Masterbation and confession.

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Brothers, it is with great, disappoint that I report to you, that as a your brother in this battle i fell yesterday and even today. Even as i type this to all of you my soul is in mortal sin. I was ‘sober’ for about 10 months, until a couple of days ago just something very small sparked my arousal. I have been a daily communicant for a while and prayed the rosary daily, even was in the middle of a couple of novenas, then my world came crashing down…I gave into temptaion, I felt like I had been winded so tight sexually…meaning, not experienced erotic fantasies or masturbation, or pornography for so long, the devil told me I was due…sadly I listend to him, not caring for the consequences only until after i commited the act…I felt suh sorrow and so ashamed.
Then today about an hour ago I engaged in pornography, masturbation, fantasies, the works…This sin is HELL,epecially crafted by Satan for us men…and i have become ensnared. As with all the times this has happened i always had the feeling in the back of my head “oh well, i’m screwed anyway, why not” or “I could just go to confession tomorrow” I absolutley hate tjhose thoughts. Has anyone else here experienced this dilemma? And then i feel as if i am using the sacrament if i go. I get the feeling that, I should be sorry, and i want to be sorry, but i don’t “feel” as though I am deeply sorrowful…and i want to be sorrowful for this sin, and i want to have perfect contrition

It was definately premeditated and willed on my part, unfortunately. Now i want forgivness. I hate this sin so badly.
Brothers…Help me.
Been there, done that–all of it. :banghead: The rationalization, the “oh well,” the strangly-feigened-yet-wishfully-sincere contrition. :banghead:

I have to say though, 10 months is pretty darn good.

I find that the longer I go without stumbling the more apt I am to give into lustful thoughts/stares. You know, the kind you hold onto even after you’ve reminded yourself they are sinful–potentially mortal ones at that.

It seems like it never ends. Especially these days when you can’t go 10 minutes in public without seeing some woman scantily clad.
 
Ignatius of Antioch, who was taught by the apostle John, called
the Eucharist “the medicine of immortality” (circa 110 A.D.).

This belief has been maintained and expanded upon by the
Church, which holds, according to the Catholic Encyclopedia,
that the Eucharist is not merely a food, “but a medicine as well…
Just as material food banishes minor bodily weaknesses and
preserves man’s physical strength from being impaired, so does
this food of our souls remove our lesser spiritual ailments and
preserve us from spiritual death. As a union based upon love, the
Holy Eucharist cleanses with its purifying flame the smallest
stains which adhere to the soul, and at the same time serves as
an effective prophylactic against grievous sin. According to the
teaching of the Roman Catechism, [this preservation from mortal
sin by the Eucharist] is effected by the allaying of concupiscence,
which is the chief source of deadly sin, particularly of impurity. **
Therefore it is that spiritual writers recommend frequent Communion
as the most effective remedy against impurity, since its powerful
influence is felt even after other means have proved unavailing.**”
- Catholic Encyclopedia (1908), “The Blessed Eucharist as a Sacrament”.

Read that last sentence again:

“Therefore it is that spiritual writers recommend frequent Communion
as the most effective remedy against impurity, since its powerful
influence is felt even after other means have proved unavailing
.”

Now, this was written in 1908, and they’re being discreet, but
what they are talking about is masturbation. They realize the
difficulties of putting this thing away – how so many efforts in that
regard can fail.

And yet they say, even after all those other efforts have proved
unavailing, frequent Communion can be and is the most effective
remedy.

Whence comes this remarkable power in the Eucharist? As
noted by Abbot Vonier, “The stream of sacramental grace is truly
the flow of the Blood of Christ: in one way or another every
sacrament is the fire of Christ’s love when He was dying on the
Cross” (A Key to the Doctrine of the Eucharist, p. 27).

Thus, the Eucharist puts us into immediate and profound contact,
into communion, with the fire of Christ’s love when He was dying
on the Cross.

Vonier goes on to note: “Sacraments are truly an energy that
comes from Christ in person, a radiation from the charity of the
Cross, a stream of grace from the pierced side of Christ” (pp. 28-29).

No wonder the Eucharist is so powerful.

Now, you may have some practical obstacles in your life that
prevent you from attending daily Mass. But can you perhaps
make an effort to get up an hour early, and get to daily Mass for
a month, and see what happens? Perhaps not every day. You
can only do what you can do.

I really believe that frequent, ideally daily, Communion is the best
of all remedies for an addiction to masturbation.
 
Brothers, it is with great, disappoint that I report to you, that as a your brother in this battle i fell yesterday and even today. Even as i type this to all of you my soul is in mortal sin. I was ‘sober’ for about 10 months, until a couple of days ago just something very small sparked my arousal. I have been a daily communicant for a while and prayed the rosary daily, even was in the middle of a couple of novenas, then my world came crashing down…I gave into temptaion, I felt like I had been winded so tight sexually…meaning, not experienced erotic fantasies or masturbation, or pornography for so long, the devil told me I was due…sadly I listend to him, not caring for the consequences only until after i commited the act…I felt suh sorrow and so ashamed.
Then today about an hour ago I engaged in pornography, masturbation, fantasies, the works…This sin is HELL,epecially crafted by Satan for us men…and i have become ensnared. As with all the times this has happened i always had the feeling in the back of my head “oh well, i’m screwed anyway, why not” or “I could just go to confession tomorrow” I absolutley hate tjhose thoughts. Has anyone else here experienced this dilemma? And then i feel as if i am using the sacrament if i go. I get the feeling that, I should be sorry, and i want to be sorry, but i don’t “feel” as though I am deeply sorrowful…and i want to be sorrowful for this sin, and i want to have perfect contrition

It was definately premeditated and willed on my part, unfortunately. Now i want forgivness. I hate this sin so badly.
Brothers…Help me.

I have now, a mind to relate with St Paul

anyone relate to this? I sure hope so
10 months is really good. My record is only 6 weeks and it was Lent. During my second longest streak, I would have been able to go even longer if a priest in confession did not tell me it was not a sin and that I should have been going to communion. Ever since then I just don’t care much about the sin as much but I do think it is wrong. Oh, and I know what the teachings are but no matter how hard I try, I can’t erase that confession from my mind and it provides enough doubt to the sinfullness of the act so I can rationalize it now.
 
Brothers, it is with great, disappoint that I report to you, that as a your brother in this battle i fell yesterday and even today. Even as i type this to all of you my soul is in mortal sin. I was ‘sober’ for about 10 months, until a couple of days ago just something very small sparked my arousal. I have been a daily communicant for a while and prayed the rosary daily, even was in the middle of a couple of novenas, then my world came crashing down…I gave into temptaion, I felt like I had been winded so tight sexually…meaning, not experienced erotic fantasies or masturbation, or pornography for so long, the devil told me I was due…sadly I listend to him, not caring for the consequences only until after i commited the act…I felt suh sorrow and so ashamed.
Then today about an hour ago I engaged in pornography, masturbation, fantasies, the works…This sin is HELL,epecially crafted by Satan for us men…and i have become ensnared. As with all the times this has happened i always had the feeling in the back of my head “oh well, i’m screwed anyway, why not” or “I could just go to confession tomorrow” I absolutley hate tjhose thoughts. Has anyone else here experienced this dilemma? And then i feel as if i am using the sacrament if i go. I get the feeling that, I should be sorry, and i want to be sorry, but i don’t “feel” as though I am deeply sorrowful…and i want to be sorrowful for this sin, and i want to have perfect contrition
It was definately premeditated and willed on my part, unfortunately. Now i want forgivness. I hate this sin so badly.
Brothers…Help me.
I can relate to this completely. Earlier this year I was beginning to do well in this fight (not 10 months though but it was avery good start by my previous standards) and then threw it all away, which has had a devastating effect on me. Plus like you I feel have misused the Sacrament of Penance. I have also committed sacrelige against the Eucharist and now I am in a terrible state. I know exactly how you feel about wanting to repent so much but feeling unable. It’s shocking the way sin gets it’s hooks into you: first some common sin, in our case lust, and then you end up commiting sacrelige and feeling utterly cut off from God’s grace even though you want to be open to it.

I am stuggling not to give into despair about this. I must keep reminding myself that it is through the utter despair and hopelessness of the Cross that the ultimate joy, hope and victory came. I suppose today as the Feast of the Triumph of the Cross is an especially good day to think about that. You are in my prayers.
 
REJOICE!! Brothers, this one has come back, I have recieved the Sacrament of Healing, (confession). I am now restored with Our Lord and Our Lady…Brothers…I am in no way trying to be prideful, because i Have truly been humbled, through confession, however it was absolutely worth it. Thank you to those who prayed and helped me through your responses. I think the key is now to is to humble myself and to realize that I WILL be tempted. I always said after confession that I will never commit this sin again, and the reality is that the intention is good, it is…but truly you will be tempted, and you have to take it day by day. Don’t take this attitude that, “Now that I am restored, i can take everything” BE HUMBLE YOU WILL BE TEMPTED. Make a goal for the day to be pure, ask Mary, and Our Lord, and then reach that goal…remember day by day. THANK GOD FOR CONFESSION…PRAISE GOD!!!
 
You’re not alone there brother. I feel this way too. I admit I fall as well. I’m in a struggle right now myself against lust. I live with this burden of sin and I am afraid and paranoid as well. I’m always asking myself “What if something was to happen to me before Confession?” Not so long ago I went into the Church, there was a man cleaning the floors(Priest). He said “Are you here for Confession?” I was like “No! Just looking” He told me “You look troubled” I replied “I’m good” and darted out of there. 29 years old and ashamed. Heh!

I have yet to make a TRUE confession as I stated in a thread the other day. It is a struggle. I will pray for you and I ask you pray for me so that we can defeat these impulses and fears.

God Bless.
I like your tag, how did you do that…sola scriptura…lol
 
Just following up on my post # 22…

Daily Communion acts like penicillin for the soul and mind in breaking the masturbation habit, and preventing its recurrence.

Obviously, as a practical matter, not everyone will be able to manage this. Nor, from a spiritual perspective, can you go to Communion if you have fallen and are in a state of mortal sin.

It is not magic or automatic, but I am telling everyone who has posted to this thread, daily or at least frequent Communion is the way to go, if you can possibly manage it.

It is the most powerful medicine of all for this problem.

Peace,

T
 
I think the key is now to is to humble myself and to realize that I WILL be tempted.
That’s absolutely right. Satan knows our weakness. He will keep attacking in the same spot until we have been able to resist it entirely. And yes, temptations will come – even though you think it’s not going to happen ever. You could be doing just fine (as it often happens) in a great mood, not thinking about sin at all – than WHAM! Out of nowhere – your ship is hit with a mighty storm. Fierce winds of lust and it seems like all is lost.

But that’s what makes the man – right there! Don’t give in – use all the tools you’ve built up. Prayer, numerous thoughts about the uglyness of this sin, the consequences, your pledges of purity for God – many things that you stored in your mind.

And suddenly, the huge storm is gone. You get your wits about you again. You think “why would I ever want to do that?” You get disgusted and you can go forward in strength.

Even for me, I’ve been through so much of that (as many of us guys have) – even being successful with that kind of temptation I feel soiled. Satan still was able to shake me and grab my attention. Once again, the holy confessional is my favorite place. I will confess even the temptations and whatever way I gave into them.
Make a goal for the day to be pure, ask Mary, and Our Lord, and then reach that goal…remember day by day. THANK GOD FOR CONFESSION…PRAISE GOD!!!
That is great to hear that. It’s a battle of a lifetime. But victory does come and those constant fights make us stronger men – and we can appreciate every bit of grace that God gives us.
 
I to have been fighting this addiction for many years. I now pray the rosary daily and no longer have a problem with this. Try it. Beg Mary to assist you. She will help. A Mothers love for you will go along way with Jesus giving you the grace you need to overcome.
 
Habitual sins of impurity are very tough to kick. I don’t want to discourage anyone, but don’t be surprised if this is something you’ll have to contend with for the rest of your life.
I am not contradicting you, but I can offer a ray of hope. When I finally realized “God does not want me to do this. I have to stop.” I was able to turn off a 30-year habit like turning off a switch. And I haven’t stumbled once in years (in this matter – plenty of stumbling elsewhere in my life!). That is how powerful God’s grace can be.
 
You would probably be better off going to the same priest regularly for the Sacrament of Penance. Also, ask the priest for help if you have a habitual sin, whether it be a sin involving lust, greed, anger, etc. The priest will be able to give you suggestions to help you overcome your sin, and he will also pray for you. God bless you. You will overcome this. God does not let you be subjected to any temptation that you do not have the grace to overcome. I will be praying for you. :gopray2: :bible1:
 
This sin is probably the toughest thing that I’ve ever had to face in my entire life. I would put this addiction right up there with smoking, alcohol, and other drugs. Unfortunately it is a very acceptable addiction in this society many people refuse to acknowledge it as one. I myself refused to admit that I had a sexual addiction for over 4 years. What I found so crippling about this sin is that “material” is so easy to get and no support group really exists for it.

I actually went through a 60 day online course to help me quit, and even though it was a Protestant site it was something that really helped me quit. I was so desperate that I was willing to do anything to quit, and this course helped me focus my life on God and doing His will. If anybody wishes to try it, feel free to PM me and I’ll point you in the right direction. After taking this course, with the help of God I was free for almost 1 year and 6 months! Unfortunately, I fell but since then God has pulled me back up and I’ve been free from this sin for almost 2 months now. The reason that I fell was because I let my guard down and allowed myself to be in a situation in which the temptation was so much greater than I had ever experienced and unable to control myself gave in. My experience has been that you must flee from any temptation and any situation which will cause you to fall. I’ve really learned from this last experience and with the help of God will not let my guard down next time.

With that said, here is my advice, which is what God Himself says to do! Cut off all sources of temptation! When Christ says cut off your eye or your hand if it causes you to sin, this is what He’s talking about! If you have an addiction to magazines or videos or whatever it is, cutoff access immediately. Throw those things away. If the internet is your problem, get an internet filter program. I bought one and it is something that I would never give up. Safe Eyes is excellent for this because it allows you to put in email addresses of others and sends them alerts when you’ve tried to access adult sites. The thought of being confronted scared me so much that I never attempted to! I’ve gotten to the point where I am actually able to function on a computer without needing to have a filter, but for a long time I could not use the internet without lustful thoughts creeping into my mind. Immediately find an accountability partner who is willing to help you quit this. I would recommend your confessor, and so for Latin Catholics that means confessing face to face with a priest and asking him to help you in this way. Another recommendation is to find people to be around whenever temptation arises. I have found that you are MUCH less likely to give in to temptation if you are around people. I went through this course before being baptized and so I wasn’t able to go to confession, but instead had a very close friend that was willing to be my accountability partner.

Everybody here who is struggling with this sin will be in my prayers, and I ask that you keep me in your prayers as well. This is a life long battle with Satan that never ends, but with God’s grace we can win.

Alex
 
:gopray2: :blessyou: :bible1: ❤️ An accountablility partner is an excellent suggestion for anybody who is dealing with any type of habitual sin. Everybody, male or female, has a particular sin that is his or her thorn in the flesh. Having a man or woman who is a good Christian and has overcome that particular sin is a great blessing. I also recommend confessing to the same priest regularly, and asking the priest for his advice and prayer. God does not allow anyone to have a temptation that He does not provide enough grace to overcome. Through help from fellow Christians and through God’s grace in the Sacraments of Penance and Holy Communion, we will be able to overcome even the worst of our temptations. If we resist the devil, he will flee from us. You are in my prayers! :gopray2: :bible1: ❤️
 
tenfootpole, I would also suggest that you pray to St. Joseph and ask him to intercede for you. Since he was a normal man who had to deal with temptations and was married to the Virgin Mary, he would be able to help you with this type of thing. Also, St. Paul was a single man, so he would be able to help you with his intercession as well.
 
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