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It does become disgusting to see religious and clergy have contempt for each other, jealousy and envy for each other and treat each other so poorly. We are not required to " Like " each other, but we are taught to love each other. Interesting that priest went to another whom he wasnt fond of, but still found the confession to be a great experience.
People leave communities all the time because of the poor treatment upon one another. The sad thing is most of the time these communities do not even see how poorly they treat each other because they have become accustomed to everything. An it takes an outside voice to point it out. Everyone just assumes that all religious communities are this super happy and holy place where everything is just gee willikers great non stop. People don’t realize how communities get old, and rely on new recruits to come in, an then they get treated as cheap labor to do the heavy lifting they once did or just no longer want to do. That alone can break new members right there. Not to mention it takes a very long time to gain enough standing with in a community to actually be heard and taken seriously in ones opinion . Let alone care about ones opinion. 9 times out of 10 they expect new members to just be quiet, smile, look pretty, and do what they are told. An that is it. An like anyone they do care, but like again like anyone, they really do not want to be bothered with questions, or concerns as they have their own issues to attend to. So if you can’t figure it out on your own, then you are seen as pestering or becoming a bother.
But most of the time bad behavior it is rationalized away as an excuse of merely needing to learn to be humble. The human side of a religious life doesn’t go away or become perfect. If anything it is the opposite , it gets a lot uglier before it improves any. An if one isn’t ready to be put through the ringer upon entering into a religious life be it a community or priesthood , they will be in for a rude awakening. It isn’t as if it is a policy by any means to put candidates through a ringer so to speak, but it seems to just happen naturally because of this mindset of, well it is what i went through so now i am going to do it to you. Instead of I am not going to treat others how I was treated, I am going to do better. People tend to lose all common sense at some point it seems and it takes a while to gain it back. But by the time it is gained back, usually the damage is already done.
People leave communities all the time because of the poor treatment upon one another. The sad thing is most of the time these communities do not even see how poorly they treat each other because they have become accustomed to everything. An it takes an outside voice to point it out. Everyone just assumes that all religious communities are this super happy and holy place where everything is just gee willikers great non stop. People don’t realize how communities get old, and rely on new recruits to come in, an then they get treated as cheap labor to do the heavy lifting they once did or just no longer want to do. That alone can break new members right there. Not to mention it takes a very long time to gain enough standing with in a community to actually be heard and taken seriously in ones opinion . Let alone care about ones opinion. 9 times out of 10 they expect new members to just be quiet, smile, look pretty, and do what they are told. An that is it. An like anyone they do care, but like again like anyone, they really do not want to be bothered with questions, or concerns as they have their own issues to attend to. So if you can’t figure it out on your own, then you are seen as pestering or becoming a bother.
But most of the time bad behavior it is rationalized away as an excuse of merely needing to learn to be humble. The human side of a religious life doesn’t go away or become perfect. If anything it is the opposite , it gets a lot uglier before it improves any. An if one isn’t ready to be put through the ringer upon entering into a religious life be it a community or priesthood , they will be in for a rude awakening. It isn’t as if it is a policy by any means to put candidates through a ringer so to speak, but it seems to just happen naturally because of this mindset of, well it is what i went through so now i am going to do it to you. Instead of I am not going to treat others how I was treated, I am going to do better. People tend to lose all common sense at some point it seems and it takes a while to gain it back. But by the time it is gained back, usually the damage is already done.
