she can bring a freind sauna hydromassage everything - even watch a movie - they have a theater in the gym — jsut to get you to go
 
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