Mass attendance need answer ASAP

[Monica37]

I have a problem this weekend so I hope you guys can give me some advice. I am moving out of state this weekend. The movers are coming to this house to pack up -on Saturday and want to deliver to new house on Monday. It will take every bit of the remainder of that Saturday and Sunday just to get from here to there (with a 12 year old and a 2 year old and 2 big dogs) to get there in time. Also, my husband who is not Catholic and doesn’t see the need for church will likely get extremely frustrated if I try to stop along the way (even if I could plot out a route that would include a Mass). Since Christmas is the next weekend, I’m not sure I could get to Confession. My question is, could this situation be an acceptable reason to miss Mass, or will I have to refrain from receiving on Christmas? Prompt replies will be appreciated as my phone service (and internet service) will be gone tomorrow.
Thanks!

 

[Tantum_ergo]

Ask your priest to release you from Sunday Mass obligation due to the fact that you will be moving and/or in transit for that period. I am sure that he will do so.

 

[kim3260]

This is an extreme circumstance and I truly believe you will not be Sinning. Go see your Priest now before the move with the understanding of next weekend, make your Confession then. Best to you with your move. My Prayers for a safe trip.

 

[netmilsmom]

I have a problem this weekend so I hope you guys can give me some advice.

My hubby did a Microsoft BootCamp a couple of months ago.
He would miss two Sundays and a Holy Day in a different city. Our wonderful Pastor (God Bless him and give him long life) gave him dispensation for all three.

I don’t see a problem with missing mass during your move at all.

 

[palmas85]

I have a problem this weekend so I hope you guys can give me some advice. I am moving out of state this weekend. The movers are coming to this house to pack up -on Saturday and want to deliver to new house on Monday. It will take every bit of the remainder of that Saturday and Sunday just to get from here to there (with a 12 year old and a 2 year old and 2 big dogs) to get there in time. Also, my husband who is not Catholic and doesn’t see the need for church will likely get extremely frustrated if I try to stop along the way (even if I could plot out a route that would include a Mass). Since Christmas is the next weekend, I’m not sure I could get to Confession. My question is, could this situation be an acceptable reason to miss Mass, or will I have to refrain from receiving on Christmas? Prompt replies will be appreciated as my phone service (and internet service) will be gone tomorrow.
Thanks!

The decision that you have made seems to be more about not upsetting your husband than the inability to attend Mass. One of the reasons that the Church used to forbid inter religious marriages was for situations just like this one. Could I ask in what faith the children are being raised and what sort of example it sets for them to have Mass avoided so as to not upset someone? It seems that it could be very confusing for them and even be an indication that the faith need not be taken seriously.

Just my opinion.

 

[1ke]

I would talk to my priest, the other posters are correct that he can guide you and dispense if necessary.

Personally, I would plot a route and use Mass Times to find a church to attend. Hubby and the dogs can sit in the car for an hour.

I’d rent a car and drive separately if I had to. I would not let DH intimidate me, but that’s me.

 

[Monica37]

Thanks for the answers. I will talk to my priest. BTW, in faith my husband is NOT the main reason I am unable to attend. I set a very good example for my children by going to confession regularly, recieving only when I am able and NOT out of habit or sense of entitlement, attending EVERY Sunday and all Holy Days without my husband, going out of my way to try my best to attend even when I am visiting non-Catholic family members and setting my foot down about our children attending Catholic schools. I pray the Rosary in front of him and we say Grace before dinner as a family. Am I perfect, no, but that is the exact reason that Christ gave us the church, because we are not perfect. It is exactly that kind of attitude that makes it so hard for me to get my husband to go to church with me (and my children). No matter how I try to evangelize him with my actions, it never seems to fail that he will finally go to church with me and someone will approach him with that kind of attitude, then he’s done for another year and I am right back to square one. So thanks.

 

[netmilsmom]

No matter how I try to evangelize him with my actions, it never seems to fail that he will finally go to church with me and someone will approach him with that kind of attitude, then he’s done for another year and I am right back to square one. So thanks.

Here’s what worked for me.
I was at at the Happy Catholic Community Parish. My hubby had NO interest in attending mass with us or even going to church. He looked into the Presbyterian church near us but was never motivated.

I stuck a Green scapular under his side of the mattress and prayed to St. Monica for conversion. I never pressured him and even told him that if he was just going to mass with us to find things to slam Catholics about, don’t bother. I found that when I asked or begged him to go, he dug his heels in. When I began telling him that I didn’t want him there, it was a whole different ballgame.

The big miracle came when I moved to a very traditional parish. Suddenly, Our Lord took over.

He converted after only a year in the parish and now is more Catholic than me!

Find a really traditional parish in your new area, stop asking him to go with you, pray, pray, pray and God will do the rest.

 

[wifenmommy]

Hey n-mom!
SAME story here! I would attend Mass with dd. Before we would leave, I would say “hon ya comin?” he would say “nope-don’t think so” and I would give him a peck on the head and go on my merry way. However, we have a binder at the Church entrance for parishners to write down prayer intentions, and every week for about a year, I would write “For my husbands return to the Church and full return to the Sacrements”. I also had a lady from chuch tell me to place a green scapular under his side of the matress and it WORKED!!! He never misses mass now and goes to confession on a regular basis!!

 

[netmilsmom]

Hey n-mom!
SAME story here! I would attend Mass with dd. Before we would leave, I would say “hon ya comin?” he would say “nope-don’t think so” and I would give him a peck on the head and go on my merry way. However, we have a binder at the Church entrance for parishners to write down prayer intentions, and every week for about a year, I would write “For my husbands return to the Church and full return to the Sacrements”. I also had a lady from chuch tell me to place a green scapular under his side of the matress and it WORKED!!! He never misses mass now and goes to confession on a regular basis!!

WOOOOHOOOO!
Gotta love it! Praise Our Lord for prayers answered!

Mine just volunteered to be an Usher!
Life is so good!

 

[wifenmommy]

YES MA’M!! I so feel sorry for those who don’t believe in the power of prayer and who dont believe that God exists!!
Blessings!

 

[Br.Rich_SFO]

I have a problem this weekend so I hope you guys can give me some advice. I am moving out of state this weekend. The movers are coming to this house to pack up -on Saturday and want to deliver to new house on Monday. It will take every bit of the remainder of that Saturday and Sunday just to get from here to there (with a 12 year old and a 2 year old and 2 big dogs) to get there in time. Also, my husband who is not Catholic and doesn’t see the need for church will likely get extremely frustrated if I try to stop along the way (even if I could plot out a route that would include a Mass). Since Christmas is the next weekend, I’m not sure I could get to Confession. My question is, could this situation be an acceptable reason to miss Mass, or will I have to refrain from receiving on Christmas? Prompt replies will be appreciated as my phone service (and internet service) will be gone tomorrow.
Thanks!

Remember now is the time to be planning where you will go for the 4th Sunday of Advent AND for Christmas it is this coming weekend.