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Is masturbation wrong if I don’t fantasize while doing it? Just as a release? I have so much sexual tension in me right now and I think I might just explode…no literally it feels physically stressful…
 
Ok, bud. I’m an 18 year old male. I’m no stranger to sexual tension and a STRONG desire to succumb. Hang in there and offer it up. Nothing worth it was ever easy.

Make the Sign of the Cross and pray the Hail Mary.

Praying for you.
 
Read Arms of Love, and Surrender, by Carmen Marcoux. Very Catholic and excellent novels.
 
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Is masturbation wrong if I don’t fantasize while doing it? Just as a release? I have so much sexual tension in me right now and I think I might just explode…no literally it feels physically stressful…
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Go do something else immediately - preferably exercise. Go for a good long walk or run or something. It’s most likely physical tension in general, not especially sexual tension.

If you can’t, then just stop and pray a few Hail Marys or a Rosary for the intention of purity of mind and body. And offer the temptation to Jesus, who was tempted in every way as we are, including this one, I’m sure, but didn’t sin.
 
The Catechism of the Catholic Church the act itself is evil, not just the lust that is involved.

[2352](javascript:openWindow(‘cr/2352.htm’)😉 By *masturbation *is to be understood the deliberate stimulation of the genital organs in order to derive sexual pleasure. "Both the Magisterium of the Church, in the course of a constant tradition, and the moral sense of the faithful have been in no doubt and have firmly maintained that masturbation is an intrinsically and gravely disordered action."138 "The deliberate use of the sexual faculty, for whatever reason, outside of marriage is essentially contrary to its purpose." For here sexual pleasure is sought outside of "the sexual relationship which is demanded by the moral order and in which the total meaning of mutual self-giving and human procreation in the context of true love is achieved."139
 
It really doesn’t matter what one thinks about in terms of mediating the morality of the act.

BTW there’s one guaranteed way to overcome such urges…an ice-cold shower. 😃
 
I recommend a form of aversion therapy that is often prescribed to sexual offenders. Wear a rubber band around your wrist and snap it whenever you experience sexual arousal. In time, you will learn to associate pain with such arousal and the urge to masturbate will diminish.
 
The devil wants you to release your ‘tension’, he wants you to have your little bit of pleasure. Not because he loves you and wants you to enjoy yourself, but wants to send you to hell. Do not give in.

After you do it, you will feel awful about it. Don’t give yourself that guilt, trust me.

Remember Christ crucified, why should you cause Him more pain, just so you can release some tension.

God bless
 
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I recommend a form of aversion therapy that is often prescribed to sexual offenders. Wear a rubber band around your wrist and snap it whenever you experience sexual arousal. In time, you will learn to associate pain with such arousal and the urge to masturbate will diminish.
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Other body parts can be used too…like…one’s ankle. 😉
 
Other_Eric said:
I recommend a form of aversion therapy that is often prescribed to sexual offenders. Wear a rubber band around your wrist and snap it whenever you experience sexual arousal. In time, you will learn to associate pain with such arousal and the urge to masturbate will diminish.
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Eghads, let’s scar someone for life…sexual arousal is NOT the problem. When you’re married you want sexual arousal to be associated with pain?

Take a walk, take a cold shower, study algebra…but don’t hurt yourself.
 
I never considered studying algebra…but that’s about as exciting as a cold shower.:rotfl:
 
I’m so confused about the issue (which I think is what the devil wants). I was told by my parents that it’s okay every once in a while but you just can’t sit around doing it all day. But now I hear stuff about how it’s selfish and you’re just taking all the pleasure of the sexual act for yourself. Both sides make sense. I don’t want to think of my parents as bad people because they told me that because I know they aren’t, but I’m just…confused lol.🙂 🤷
 
scapularkid8 said:
I’m so confused about the issue (which I think is what the devil wants). I was told by my parents that it’s okay every once in a while but you just can’t sit around doing it all day. But now I hear stuff about how it’s selfish and you’re just taking all the pleasure of the sexual act for yourself. Both sides make sense. I don’t want to think of my parents as bad people because they told me that because I know they aren’t, but I’m just…confused lol.🙂 🤷
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Trust the Catholic teaching on this. Do not give in to it. The devil is constantly at us, getting us to justify our actions to make them seem less sinful. Do not let him win.
 
Nothing easy was ever worth it. 😃

Does anyone know of any Catholic websites specifically for younger men dealing with these types of things?
 
Okay even though I don’t masturbate I still feel sinful for wanting to. How do I deal with that? Maybe that’s my issue. Maybe I’m not truly understanding the depth of my sexuality and the feelings it gives rise to and that’s why I feel sinful just wanting to. After a couple days of research and finding what the Church says about it, I’m re-committing to not do it and stay “sober” as I have done for about four years now, but I still don’t know what to do with the temptation and how to handle it in a way that involves God.

The main argument that gets me and makes me not want to do it is that the pure and basicall holy beauty of human sexuality is not something to be kept to yourself. It is meant for a Christian man to share that with a woman and, in the Image of God, make life out of their love for each other. I want to be able to keep that joy and give it only to the woman I’m meant to give it to, or, keep it and understand it better if I’m called to a religious vocation.

God is Good and I know He will help me. Christ in the Garden of Gethsemane I’m sure wasn’t too far from how I’m feeling right now.

Psalms 51,23,139,150
 
scapularkid8 said:
Okay even though I don’t masturbate I still feel sinful for wanting to. How do I deal with that? Maybe that’s my issue. Maybe I’m not truly understanding the depth of my sexuality and the feelings it gives rise to and that’s why I feel sinful just wanting to. After a couple days of research and finding what the Church says about it, I’m re-committing to not do it and stay “sober” as I have done for about four years now, but I still don’t know what to do with the temptation and how to handle it in a way that involves God.

The main argument that gets me and makes me not want to do it is that the pure and basicall holy beauty of human sexuality is not something to be kept to yourself. It is meant for a Christian man to share that with a woman and, in the Image of God, make life out of their love for each other. I want to be able to keep that joy and give it only to the woman I’m meant to give it to, or, keep it and understand it better if I’m called to a religious vocation.

God is Good and I know He will help me. Christ in the Garden of Gethsemane I’m sure wasn’t too far from how I’m feeling right now.

Psalms 51,23,139,150
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Good for you for fighting to be pure! It is very hard in today’s relativistic culture.

Being tempted is not a sin. Giving in is. As long as you fight your temptations, you have not sinned. If you give in and sin, get yourself to Confession ASAP and resume the good fight.

God Bless and Good Luck!
 
pray the Rosary for Our Blessed Mother’s protection. You will get through it, many have.
 
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