Tis_Bearself
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I’m also willing to bet that if the woman wasn’t merely debt free but also was a millionaire, all of a sudden a bunch of men wouldn’t care so much about the virginity, the tattoos or even her looks.
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gracepoole
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I know I’m not supposed to say or think this as a Catholic…but I’m quite content that my husband wasn’t a virgin when we married.
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Sarcelle
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In one US state, Hawaii, it is quite common for grown children to live with the parents. This is probably due to irs sizable population of Asian and Pacific Islander descent.
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Sarcelle
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A more realistic title would be
Men prefer beautiful women
Nuff said.
Men prefer beautiful women
Nuff said.
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Cruciferi
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Everyone, I have an announcement!
Unfortunately, I Found out today that not many women will want me…
I was denied getting a credit card because of “Lack of Credit Experience”
Unfortunately, I Found out today that not many women will want me…
I was denied getting a credit card because of “Lack of Credit Experience”
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JanSobieskiIII
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Probably more due to the insane housing prices
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Sarcelle
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Not necessarily.
The culture there is quite different than that of the Mainland.
I lived in Hawaii for most of my life. Insane housing prices may play a part but culture does play an even bigger part. Most of the locals I know would often express horror at the thought of kids being pressured to leave home at age 18.
The culture there is quite different than that of the Mainland.
I lived in Hawaii for most of my life. Insane housing prices may play a part but culture does play an even bigger part. Most of the locals I know would often express horror at the thought of kids being pressured to leave home at age 18.
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PetraG
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This quote stands out:
“Your posts sound crazy to anyone who does not believe the Bible is true. Most girls have not read the Bible with their father (Ephesians 6:4) or husband to explain it to them (1 Corinthians 14:35). That part is important. Instead of learning it from their parents, they seek out books or movies on how to interpret the Bible which leads them down the wrong path.”
Um, the faithful of the Catholic Church have the Magisterium to explain divine Scriptures to them. Anyone who wants a spouse who thinks he or she is a bigger authority on morality or the meaning of the Scriptures than the Church, raise your hand?
She is not saying that people ought to stick with the professional education they can afford with the demands of a typical family life kept in mind. She is saying that women shouldn’t go to college–as if this will somehow guarantee that a married woman won’t have to get a job!! That is just false. It is shallow and shortsighted advice, both financially and spiritually. If anything, men who have professional degrees would like to have wives who can be of help in educating their children to have the opportunity to pursue professional degrees, too. More to the point, however: a woman with a professional degree can help the family make money in fewer hours per week than a woman who only has a high school degree.
Don’t even get started on the weird reasoning that makes tattoos some kind of an advertisement of a life of promiscuity. There aren’t any men who think that women who don’t have tattoos must be virgins or that no woman without sexual experience would ever get one–are there?? I think getting a tattoo is usually silly and ugly, but her reasoning is just absurd.
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“Your posts sound crazy to anyone who does not believe the Bible is true. Most girls have not read the Bible with their father (Ephesians 6:4) or husband to explain it to them (1 Corinthians 14:35). That part is important. Instead of learning it from their parents, they seek out books or movies on how to interpret the Bible which leads them down the wrong path.”
Um, the faithful of the Catholic Church have the Magisterium to explain divine Scriptures to them. Anyone who wants a spouse who thinks he or she is a bigger authority on morality or the meaning of the Scriptures than the Church, raise your hand?
She is not saying that people ought to stick with the professional education they can afford with the demands of a typical family life kept in mind. She is saying that women shouldn’t go to college–as if this will somehow guarantee that a married woman won’t have to get a job!! That is just false. It is shallow and shortsighted advice, both financially and spiritually. If anything, men who have professional degrees would like to have wives who can be of help in educating their children to have the opportunity to pursue professional degrees, too. More to the point, however: a woman with a professional degree can help the family make money in fewer hours per week than a woman who only has a high school degree.
Don’t even get started on the weird reasoning that makes tattoos some kind of an advertisement of a life of promiscuity. There aren’t any men who think that women who don’t have tattoos must be virgins or that no woman without sexual experience would ever get one–are there?? I think getting a tattoo is usually silly and ugly, but her reasoning is just absurd.
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I would argue that the information that they are being trained to teach English is essential to the main point of the sentence. That would explain why I think the sentence is harmed by setting off the appositive with commas.
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Zzyzx_Road
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I had to laugh, you are very, very on target. Touché. You are like most women I’ve met, especially when it comes to the bolded.
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Xantippe
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The percentage of US young adults living with parents is waaaay up.
But the same economic forces that lead to young adults living with parents is also delaying marriage.
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Xantippe
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Bear in mind that Tis_Bearself is a widow and was married to a well-loved husband for many years.
Whatever she did, it worked pretty well for her.
Edited to add: ZR, don’t you think that the vast majority of women you meet "were somewhere between “unattractive” and “not marriage material”?
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anon64350612
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From the article: It’s pretty slick to be married to a man who has never listened to Vanilla Ice or the Beastie Boys on purpose, or watched Pulp Fiction or Sixteen Candles. It’s a blessing to have a husband who has never smoked a cigarette, who saved his first kiss for his wife, and has prayed the Rosary almost every single day of his life. My children’s father has much of the Baltimore Catechism memorized, knows how to build a mansion from scratch, can grow almost anything in the garden, and can run a large buffalo farm.
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Zzyzx_Road
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As I have stated above, I prefer less to no debt and less to no tattoos and Catholic. However, I’m an introvert who is not that tall or that good looking and I work in a blue collar job so just finding women who will actually consider me is an uphill climb, hence my filters are much more generous than most women I know.
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Xantippe
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But do you actually consider these women attractive or marriage material?
To be fair, it is reasonable to filter pretty darn hard for marriage, as you’re probably only going to do it once. Tis Bearself said that she’s only known 2-3 men she would have been interested in marrying, and I think that’s quite a lot, considering everything involved. I did have a couple of teen crushes, but my husband is the only person I seriously considered and looking back, I can’t see anybody else who would be a good match for me.
Normal people don’t have unlimited good options–which is why it’s important not to insist on unnecessary qualifications. We all have seen single people online (including on CAF) who have crazy detailed lists.
As I always say, dating isn’t Build a Bear.
To be fair, it is reasonable to filter pretty darn hard for marriage, as you’re probably only going to do it once. Tis Bearself said that she’s only known 2-3 men she would have been interested in marrying, and I think that’s quite a lot, considering everything involved. I did have a couple of teen crushes, but my husband is the only person I seriously considered and looking back, I can’t see anybody else who would be a good match for me.
Normal people don’t have unlimited good options–which is why it’s important not to insist on unnecessary qualifications. We all have seen single people online (including on CAF) who have crazy detailed lists.
As I always say, dating isn’t Build a Bear.
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Zzyzx_Road
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Most women are attractive enough to me and most men if I was just to consider the physical side and the surface personality. Considerably greater than men who are attractive to women. But someone who likes me and is marriage material is a much rarer story and the family court environment does not help my risk assessment as I am not in that demographic you once cited that has the lowest divorce rate. So I must look to outward indicators that will hopefully reduce the odds of divorce. Hopefully.
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Entwhistler
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Wow. Your husband was quite the catch.
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Xantippe
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I think lots of guys are physically attractive (especially once they get out of the skinny, pimply years).
Not being physically repulsiveness is not a hard bar to clear for men between 25 and 50.
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anon64350612
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I can’t claim that is my husband. That was a quote from the linked article.
My husband is amazing in his own right. Firefighter for a big city.
My husband is amazing in his own right. Firefighter for a big city.
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