To make use of the sexual faculty for only the unitive end, while deliberately frustrating the procreative end, is to abuse the sexual faculty, and by logical extension is to abuse one’s spouse. Both men and women are capable of it. Love does not lead the beloved to sin.
I can tell you truly mean well and both of you don’t feel in your heart it is an offense to God.
I have quite the attitude? I used YOUR logic. That’s all. I didn’t say you should be put in jail.
I think I actually agree with what you’re saying, just not the use of the term abuse, because I think you’re equivocating.
Hello and congratulations on your family and your newest little one. I am the mother of eight and have been in your wife’s situation caring for several young children. Believe me when I say it does not last forever! It only seems like that sometimes when sleep deprivation and the demands of parenting pile up ontop of all the other duties of life. Your newest child is only a few weeks old, so I doubt that your wife is getting much sleep now and her body is still recovering from her last pregnancy.
I am deliberately equivocating. When the (something) in definition #1 is a (someone), much less your own spouse, then I believe you are crossing the line into #2. We are talking about a gravely sinful act here.
So true!!!
I *promise *you that it does get easier as your children grow older. People told me this when I had three children under three. I laughed in their face and then went home and cried because I couldn’t see how it was possible that it would get easier. I promise (again) that it does. I will pray for your perseverance and peace. 
Try the Ovacue fertility monitor. It is very accurate for predicting ovulation which is the basis for NFP. It looks for hormones specifically and its it right 99.4% of the time. It is a no brainer really.
Exactly! Its just silly to say a man is abusing his wife when they use contraception as if women are not interested in sex too! In many marriages the woman is the one with more interest!
Completely irrelevant, as has been covered already in this thread.
shrugs Ok fine but you could have just ignore my post then. Anyway good luck to the OP this will be my last post here.
Actually, it’s completely relevant. If the woman is the one that WANTS the sex (without the risk of pregnancy), you can’t then turn it around and claim that the man is abusing her by giving her what she wants.
Sure you can. Near occasion of sin, not looking out for her soul, not being spiritual head of the household and sacrificing oneself to get his wife to heaven. And then the act itself is
“The man said, ‘The woman whom You gave to be with me, she gave me from the tree, and I ate.’”
Considering you’ve gotten pregnant one right after the other, it sounds like you’ve lost confidence in NFP. As challenging as NFP can be post partem, I would say this is serious cause to practice NFP strictly. I think a big error we make is that we teach women to understand their cycles only just before they get married. They often see little reason to avoid or have little reason to avoid, and suddenly when they finally have a need for NFP, its like they’ve jumped into advanced NFP before they really mastered the basics or found the method that suits them the best.
In much of Catholic culture “women don’t like sex, are angelic, always the pure ones, and always woefully abused by the all powerful but evil male.” Woe unto woman!
There need not be any demons if the Church’s moral teaching is followed. Whichever spouse actively contracepts commits evil, whether it be the man denying his seed to his wife, or the woman denying her egg to her husband.