Men Hard-Wired to Ignore Their Wives

[Della]

New study finds that men can’t help ignoring their wives: Study: Men Hard-Wired to Ignore Their Wives.

What do you think?

 

[Lil_M]

This reminds me of a funny story- awhile back my brother was in the hospital and the doctor happened to check his ears or something. They asked him if his wife ever complained that he didn’t listen to her. Of course I think every wife has this problem so he said yes. I guess he has a legitimate excuse though- he has some hearing loss!

 

[deb1]

Subjects performed better when exposed to the name of the person who wanted them to have fun than when exposed to the controlling individual’s name.

How does the study come to the conclusion that most men automatically sees their wives as being controlling? I feel like my hubby listens to me most of the time. He does have some hearing damage from working close to a flight line, but he never ignores me. If anything he sometimes accuses me of ignoring him!

 

[Reepicheep]

I would echo Deb1’s question.

The study may establish a tendency to resist the perceived wants of a controlling person, but I see no reason to apply that especially to married couples.

Even if it did apply, are there no controlling husbands?

 

[puzzleannie]

New study finds that men can’t help ignoring their wives: Study: Men Hard-Wired to Ignore Their Wives.

What do you think?

uh the title of this forum is secular news
this is hardly news
these researchers must be hard up for study topics
surely they must realize every baker in the country puts something in the frosting on the wedding cake that renders men:
prone to ignore their wives
magnetically attracted to the remote
unable to discard a worn out favorite T-shirt
unable to dance after the wedding
completely brain dead when it comes to thinking up good birthday and valentine gift ideas

 

[Della]

I think both men and women have a tendency to resist those they see as in control of their lives/part of their lives. I certainly felt like resisting my bosses–hated working in the business world.

Also, in general, I think men have a resistance to being “bossed” by a woman, a reminder of when they were little boys and had to obey their mothers? But, women, in general, tend to like to be told what to do by men. Because they were always trying to get their fathers’ approval?

I think it a complex issue, but I also think that anyone can “resist” their inner resistance and be cooperative and helpful if they know they have this tendency and wish to change.

 

[steveandersen]

Subjects performed better when exposed to the name of the person who wanted them to have fun than when exposed to the controlling individual’s name.

How does the study come to the conclusion that most men automatically sees their wives as being controlling?

Apparently you’ve never been a married man

Actually it doesn’t say most men see their wives as controlling.

It just says that some people (and it doesn’t mention whether the subjects were men or woman or both) subconsciously do the opposite of what people they perceive as controlling want them to do.

It is interesting that Chartrand automatically assumes that her husband not doing what she wants is a failure on his part that needs to be corrected.

I feel like my hubby listens to me most of the time. He does have some hearing damage from working close to a flight line, but he never ignores me. If anything he sometimes accuses me of ignoring him!

My fiancée has a lot of hearing loss in one ear. Sometimes I wonder if she really can’t hear me…

 

[Lance]

I have tinnitus, a ringing in the ears, caused by exposure to loud noises such as gun fire, when I was in the military, and the roar of jet and rocket engines, when I worked for Pratt & Whitney Aircraft in their test area. I would bet that many men have it from working in factories, being in the military or even just listening to loud music. It took years before I realized that I did not hear about 10% of what was being said by people. My wife is constantly telling people, “He is not being rude, he did not hear you.” Thank God she was the one who realized what the problem was and that I was not just ignoring her. I think a lot of men just don’t hear their wives, it’s not that they ignore them. Guys tend to speak louder than women so we don’t seem to have as much of a problem hearing men.

 

[deb1]

Apparently you’ve never been a married man

Actually it doesn’t say most men see their wives as controlling.

Actually, this October wil be my 19th wedding anniversary to a wonderful man who is currently serving his country in Afghanistan. I think that he is pretty manly.

It just says that some people (and it doesn’t mention whether the subjects were men or woman or both) subconsciously do the opposite of what people they perceive as controlling want them to do.

But how does this jump to married relations? I don’t tell my hubby what to do, although I will ask. If he doesn’t want to do something, he doesn’t ignore me but tells be, no. But I was never attracted to wishy washy men who obey their wives. I LIKE that he isn’t a pushover.

Now I admit that my hubby has a different definition of clean then I do. But I don’t translate this as ignoring me, just his not caring about dusting the coffee tables.

 

[Lance]

Actually, this October wil be my 19th wedding anniversary to a wonderful man who is currently serving his country in Afghanistan. I think that he is pretty manly.

On a very serious note have him get his hearing checked when he gets home, especially if he is in a combat unit. Give him my thanks for serving our country. Thanks to you also, it is almost as hard to be the one left behind. Sometimes it can be even tougher if you have small kids.

 

[steveandersen]

Actually, this October wil be my 19th wedding anniversary to a wonderful man who is currently serving his country in Afghanistan. I think that he is pretty manly.

I didn’t say that you were never married to a man
I just said that you were never a married man yourself.

But how does this jump to married relations? I don’t tell my hubby what to do, although I will ask. If he doesn’t want to do something, he doesn’t ignore me but tells be, no. But I was never attracted to wishy washy men who obey their wives. I LIKE that he isn’t a pushover.

Now I admit that my hubby has a different definition of clean then I do. But I don’t translate this as ignoring me, just his not caring about dusting the coffee tables.

Yup the old dilemma of “you can tell me what to do or how to do it, not both”

I’m bracing myself for the new wife to move in. I’m much more fastidious about the kitchen and shed while she is nuts about the laundry and the living room. I think our complementing each others weakness is one of the attractions.